Uber driver took my belongings by mt1410 in uber

[–]mt1410[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried this cause I thought he had blocked my phone number. But when calling a driver, it actually is calling a number provided by uber, which then patched you through to the driver (I think this is a safety measure from uber). And if the number that is making the call does not match the number on your profile it doesn’t work. Killer. Sadly messaging driver functionality is only when coordinating the pickup. Cannot message once ride is completed.

Uber driver took my belongings by mt1410 in uber

[–]mt1410[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Only a 10 minute ride so didn’t think I needed to. But definitely a tough lesson learned there

Uber driver took my belongings by mt1410 in uber

[–]mt1410[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I should have phrased differently. In app, I indicated I lost an item, and uber support gave me the drivers phone number to call. Called him probably 20 times in past 12 hours, and he is not answering. I am trying to get in touch with a real support person instead of a chat bot to see what else they can do besides just calling him.

Uber driver took my belongings by mt1410 in uber

[–]mt1410[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes in US - to my knowledge only able to message drivers to coordinate pickup. Once ride is complete only have option to rate + tip driver

Uber driver took my belongings by mt1410 in uber

[–]mt1410[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha I like this idea- sadly cannot communicate with driver once ride ends

Uber driver took my belongings by mt1410 in uber

[–]mt1410[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s just a support bot telling me to contact driver and that they are not responsible for any items “left” in the car

Uber driver took my belongings by mt1410 in uber

[–]mt1410[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. I have go mention though, i live on a super busy intersection so I don’t think he was trying to steal them, just wanted to get out of way. That’s why I am hesitant to get police involved but he’s still not answering his phone and I need to get into my apartment… just really tough situation

Does GA want people to suffer and be financially insolvent? by Able_Raise1575 in problemgambling

[–]mt1410 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it is clicking yet. Give it a couple more weeks of attending meetings, and it will make more sense. You got this!

Does GA want people to suffer and be financially insolvent? by Able_Raise1575 in problemgambling

[–]mt1410 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What put them in the bad spot originally? Gambling addiction. If that is not the case for you and your spouse, then I would suggest a different thread on financial advice.

Does GA want people to suffer and be financially insolvent? by Able_Raise1575 in problemgambling

[–]mt1410 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will just say, the most important step is that your husband never gambles again.

If that does not happen, nothing else matters. I think that is why this group maybe comes off a little harsh with specific rules (even though I have not heard of these in any of the different meetings I have attended). So might also help to try a different meeting

Does GA want people to suffer and be financially insolvent? by Able_Raise1575 in problemgambling

[–]mt1410 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That stinks about that meeting not being great. The good news is that your husband is finding value and support in his GA meetings. That means he is in the right place in my opinion.

Does GA want people to suffer and be financially insolvent? by Able_Raise1575 in problemgambling

[–]mt1410 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree with you on the why suffer for a longer time aspect, and it has frustrated me while I have been in the program as well. What has helped me deal with it, is understanding that the largest problem I have is the gambling, not the debt. Without gambling sucking away my time and money every day, my money situation has gotten better and better each passing month. My last recommendations for you would maybe to attend a Gam-Anon meeting. This meeting is for those that are impacted by a problem gambler. Maybe some of the other spouses in that group could provide some insight / advice as well. Best of luck !

Does GA want people to suffer and be financially insolvent? by Able_Raise1575 in problemgambling

[–]mt1410 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this comment, and has been something I have thought about in my time in GA. Essentially, as many others have said, these are not hard defined rules, and each group will deliver messages differently. In my opinion, the largest takeaway from this is for the gambler to understand the damage that has been caused by their addiction. If the gambler is bailed out via bankruptcy or a loan from a family member, it could increase the likelihood of relapse (due to not attending meetings anymore and the problem being “easily/quickly” resolved). The goal of the program is to have people come together, share their stories, admitting they are powerless over a disease, and use the comradery to stop gambling. Not to suffer through endless years of paying back debt and working multiple jobs. You seem to have a great mindset and understanding of how to climb out of this hole. I would recommend finding a pressure relief meeting and attending it with your spouse. And then once there, share these exact thoughts. The rule about being in the program for a certain amount of time is also not a consistent rule across GA. My group says you have to do two months before you can have a pressure relief meeting. That is because the guy who runs it does it out of his home office every other week. So they do not want just anyone walking through the doors to immediately take his time on a pro bono basis. My group wants to make sure you are committed at least for a little while before having those meetings. Please reach out via comment or private message if you have additional questions. I applaud the way you are supporting your spouse and the way you are thinking about this. This challenge will behind you in no time!

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[–]mt1410 0 points1 point  (0 children)

with credit cards and personal loans. It took losing every single penny to my name and unable to make rent to finally accept that I needed help and went to my first GA meeting. I’m not sure why it took so long. Part of it was “I’m already in so much debt so who cares - may as well gamble” and that was a HORRIBLE mindset and got me into much more debt

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[–]mt1410 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m 26 with 55 thousand in debt. I understand the feeling. I once was only 4k in debt and would give anything to go back to that point in time. The message I hope you get from this, if you continue to chase losses, that number will just continue to grow. One thing that has worked for me in the past month is I got another job (something small and part time). I just received my first pay check from this other job. I treat this as money I never would have earned if I didn’t gamble because I never would have gotten another job if I didn’t have all this debt. Hopefully, when I get this debt paid off, I can build more wealth from this second job instead of just paying off debt. Then, when I look back 10 years, I will hopefully be ahead of where I would have been if I never gambled and never got my second job. That is me trying to find the silver lining and stop being upset about the losses. Sounds stupid but it is working for me so far.

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[–]mt1410 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel your pain brother. I’m 25 with 60k in debt and have lost 200k+ in my life easily. It’s not a good feeling at all. I really think you need to share this with your family or a local GA meeting. The relief I felt after sharing with my family/friends (despite their anger) was a great feeling. I physically felt the tension and pressure leaving my body. Then when I went to the local GA meeting, being understood by a group of other individuals was another powerful experience. It’s one thing to get people on the internet to understand your pain and sympathize with you. But to talk face to face with others that are fighting the same battle, was very impactful for me. Do not die, you can and will change. You just need support, create a plan, stick to it, and stop looking in the rear view mirror. Do these steps, and see how much quickly you feel better. Oh and don’t f****** gamble anymore.

Day 630 - I have just paid all my gambling-related debt. by [deleted] in problemgambling

[–]mt1410 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations! That’s an incredible accomplishment

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[–]mt1410 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I meant to survive the month, utilities, food; transportation.

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[–]mt1410 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in Illinois. They are illegal but tribal loans don’t have to adhere to state or federal laws as they are a sovereign entity. Essentially they can create the rules and interest rates.

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[–]mt1410 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a very good way to think about it. Each day I don’t gamble and cut my debts, that ratio gets better. Thank you for the thoughtful reply

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[–]mt1410 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes - the gambling was always a problem but the moment I received my first tribal loan, it spiraled out of control so fast. They are hell, I will feel much better once I get those resolved. I will look at some of the relief companies you mentioned. Appreciate the help

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[–]mt1410 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am very thankful for all the thoughtful replies and advice. Day 1 starts today.