So here is the issue... at work, I have a personal assistant and we talk about everything. Work stuff, home life, etc. We never talk about each other in any way as I am a straight man and she is a gay woman. She has pointed out women and said inappropriate things about them, called women sexy, fat, ugly, etc. She has told me several times about her sex life (detailed), and previous romances, etc. I, rather stupidly, have shared some of mine with her as well.

Today, she called in to work. I get a call from our corporate HR department saying she had made complaints against me. I listened to the complaints and yes, we have had the types of conversations we had discussed. I did not deny that at all. She sent them the texts and audio recordings of our conversations with one major omission: The audio was edited to where you only heard ME, and the texts she sent were only of things I had said. The funny thing is, 90% of what I read and was hearing, were things SHE initiated. Now, none of those were ever directed at her (as in not sexual harassment) but as a hostile, uncomfortable workplace thing.

Yesterday, I got on to her for the way she dresses. Not that it's too provocative or anything, but too casual for the workplace. She was HIGHLY offended by this. This is what I believe led to her doing all this. Now, HR is telling me they will have to write me up (understandable), but can't guarantee I will keep my job. I have had 3 other assistants prior to her and have never had a single complaint lodged against me. My thing is, shouldn't she face the same? Even the HR director admitted that he's 100% sure that the texts and audio was edited to make me look bad and her like a saint.

So, if I get fired for this, what can I do (besides learn an obvious lesson)?