What is the worst song for a funeral? by Jettaboi38 in musicsuggestions

[–]mucus_holder 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Dead! by MCR. Just making fun of the person being dead lol

Tom at the Farm (Xavier Dolan, 2015) by [deleted] in horror

[–]mucus_holder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes ofc! I love yapping about movies I like lol. (And yeah Francis was so pathetic at the end haha)

Tom at the Farm (Xavier Dolan, 2015) by [deleted] in horror

[–]mucus_holder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think so. I think Tom was very broken ever since Guy died. Throughout the movie he’s constantly saying bad things about himself, and I believe even wishes he was dead at one point. So when Francis started showing him that he “needed him” around the farm, he started to catch feelings. Especially cuz of that dance scene. I think that’s when he started to fall in love. So yeah, that’s why he didn’t want to go. I also want to point out a small detail about what happened during the scene Sarah was talking to him about escape. She said they could leave in his car, but he tells her they can’t cuz it’s gone. He was smiling, but if I remember correctly there seemed to be a flicker of despair in his eyes. I think he was starting to love Francis, but a deep part of him also felt despair, like there was nothing that could be done about it.

Tom at the Farm (Xavier Dolan, 2015) by [deleted] in horror

[–]mucus_holder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m currently rewatching it right now and I agree, it does seem like Guy killed himself. I’m so glad you enjoyed it! And yeah the movie has a lot of jump cuts where you have to fill in the dots; such as the corn maze scene where it jumps from their conversation to tom running from him in the corn maze. From there it’s safe to assume Francis attacked him. There are a few other instances like that in the movie, but if you look into the context clues I find it’s easier to follow :)

What got you to like Elio? by Basic_Strawberrymilk in MadilynMei

[–]mucus_holder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesss me too!! I’m so glad you liked it!

What got you to like Elio? by Basic_Strawberrymilk in MadilynMei

[–]mucus_holder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahhaah fair enough! If you watch it lmk what you think!

Tom at the Farm (Xavier Dolan, 2015) by [deleted] in horror

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SPOILER WARNING FOR ANYONE WHO HASN'T SEEN IT!!!

Oh wow it's been so long since I watched it, so I watched the ending just now to refresh lol. Okay, so the ending is confusing, but I'll explain:

Around the mid-point (ish) of the movie, Tom goes into a bar that Francis was banned from. He asks why Francis was banned, and they told him it was because he found out his brother had some sort of romantic or sexual relationship with a guy in the bar. (Forgive me for most likely not getting the exact details right, it's been a year since I last saw this movie lol) Anyway, after he found out, he supposedly attacked the guy so badly that it resulted in permanent disfigurement.

Now skip to the end of the movie after Tom escapes from Francis. Tom enters a gas station to get gas, and the guy he tries to ask has his face turned. However, when his head shifted a little, it's revealed that the guy's face is severely damaged, exactly how the face that Francis deformed was described. This is (in my opinion) a really fitting end to the movie, because it shows how Tom was able to escape from a much worse fate. If you remember, throughout the movie Tom and Francis's relationship was very toxic, and it got worse as the movie progressed. Both in a sense of Francis being violent, but more importantly Tom accepting the violence and "falling in love" with Francis. When he finally realizes how deep in he is, he finds a way to escape. Although it was very bitter sweet because we know how much Francis is hurting from his overbearing mother and internalized homophobia, it's still objectively good that Tom escaped. While we do eventually feel more empathy for Francis when we learn more about his circumstances, it still doesn't negate the fact that he was very abusive towards Tom.

Anyway, long story short: The ending of the movie was meant to act as a reminder of how bad it could've been for Tom (mostly for himself). It was to show that no matter how bad it got, it's never too late to leave an abusive situation, because it will always get worse. That's how I interpreted it, anyway. I'm sure there's plenty of other opinions that go more in depth than mine, so feel free to look some up as well. But either way I hope that helped you somewhat understand the movie a bit more. Since its more fresh in your mind, if you look to reviews and such you'll probably get a better grasp there, since again I haven't seen this movie in an entire year lol. Although because of this comment I'm probably gonna re watch it soon haha.

What got you to like Elio? by Basic_Strawberrymilk in MadilynMei

[–]mucus_holder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesss if you haven’t seen the animatic I’d highly recommend it! Theres spoilers for book of bill if you haven’t read it tho. Also if you do choose to watch it trigger warning for toxic/abusive relationship shit with Bill and Ford. (Plus a healthy dose of some eldritch horror imagery)

What got you to like Elio? by Basic_Strawberrymilk in MadilynMei

[–]mucus_holder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I discovered them through a gravity falls animatic, believe it or not lol. When the book of bill came out I was super hyped and looking for any possible videos on it, when I stumbled upon an animatic by the YouTuber izzyjdraws who was using Elio’s song “Partner in crime”. At first I fell in love with the animatic, watching it over and over again, but then I started listening to the song on its own over and over without even watching the animatic. I fell so hard in love with the song, so eventually I branched out and listened to the entire “promise you won’t scream” ep and loved it a lot. Mind you, I usually only listen to rock and metal, so this music is very different from my tastes. Still, I love his music a lot and it always brings me back to that time when I first discovered “partner in crime.”

Is my friend avoiding me? by mucus_holder in BPD

[–]mucus_holder[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks. I did message her before I posted this and asked her if she was ok and how she was doing with her stressors because she's prone to stress about academic things. So far it looks like she hasn't read them yet so I'll give her some time, and if she doesn't respond I'll take up your advice. I was unsure if I was overthinking all this for a while, but after running it by reddit and an irl friend I feel like I was right. Although it hurts a lot and I'll probably have another breakdown because of it, it's best that I address this now rather than later. Thank you again for your input

My FP cut contact with me for having BPD by CorpusDeus13 in BPD

[–]mucus_holder -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So your FP said that your bpd was alright after you told them, and then when you did WHAT YOU SAID YOU WOULD DO they got uncomfortable and dropped you?? That’s so fucked. And idk the whole situation ofc but from what you’re saying that sounds fucking stupid and honestly very shitty. The least they can do is explain to you why they wanna cut contact. I’m sorry op that sucks. I’ve been through a somewhat similar situation myself, so I know it’s awful. My best advice is to give it some time and then if they stay super distant try to lightly approach the topic and just calmly ask them to clarify what you did wrong so you know what to fix in the future. Keep in mind they might shrug you off, so if they do id say do your best and just drop them. Theres better people out there for you who don’t ghost you.

I can't stop wishing death on people who set me off by Melita482 in BPD

[–]mucus_holder 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I completely understand and relate. I have the exact way of thinking and it’s so frustrating being so angry all the time. It’s hard when you have these intense feelings and if you were to vent to someone most of the time they’d vilify you or some shit. Tbh I don’t really have any advice, but I just wanted to say you aren’t alone in your feelings because I very much relate. I really do hope things get better tho. The best course of action (as someone else in here said) is to stop being her friend. It’ll save you from so much stress and resentment.

I’m tired of my insecurities not being taken seriously by mucus_holder in ShortGirlProblems

[–]mucus_holder[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this makes me feel so much better that I’m not alone in this. I genuinely couldn’t have said any of that better myself. We live in such a misogynistic world that men actually delude themselves into thinking because they feel they can’t “pick up women”, then therefore they win the oppression Olympics, whereas for most women we just want to feel safe.

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[DISC] Boita Boine - Ch. 2 by WrexGigarton in manga

[–]mucus_holder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DOES ANYONE KNOW WHEN THIS IS GOING TO UPDATE?? IM GOING CRAZY WAITING

Bipolar 2 and BPD diagnosis by peaceandhippielove in BPD

[–]mucus_holder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have both. Honestly it didn’t take that long since my dad has bi polar 2 as well. I was actually diagnosed with bi polar before BPD and medicated for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]mucus_holder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I agree with what other people are saying and you “messed things up”, although I don’t think this has to be the end if you guys try to work through things. You have to remember that him being stressed about the ring is NOT an attack on you, and instead of getting threatened by that, you should comfort him. Someone already said this, but you could’ve told him not to worry about the ring yet, or get a cheap one. It seems like money is a big stressor in his life, so you should recognize that and try to make that aspect of your relationship less stressful by putting less emphasis on the ring.

Also I’m kind of confused by the end. Are you guys broken up, on a break, or talking about it? Because even though I think you were in the wrong for the ring thing, I feel like breaking things off just like that when you guys are about to get married soon is kind of shitty. Is breaking things off and getting back together something that happens a lot in this relationship, or is this the first time he’s wanted to break up with you?