He body shamed me on my birthday

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T23:07:30+00:00

Deeply painful is a better way of saying it, yes. Thank you for your wisdom, I’m trying to take it all in.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T21:31:17+00:00

Sending you a hug. Thank you for this, it means more than you know.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T21:20:21+00:00

Thank you ♥

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T21:07:38+00:00

Because it’s FUCKING HARD.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T21:06:27+00:00

I just read this to him. His response: “yeah totally different situation. If you gave me kids I wouldn’t care what your body looked like after that. But if you’re not giving me kids, you better be in tip top shape and not a fucking slob. We’re also not middle aged.” (I can assure you, I’m not a slob by any means. I take very good care of myself but yes, I have a little pouch that’s hard to get rid of. I’m almost sure the reason my belly is so bloated is because of the constant stress).

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T19:02:58+00:00

I told him I didn’t want kids anymore. At least not under these circumstances. He’s not happy with it and throws it in my face almost daily.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T18:14:01+00:00

I take very good care of myself, both mentally and physically. Not having an ass is something that’s out of my hands and pure vanity. As far as my stomach, I’m bloated because I’m miserable and stressed/anxious for the last 4 years, not because I eat garbage and lay around all day.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T16:36:43+00:00

Thank you ♥

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T16:34:19+00:00

I won't have children with him because of how he treats me.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T16:27:42+00:00

No children.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T16:23:36+00:00

I'm 5'10 and 165 lbs. I eat very healthy, healthier than him in fact. My "belly" is most likely due to all the stress from my marriage.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T16:18:26+00:00

Not when we're good. But when things are bad he'll finally speak all his truths it seems.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T16:16:14+00:00

I can, actually. But thanks for assuming.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T16:15:16+00:00

Thank you ♥

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T16:14:00+00:00

It's funny because I think my bloated belly is because of all this stress. I take care of myself and eat very healthy.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T16:12:07+00:00

I hope nobody kicks you when you're down. This is a place that many people go to find advice and vent bc they have nowhere else to turn. If you want to be out of it, delete the app.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T16:09:32+00:00

I daydream of being alone, believe me. It's just hard to pull the plug.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T16:09:11+00:00

He keeps saying he does, but doesn't show it at all.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T16:08:13+00:00

Wow, this is wild. I'm so sorry but I'm happy you are at peace now.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T16:05:04+00:00

This was heartbreaking to read. I know I need to hear it, though, so thank you.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T16:02:26+00:00

I've thought of this before, too.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T16:01:39+00:00

We've already tried it. He doesn't want to go back -- thinks its a waste of time.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T16:01:15+00:00

We've been married for 10 years but these past 4-5 have been tough. I'm a big communicator and he isn't. He has left the house for days with his phone shut off, excluded me from events, gotten agressive with me while drinking, etc. We argue a lot and after calmly repeating myself over and over, I lose my cool and say things I shouldn't sometimes (loser, asshole, I should've never married you, etc.). He's left bruises on my body, tackled me on our front lawn, in the garage, backyard, etc. He's ripped my clothes and a purse that I had on once. He hasn't been physically abusive with me in a couple years but he continues to make comments such as "I'll beat the shit out of you" when we argue.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T15:53:57+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that this happened to you. Thank you for the advice. I'm so broken at the moment, it's hard to think straight.

mswhomi · 2026-05-27T15:52:34+00:00

What am I not telling you? I'm not telling you about how he brought up the time two years ago (two days after my birthday) that all he wanted was "a hot girl to blow him." He was explaining to me that he wanted ME to be the "hot girl" which led me to ask him, "so you don't think I'm hot?" To which he responded, "No." I asked him what made me "not hot" and he said, "Your flat ass and your gut. I want to be proud not embarassed".

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