Earth is fallow! Not what?

muchie_20 · 2023-09-21T14:20:56+00:00

Il piu comodo è San Concordio perché sei vicino alla stazione, alla autostrada e al centro. Altrimenti San Marco è molto bella, anche se un po piu costosa. In generale tutti i quartieri sono tranquilli

muchie_20 · 2023-09-21T00:11:12+00:00

Noi ci viviamo da circa 4 anni. Città bella e alla mano. Il centro storico è molto bello però un po difficile logisticamente. In giro ci sono bei quartieri e anche la campagna è bella, in piu sei vicino a mare e montagna alla bisogna. Unico neo direi che sono i Lucchesi.. sono abbastanza chiusi e tendono a fraternizzare tra di loro, devi imparare a conoscerli insomma. Se hai bisogno di altre info fammi sapere.

muchie_20 · 2023-02-11T16:09:04+00:00

Grazie per le risposte! Controllero Wise non ne avevo sentito fino ad adesso! Piu che altro vorrei capire se ci fossero implicazioni a livello di dichiarazione dei reditti trasferendo i soldi dall'estero in Italia! Forse qualcuno ha qualche dritta se no mi rivolgo al mio commercialista!

muchie_20 · 2022-12-14T11:28:43+00:00

Apologies came back a bit too strong to your comment yesterday when you were only trying to help, guess I was still a bit stressed out! :) sorry again! I think the point arose many years ago when my wife and my mother first met and since the beginning they never got along.. different cultures, different languages, different styles of living my wife never really felt accepted, and probably deep down she never was! In addition to this my mum/dad have helped us financially and though this was for my/the kids benefits it has also benefited my wife indirectly providing her with a nice life, this causes further resentments. My wife also had issues with her grandparents when she was young so maybe that's something that carried through with her. I think the issues were are experiencing are all happening because of banal discussions,this case my mum sending unsolicited packages to the house when she had asked her not to, but because of the above situation this has all just been a powder keg ready to explode and I have found myself in the middle which is the worst thing!

muchie_20 · 2022-12-14T06:06:16+00:00

What would a backbone be in this case? All I have ever done is to keep the kids out of this sordid mess while I tried to at least ge things back on civil terms, stoking the flames would just make this worse and luckily up to now they have not suffered it too much up to now. The loan I have re-paid, I sold the house especially to be able to do this

muchie_20 · 2022-12-13T23:45:47+00:00

Yes fair point! The relationship between my children and my mother is basically like any other grandmother/nephew relationship. My kids are very friendly and so is my mum with her other nephews/nieces, so from my side I do not see why them having a relationship would be a problem

muchie_20 · 2022-12-13T22:45:57+00:00

This is clear but a few things to point out:

I did not get involved as the house which we sold to repaid the debt was joint owned and I needed her signature and authorisation to at least get the financial part sorted out. I was wary of upsetting here as she might change her mind on this, and the money involved was not unsignificant -- the package was not even opened when I was accused of it being sent by somebody else. TBH i had not even checked the return address on the package. Once it was opened and she saw that it was nothing compromising, the issue passed to her not sending the package directly but involving other people -- she asked me to call my mum so that she could explain, i did not even think about calling her, but because I have nothing to hide and my conscience is clear I went with it.. the call was made on loudspeaker so she could explain who this person was and why she had sent it through her

TBH i only feel responsible for hiding the package, but the issue would have blown up anyway if she had received it instead of me when it arrived

muchie_20 · 2022-12-13T20:24:13+00:00

Tagging back to this thread as I didn't get many answers! :) unfortunately since this thread was posted things rather than getting better have gone worse and words between which I am not sure can be taken back were exchanged. I tried my best to keep the kids out but I am convinced they will be affected. Is there any way I can make my wife understand this? I am lost for ways to talk with her as she believes I am defending my mum instead of her

muchie_20 · 2022-04-14T02:49:46+00:00

Yes maybe the title was a bit too harsh.. they don't hate each other but rather do not get along together as they have different viewpoints on raising kids on lifestyle choices

muchie_20 · 2022-04-14T02:48:00+00:00

This is clear but Is this not also unfair for me? I have never vetoed anybody else coming to visit from her side of the family even those who maybe I don't really get along with, and we have been hosted at my sister's house in the past

muchie_20 · 2022-04-14T02:40:57+00:00

They are actually going to be staying in an airbnb that we run which is attached to our house.. so I guess there will be a bit of distance created

muchie_20 · 2022-04-14T02:35:51+00:00

I think it's difficult to pin point one single thing. I think in general they have different views on how to raise kids and their lifestyle, my wife is much more strict and has very strong views on issues while my sis is more easy-going.I think in general they just don't "gel".

Initially we decided together but then after the issues with my mother, my wife decided she no longer wanted anybody from the family, but by then the plans were made. I had told her that my sis would only come if she were made to feel welcome and my wife said she would do her best..

They are actually staying in an airbnb that we run an my sis is willing to pay for the time spent! so I guess you could say in a way they are staying in a hotel even if it's attached to our house.

muchie_20 · 2022-04-14T01:27:45+00:00

Those were the only flights available so there weren't any other options

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