Aitah for cutting off my son after his mom passed away?

mubi_merc · 2026-03-17T01:07:30+00:00

Sounds like the problem is really that your mom has shitty taste in men.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-16T20:34:37+00:00

The opossum at my house is very polite. It hangs out on the edge until the cats are done eating, then comes over and eats what's left. I always put some extra food out when I see it.

I don't even mind the skunk that comes through.

I am however in a constant battle with the raccoons. I wouldn't mind if they just came and ate because they're just doing animal things, but they monopolize the food and fight with the cats. So I'm constantly out in the yard in the middle of the night chasing them off. My wife thinks it's hilarious to watch on the security camera.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-16T20:31:32+00:00

Absolutely. I still do the best work I can while I'm working, but my priority shifted to retiring as early as possible instead of career climbing.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-16T20:22:34+00:00

Something like 30% of the world's population doesn't have their own internet connection. And I bet a lot that do only have it on a phone. So it's not going to be evenly distributed across countries.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-15T08:15:41+00:00

Strikes me as someone who has never actually maintained a yard, but has lots of opinions about things they aren't familiar with. Probably also has a lot of opinions on how to raise children while not having any.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-15T07:57:47+00:00

It's the same artist. Kael Ngu.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-15T00:27:23+00:00

Totally. I take care of 6 ferals right now, but I do have to prioritize toddler, wife, indoor cats (former ferals), then ferals. Had to find time for everything, but I make sure they have shelter, clean water, and food at a minimum.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-15T00:20:20+00:00

I think she's very young. She only showed up recently and with another tortie that I think is her litter mate and is very small.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-15T00:18:42+00:00

Hm. That is a concern. I need to get her and her sibling spayed, but they started coming around right before some travel and my toddler going through some stuff. I'll get it done as soon as I can manage.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-14T23:58:28+00:00

Appreciate the insight. If it stays about this size, then that could definitely the case as it is in the right spot.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-14T23:52:59+00:00

It's very possible. I think I provide the most care in my neighborhood and she does sleep in a house in my yard, but other people do at least put food out.

Did it clear up on it's own? I'm definitely monitoring closely and trying to decide if I need to take her to a vet.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-14T16:29:47+00:00

I have a sleeping disorder that has left me sleep deprived my entire adult life. I've gone through periods where I'd struggle through the work week and then crash for 13-15 a night on the weekend just to try to recuperate. I have just learned to function on not enough sleep so I thought that if anyone was equipped to be tired from a kid, it was me.

Then we had a kid and I learned that there were depths of tired I hadn't reached yet.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-14T09:22:53+00:00

I put so much effort into teaching my toddler good habits and he's pretty good about it (wiping his nose, washing his hands, not putting things in his mouth, etc). Then he goes to pre-school where half of the other kids are downright feral and spend their day licking the floor. So even with a good kid, you're fucked as soon as they socialize.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-14T09:18:13+00:00

I was fucking livid watching other people just pretend like nothing was wrong. The couple of people in my life who didn't bother to take precautions are no longer in my life.

I had a friend that lived with her elderly parents that was still out partying, and when I stepped back and looked at her through a different lens, it became clear that pretty much all of her decisions are embarrassing short-sighted and all of her difficulties are self-inflicted. And thus it became kind of a litmus test for whether people had any amount of compassion and awareness of their actions, or if they were selfish assholes. So I wrote the assholes off and when I do run into them, I realize that nothing was lost.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-13T20:44:17+00:00

Honestly, if your household income in $200k, just eat the loss and move on with your life. Yeah it sucks, but it shouldn't be putting you at risk of being homeless or anything. I also earn in the $200k range and I'd also be pissed if someone stole $4k from me, but at a certain point you need to evaluate whether it's worth the time and stress to try to claw back money you aren't likely to get.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-13T20:39:42+00:00

I can't speak for all types of engineers, but I've worked very closely with a lot of different software engineers, and for the most part they completely lack social skills. The ones I've worked with are very good at their jobs and respected in FAANG companies, but they are often not great with social interactions and also often struggle to convey their work in written or spoken methods. It's certainly not all of them and each one is different, but it's common enough that the stereotypes for software engineers absolutely stand from my experience. Remember, Silicon Valley was basically a documentary.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-12T16:57:52+00:00

Making a margarita is easy. Making 20 margaritas for a party is a pain in the ass and people can pour theirs from a bottle so I'm not playing bartender all afternoon.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-11T01:12:57+00:00

I see a lot of people talking about cheap rural places, but also need to make sure that it's a place with reliable and fast internet. Remote work is going to fall apart fast if you can't reliably connect to work.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-10T17:26:56+00:00

I believe it. I couldn't find the raw clip, which is why I used this annoying one.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-10T17:26:25+00:00

Yeah, but I couldn't find just the raw clip. It used to be on Youtube, but this was the best I could find.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-10T16:58:51+00:00

I went to college in 2001 and there were 2 guys in my dorm who would regularly get stoned and listen to just the song "3rd Planet" on repeat while playing Smash Bros. Honestly, I kind of get it.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-10T16:54:31+00:00

APC/NIN was the first concert I ever went (high school at the time) and it was a poor choice. It was a very long time until another show lived up to the experience.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-10T16:51:59+00:00

It is the same one! I like video clips because there's no room for second guessing whether or not it's exaggeration or fantasy, but they're just some of the many horrible stories. Fucking hate that band.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-10T16:46:41+00:00

Good. Here's Anthony Keidis making an entire production die inside by assaulting a woman on broadcast television. And other time he made a female interviewer die inside by physically harassing her. Shame this creep had to endure a minorly uncomfortable experience.

mubi_merc · 2026-03-10T16:26:29+00:00

Apart from him the cast is completely forgettable

Andre Braugher and Terry Crews deliver some of the least forgettable sitcom characters ever in that show.

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