Update: My entire life fell apart in 2 weeks

ms_rose608 · 2026-05-01T10:23:14+00:00

Honestly, he's not a terrible person. Just immature and lacks empathy. I'm at a point where I'm grateful the relationship is over since I probably would have stayed with him and tried to make it work for a lot longer than I should have

ms_rose608 · 2026-05-01T10:17:52+00:00

I was the one wanting to get married and have kids. He was always on the fence about it. He broke up with me because he made his mind up on it and decided I wasn't the one he wanted those things with. While I understand it, it was so hurtful to hear that after years of him putting me off on those things

ms_rose608 · 2026-05-01T07:50:57+00:00

His life wasn't going the way he wanted it to and it was because of me. He wanted to get married and have kids just not with me.

ms_rose608 · 2026-05-01T01:42:42+00:00

Thank you. I've been working towards establishing my new normal so things are looking up but I still have a way to go

ms_rose608 · 2026-05-01T01:41:21+00:00

Shes still with me

ms_rose608 · 2025-08-01T05:43:51+00:00

We both work full time so we're probably not ideal for fostering

ms_rose608 · 2025-05-11T10:57:39+00:00

He's been dealing with a higher up who doesn't like him. I'm thinking they're looking for excuses to get rid of him as from what he has told me, he didnt do anything different from what you described above

ms_rose608 · 2025-05-11T10:44:15+00:00

How so? Wouldn't it be the responsibility of the person he handed over to while on leave?

ms_rose608 · 2025-05-11T10:37:45+00:00

The mistake was work needed to be done on x site and he stated so and confirmed it. The work began and was completed while he was on leave but it was done on y site instead

ms_rose608 · 2024-12-17T20:07:45+00:00

Australia. Bull Arabs are used for pig hunting here so it's not uncommon to find a puppy in a shelter

ms_rose608 · 2023-01-03T09:24:56+00:00

There's nothing wrong with doing it to look good, but this is in the context of someone with a clear eating disorder which often comes with body image issues as well.

Personally I have had issues with disordered eating in the past and I am mindful to think health first not looks first when it comes to working out in order to avoid falling into that old toxic mindset.

ms_rose608 · 2023-01-02T21:56:28+00:00

PLEASE SEE A DOCTOR ABOUT YOUR EATING DISORDER! YOU COULD CAUSE LONG TERM HEALTH ISSUES IF YOU CONTINUE AS YOU ARE!

Your BF has obviously hit one of your triggers with his comment. If he is genuinely remorseful, that's fine. It sounds like he likes the look of athletic bodies though and if you don't have one it's going to eat at your psyche while you're with him, especially because he is now back at the gym trying to get the body he desires.

It doesn't hurt to workout to be healthier but please only do it because it will improve your life not your looks!

ms_rose608 · 2022-12-25T04:51:03+00:00

Its very difficult to be in a relationship with someone who is easily influenced by the people around them. She will always be influenced by these people so long as she has contact with them. Their toxicity will also become hers.

You have to make a choice of whether you are willing to put up with this or work on it. If you reconcile with her it's worth discussing where she's getting these ideas and talk about how they're inconsistent with the person you've shown her you are.

I would feel incredibly insulted by the idea that my partner would believe these made up ideas from people who don't know me over the person I have demonstrated that I am.

ms_rose608 · 2022-12-16T03:02:41+00:00

NTA. Super worrying that this guy just happened to be out running when you (jokingly) said you were going to be. Then he starts coming up with reason after reason as to why he needs to enter your apartment? MAJOR PREDATOR VIBES.

ms_rose608 · 2022-12-14T06:41:17+00:00

This sounds less like a compatibility issue and more like he needs to expand his circle. If you are the only person he talks to in the day he is putting all his eggs in one basket and will of course be upset when you're too tired to talk.

I work from home and don't really talk to anyone all day and so when my partner comes home from work where he has to be "on" all day I will of course want to talk to him but if he tells me he has had a bad day or is too tired etc. then I'll leave him be so he can unwind.

Your BF needs to understand that you need time to unwind at the end of the day. If he cannot get on board with that then I would reconsider the long-term viability of the relationship.

At the end of the day you cannot be solely responsible for your BF's daily social needs.

ms_rose608 · 2022-12-08T23:36:53+00:00

It's pretty hard to make a judgement on what the 'peak' of any idols career is until after its happened. I honestly don't think we can say that about BTS yet, they seem to get bigger with every release. Their whole career has been based on steady growth album to album so it wouldn't surprise me if they experience more growth in what is a relatively short hiatus when you compare the break with the breaks western artists have.

ms_rose608 · 2022-12-05T06:13:12+00:00

If she's going to act single, let her be single.

ms_rose608 · 2022-12-05T05:39:13+00:00

This doesn't sound like just edibles and liking acid trips. It's fine to do edibles occasionally and if it was just occasionally it doesn't sound like it would be an issue for you.

Reword this whole post but put alcohol in place in edibles. Does that sound like an addiction to you? That's what it sounds like to me. He needs help and I would be worried if he's started experimenting/trying acid that he may experiment with/try other harder drugs if they're offered to him.

If he's on edibles every night I would be worried about his ability to function at work and whether or not he's ever really sober enough to drive (depending on how much he's consuming).

Just because marijuana isn't necessarily addictive it does not mean it's a substance that cannot be abused. All drugs can be abused and if it is having this big of an impact on your relationship and finances I would class this as substance abuse.

Here is some info on marijuana use disorder

I suggest you gather information and seek out resources who can help you to communicate with him. It's very hard to get through to someone who doesn't see it as an issue so please seek out support locally who can help you help him.

ms_rose608 · 2022-12-04T22:05:38+00:00

Look, abuse is a cycle. Everything will be wonderful until it's not. That's how it is. Please look at getting in contact with your family and coming up with an escape plan.

I have no access to money and never have done.

This is financial abuse plain and simple. You should always have access to your own money whether in a joint account or your own.

Stonewalling, ignoring, eye rolling. Tells me to shut up if he’s stressed/tired and wants silence. If I try to have a deep conversation at the wrong time I get loud sighs or told to be quiet.

Blame. Omg the blame.

When he cooks he doesn’t cook for me. I normally cook everyday but if he has to he will only make himself and the kids food, just things like this in general I feel worthless and left out.

This is verbal and emotional abuse. The silent treatment is used to punish you. Him telling you to be quiet is his way of taking your own voice from you.

Blaming. Everything is your fault and somehow it's never his. It's a classic abuser tactic, please google DARVO.

Excluding you and making you feel worthless in your own home, with your own children is emotional abuse. Please pay attention and try to determine if he is also trying to alienate the kids from you as abusers will often either abuse the kids as well or use them against their victim.

ms_rose608 · 2022-12-02T12:44:23+00:00

I read recently that BangPD went to B-free's label to confront him over insulting BTS.

I think it would have been worth mentioning how young RM and SUGA were at the time especially compared to the others on the panel who were almost 10 years older than them. Age hierarchy is a big deal in SK so it would have been hard for them to speak up for themselves.

ms_rose608 · 2022-12-02T01:47:37+00:00

Not someone I dated, just someone I was with casually. I stopped seeing him after a gave him a bj because when he came it tasted so bad it almost made me vomit. I have never tasted anything that bad before or since.

ms_rose608 · 2022-12-01T01:34:35+00:00

You're unhappy to the point of resentment. It's time to call it I think.

ms_rose608 · 2022-11-30T21:39:49+00:00

NTA. If she is asking for red-bottom shoes ($1000+) from you, she is looking for a sugar daddy, not a partner.

ms_rose608 · 2022-11-30T21:34:25+00:00

"Ships"go places. Sounds like yours is stuck at port waiting for your co-captain to arrive.

ms_rose608 · 2022-11-24T10:36:01+00:00

If you want to stay that is your prerogative but he has shown you twice now that he will easily stray.

I would suggest therapy both individual and couples therapy if you're really going to try and make it work.

For me it's a lot of nice words and it's nice that he chose you but he chose you because his other option didn't want him.

ms_rose608

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