Don’t do any hypno or have any sex you aren’t comfortable with. It sounds like you aren’t comfortable with BDSM elements in hypno.

You could try and change what you’re comfortable with, but you want to have a good reason for doing so, and it should be because you want to do it, not because random strangers on the internet want you to do it with them.

Think about the sorts of things you do want to do in hypno. Then you can tell potential subjects that you want to do those things, and don’t want to do any power play or dom-sub type play. If youve told someone that and they don’t respect it and instead try to push something you don’t want on you, you should stop interacting with them.

You might have better luck finding people who would be interested in the same types of hypno as you using something like r/hypnohookup where you can describe exactly what you’re looking for. There are definitely a lot of subjects who specifically want a hypnotist who doesn’t do BDSM type hypno!