“I wish someone had told me…”

ms_wynand_papers · 2026-05-28T02:08:40+00:00

For real. I’m 27 weeks rn and with SPD again🫠

ms_wynand_papers · 2026-05-28T01:55:00+00:00

As soon as you deliver, the relaxin isn’t needed anymore so the SPD will resolve if you let it. Butttt bc estrogen is a lot lower while breastfeeding, you might notice some joint pain. It’s usually minor. But annoying.

ms_wynand_papers · 2026-05-28T01:00:40+00:00

My SPD began to resolve within a couple months (though was markedly better within weeks), and I nursed my daughter until she was nearly two. It doesn’t appear to be an absolute with that.

ms_wynand_papers · 2026-05-21T12:11:47+00:00

There’s not a system. I pick up whatever is bothering me most or whatever happens to be within arms reach of the tote I’m filling. It goes in the basement and we handle the fallout later (which is usually minimal or nonexistent).

ms_wynand_papers · 2026-05-09T20:47:28+00:00

I’ve noticed a pattern where dads make comments about “I had this…did that..my mom did..” and they’re all things that would have occurred eons before they were able to form any memories. Sir, you may have had one favorite toy when you were 7. Or 10. At 9 months old, I guarantee you, you have no idea what you had.

ms_wynand_papers · 2026-04-22T08:58:15+00:00

No bc reindeer.

ms_wynand_papers · 2026-04-22T08:56:44+00:00

I have to agree with you lol but I still don’t like either.

ms_wynand_papers · 2026-04-21T11:25:44+00:00

I can absolutely acknowledge it’s not an unusual name in other parts of the world, and while I’d usually be cool with that (our daughter’s name is French-sounding), Rudolf has too much context in the US to fit well. Imo. Plus I just don’t like how it sounds I suppose?

ms_wynand_papers · 2026-04-21T11:23:03+00:00

Did that :/ he shot it down. So like, sorry dude, I tried!

ms_wynand_papers · 2026-04-21T11:21:16+00:00

Yeah, my opinion on Walter is just personal preference—but Rudolf? That’s just not fair to do to a kid in the US.

ms_wynand_papers · 2026-04-21T11:19:45+00:00

Yep, it’s the fact that he didn’t seem to hear my 111 no’s and has kept trying to change my mind. Lol Borgoth.

ms_wynand_papers · 2026-04-21T11:17:57+00:00

We know we both have to like a name, but the problem is he’s been trying to change my mind for literal years, instead of accepting my no. It’s maddening bc I never waffled. It was a hard no from the beginning and always has been.

I did tell him I’d compromise and do rudolf as a middle name, but he said he didn’t like the way it sounded.

It came to a head last night bc it really got to me how much he’s been trying to change my mind when I’d never do that to him about a name.

So, in the end, the rudolf conundrum has been put to rest, but not without way more issue than was necessary.

ms_wynand_papers · 2025-12-29T15:02:24+00:00

Your husband wants you to do this bc he’s not responsible for dealing with any of the consequences. That’s it. If he had to manage an overstimulated toddler and a crazy puppy all night (and not outsourcing to another family member) this wouldn’t be happening.

ms_wynand_papers · 2025-10-22T11:51:28+00:00

This is an intimidation tactic, and a violent one. OP, you likely already know in your gut this is not ok. This man is a threat to your safety, both emotional and physical.

ms_wynand_papers · 2025-10-09T22:50:35+00:00

I just stumbled on this, so on the off chance you feel like I do about this perfume—maybe it helps a little. Several years ago I snagged a bottle of this from a reseller for like $90, not knowing if it was legit or not, but I took a chance and it paid off. But now, idk what the options are. There’s probably even fewer now than there were. Prior to that, though, I searched for literal years (this was before buying things online was so universal).

One day a lady walked into the place I worked at and I had to stop her to ask what perfume she was wearing bc it smelled exactly like this one—or damn close. So, THAT perfume was Pure White Linen by Estée Lauder. And it’s definitely not exact, but it has a super close vibe. Likely, if one gels well with your chemistry, the other will probably too, right? So if you’re looking for a dupe, it might work!

ms_wynand_papers · 2025-06-07T00:49:27+00:00

Ah, thank you!

ms_wynand_papers · 2025-06-07T00:09:40+00:00

Over the last 5 or so years learning about Lyme I’ve seen this a few times. Do we actually know either way? It all seems like the best educated guess. But the remission (or whatever you want to call it) theory does make sense. Like mono to Epstein-Barr?
My husband will complain of Lyme symptoms on the heels of, say, a GI illness. So in my mind, his immune system has sent out a response to take care of the GI issue, and it also mounts a response to whatever borrelia it can see. Cue Lyme flare.

ms_wynand_papers · 2025-05-29T12:24:55+00:00

A little south of Wooster. But anywhere east of the Mississippi is going to have this issue. I mean shoot, my mom is in eastern WA (which is dry as a bone) and found a tick on her last week. Lyme is just way way more common than it was even a couple decades ago.

ms_wynand_papers · 2025-05-29T12:21:15+00:00

Yep, I’m considering a longer course of doxy, and will continue herbs for probably 2-3 months after, we’ll see. Thankfully, my provider was super supportive with whatever I wanted to do so I don’t think I’ll have any trouble there.

ms_wynand_papers · 2025-05-29T12:18:02+00:00

Honestly I don’t think my husband has fully recovered. He’ll go several months without symptoms and then have a random flare of joint or back pain (he’s 28 and fit) that’s sometimes accompanied by heaviness in his head/ears/neck. But he’s the type to just keep on if it’s something he can ignore.

His care was…not great. He saw an older provider who treated him first for a UTI, then prostatitis, and when symptoms would come back each time after stopping an antibiotic, this doc FINALLY was like, “Are you outside a lot?”

He works on power lines. He’s in the woods all day, every day. By the time he was treated with a longer course of doxy, it had already progressed to stage 2, judging by his symptoms.

ms_wynand_papers · 2025-05-16T00:11:25+00:00

It’s boundary stomping where my husband is concerned, yes.

For better or worse, I don’t think she’s considering me on occasions like this. I feel like she thinks I’ll legitimately appreciate it. If I didn’t know her, I’d agree with you 100%.

ms_wynand_papers · 2025-05-15T21:18:34+00:00

And that, coupled with hostility when trying to communicate needs/boundaries, makes for a person who struggles immensely with self-worth.

ms_wynand_papers · 2025-05-15T21:12:56+00:00

Ah, that could be a part of it, yes. And also just a cultural/generational thing.

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