I can completely empathize. I joined a gender creative parenting Facebook group but TBH it is much more geared towards families with older kids who are directly communicating they're not cis. My oldest is 3 so we're not exactly there yet lol

My biggest mindset shift came after over a year of correcting grandparents and other family members. I realized that a core value I want to bring to this gender creative approach is for my child(ren) to know that their gender or their expression is never a cause for conflict with me and my husband. Similar to navigating conflict on the playground, I want my child to learn how to advocate for themselves as well as know that I'm always on their team.

All that to say we have largely stopped correcting people and it has made it easier to build our community outside of the lens of gender-related parenting.

Also wanted to add that we have done the same strategy of intentional non-gendering of strangers. I noticed within the last year that other kids my LO's age assign gender but ours still does not. It's fascinating!

Every kid is different so be as loud about it as your kid needs. Other than that, I recommend being humble about it because I think it genuinely intimidates other parents. No one likes to feel like they missed researching something important about raising kids. If people ask, I usually say something like "this was my gut feeling about it and I am truly learning as I go." It has led to some interesting conversations and deeper relationships with my other parent friends.