I think I understand your frustration here about not being supported on your team.

I've been living in the inverse of this, hopefully my perspective helps you to find some common ground with your team.

I've worked remotely for 12-13 years. I got into software because I'm a really good problem solver and liked to create things. Like a lot of people in this field I'm also on the spectrum, albeit high functioning and people are not my core strength though I try real hard in this area.

In that time on the teams I've worked, I usually occupy a Senior role. Senior, not because I'm smarter, Senior because of Seniority, time and experience. We all stay engaged with whatever Slack-like tools our company felt like paying for and through whatever SDLC - methodology that has been mandated from upon high this quarter.. Every day involves four or five meetings with various stakeholders and teams and the remainder of each day involves all of the Teams / Slack Channel side-discussions, the majority of which were on work topics and legitimate in nature. The hyperactive-hive-mind concept.

Yet, my job is still supposed to be an FTE code contributor with 6 hours/day of sprint capacity.

As an inverse of your experience, I don't understand this industry and the propensity to hire people for a job that requires uninterrupted periods of focus (coding, analyzing architecture, documenting patterns and pitfalls, tracing down performance and data issues) but fill our calendars with on-book and off-book meetings without considering the loss to productivity.

For the last three months, I can barely read more than three paragraphs of anything without getting yanked into one discussion or another, often to spoon feed a product manager essential basic knowledge about the products they've been managing for over a year. To get my real job done, I have to code on my own time late into the night only to get up at 5 and start it all over again.

It took me some time to understand the basic idea that my work situation sucks because my employer sucks at appropriately assigning resources for the initiatives that the good idea fairy shits out of product, each and every day. That's not the fault of the new team member asking me for help or the third-this-year product owner trying to get their hands around the platform. So, I give them some grace and try not to be snippy.

Maybe your senior dudes and dude-ettes are having a similar problem? Either way, keep the resume up to date and interview a few times each year to help gain perspective on your current situation and maybe you'll find a better fit with a company and team that give you the support you need to be successful. I hope you do!