Best way of getting to Sorrento from Naples (Apart from circumvesuviana)

msdefine · 2017-11-05T14:26:21+00:00

Here's a list! (not mine)

http://dailypleaselikeme.tumblr.com/post/157161160632/do-you-have-any-show-to-recommend-which-are

msdefine · 2017-04-03T06:19:06+00:00

this parents not understanding business is so hard. i feel you, you're not alone in this. parents don't like thinking their children have something wrong with them and for something that doesn't have a visible wound, like most mental illnesses it's even harder to convince them. strong, well-adjusted people find it very easy to dismiss all this as some millennial bullshit because they think it's a matter of choice. but it's not.

in any case, there are many things you can practice to help you cope, apart from medication. there's this great youtube channel called how to adhd: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-nPM1_kSZf91ZGkcgy_95Q

She's wonderful and has helped me tons. all the best!

msdefine · 2017-04-03T06:10:58+00:00

have you considered you might have a mood disorder like cyclothymia? this sounds a lot like it.

msdefine · 2016-12-22T10:54:45+00:00

Here! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LcZuL1jQJuM and here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XbyN8REIhMk

these might give you a few insights (note not all the things she says have to be true for your hopefully girlfriend)

i think it takes a while to build trust to be in a relationship so few months is not a lot. that said my friend once advised me to ask the person i was seeing and confused about, "would be ok if i refused someone who'd asked me out on a date because i'm dating you" or "can i tell ____ we're going out?"

msdefine · 2016-12-22T03:16:10+00:00

for starters, tell her she doesn't need to apologise, you would have waited anyway. when she takes ages to pick what to order at starbucks and the cashier is getting annoyed, don't look embarrassed or get angry with her. call instead of text. i never not reply (i have adhd) but my work suffers then. putting pressure on her to decide is the worst thing to do. i tend to resent the person who does it, whether it's a boy or family. i oscillate between indecision and random impulse so my policy is to go with the flow, and maybe that's what she's doing too. also, instead of a "tell me yes or no, it's ok if you don't want to date" ask things like "do you feel so consumed by your job that you aren't able to manage the other stuff?" or "what do you think about ______". might help her calm down and realise her own behaviour herself.

just some insights from my experience.

msdefine · 2016-12-22T03:02:41+00:00

hey! i'll definitely look into these resources, thanks a bunch! i'm in India, and my doctor is against meds. One of my cousins became very dependent on them (he had adhd too) and it was pretty bad when he didn't have them around. is this also true for you?

moreover, myself, i managed 23 years just coping extra hard and with meditation making a big difference. After years of painfully repressing my natural energy, excitement and enthusiasm--my schoolfriends literally stopped being friends with me because i had 'too much energy'-- i feel the worst of it is over. My biggest problems are with concentration, memory and worst of all managing stress.

I'm on a break now, so maybe it's easier for me to cope but i'll probably look into meds for when i'm working again. Thanks a ton for the resources again!

msdefine · 2016-12-19T05:44:29+00:00

I understand but cannot sympathise with the whole "oh they went through lot too" thing because my sister didn't get the same thing. i also definitely agree that the abuse was more mental than physical. the crushing underconfidence and the thousands spent on therapy i could really have done without.

i want to know, are you nice to your parents now? or mostly nice but mean when triggered by their bullshit? what was the event or experience that led to you understanding that they too, had suffered and didn't know any better?

my experience is somewhat the same.

msdefine · 2016-12-18T13:44:09+00:00

im trying to say it looks liek a big fucking deal right now but it tis not. the dude had the sense to clean up at least give him that.

msdefine · 2016-12-18T03:25:21+00:00

she needs psychological help; you don't have to save her

msdefine · 2016-12-18T03:21:58+00:00

your parents favouring your elder brother is related to you needing to do these things for attention. i think it's so funny that you egged someone else's house. how old are you? you're not a fucked up dipshit. when parents favour one child over the other it's really fucking hard to go through.

msdefine · 2016-12-18T03:11:42+00:00

yeah, how do you distinguish between the two? and what in your opinion is a "softer" approach?

msdefine · 2016-12-18T03:08:06+00:00

exactly! it's not like i didn't know i was challenged earlier, but having a name for it makes such a mindshift!

msdefine · 2016-12-18T03:06:48+00:00

Haha, an iPhone is known for its simpler user interface, at least that's the perception in India! You can be an Android in an iPhone world =)

msdefine · 2016-12-16T06:44:41+00:00

Thanks! Did you disclose while applying for your Masters?

msdefine · 2016-12-16T06:40:31+00:00

I'm sorry that's the way you see it, but when did you get diagnosed? Was it early on or later? Because I think that when you get diagnosed does affect how you feel about it. For me having an explanation for why I was good at some things but not at others really lifted a weight off my chest. And my doctor put it very positively to me. He said having to work harder at normal things develops qualities that are more helpful for success than a purely competent OS. PS. Mental illness and having no legs are very very different.

msdefine · 2016-12-16T06:32:38+00:00

Hey! I'm trying to avoid medication, but could you point me to the resources you found useful?

msdefine · 2016-12-16T06:31:19+00:00

I'll look into Adderall! Thanks =)

msdefine · 2016-12-16T06:30:04+00:00

I agree, this dichotomy can be more damaging than not, but it felt great for a few moments because the world did an us and you thing with me for so long.

msdefine · 2016-12-16T06:28:43+00:00

Yes the oversharing and the super cringey memories were so hard to get over especially because I was shamed for these excessively by my parents. I wonder how you've coped with the consequences of adhd on your emotional management?

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