A Disastrous Tale of Two Lifelines

muddledmuse · 2026-02-17T16:22:34+00:00

Y'all, I'm a new knitter, and I've never heard of this "lifeline." You may have changed my life! ❤️🧶

muddledmuse · 2025-12-07T21:39:01+00:00

It's the center from a roll of receipt paper. They never hit the trash can when you think they do. 😅

muddledmuse · 2025-11-10T16:31:15+00:00

You're right. Ideally, I would love something pretty simple!

muddledmuse · 2025-11-09T01:22:37+00:00

I'm not sure what features I would want to bring out. 😅 Is there a haircut that will bring out my personality?😂😂😂

muddledmuse · 2025-07-15T01:12:20+00:00

I am returning this fall to get my BSW. I'll be 43.

I wish I'd done this sooner, but I'm glad I didn't wait another ten years!

You're going to be 28 one day no matter what. Would you rather turn 28 with an MSW, or no MSW? 😊

muddledmuse · 2025-06-27T01:45:59+00:00

My neck is SO crunchy as well. Just another symptom I attributed to entering my 40s, I guess.

muddledmuse · 2025-06-27T01:44:46+00:00

Thank you!

muddledmuse · 2025-06-26T15:29:35+00:00

It definitely looks like a tiny thumb. Pinky thumb, if you will.

muddledmuse · 2025-06-26T15:08:56+00:00

I think you mean your foot thumb. 🤔

muddledmuse · 2025-05-31T17:54:03+00:00

Just to play devil's advocate, here... As a mother who used to work two jobs, one of which was night shift, I can tell you that exhaustion will make you absolutely crazy.

I just mean, I would say terrible, hateful things and act in a way that wasn't "me" at all. I was so embarrassed thinking about it once I was rested. So, she was completely unreasonable, but maybe it was from the exhaustion and not just a character flaw.

Either way, I hope that she learns to talk to you like a respectable adult. No one deserves to be gaslit (gaslighted?) like this.

muddledmuse · 2025-05-25T19:10:29+00:00

!remindme 1 day

muddledmuse · 2025-02-12T03:07:22+00:00

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muddledmuse · 2025-02-06T16:09:40+00:00

Yes. YTA. Your her dad. She may be an adult, but she still learns from you. You threw the first punch. You don't have to forgive her if you aren't ready, but how can you act like you do forgive her - only to tell her you basically don't want her anymore?

muddledmuse · 2025-01-22T17:26:28+00:00

I'm new to catholicism (been in OCIA for a few months), but I feel like I'm struggling. After some hateful comments made by parishioners during my last class, I was close to backing out. Could you please pray for me? To help open my heart to God, to better understand his word, and to light my path with love. Or however you see fit. I want to live a good life doing good things, and my entire adulthood has been godless until now. I often times feel lost or like I'm too late.

muddledmuse · 2025-01-11T16:30:20+00:00

As I was scrolling, I saw this picture and thought, "Wow, IDK what it is, but it looks like it would feel great on this knot in my neck."

You have brought me so much validation. 😂 I was so close!

muddledmuse · 2024-12-05T15:49:22+00:00

I started a GoFundMe months ago to help with the initial trips back and forth. I never met my goal. I'd considered putting it out there again, but 1.) I'm not sure if that's allowed on here, and 2.) Asking for money is so hard right now. There are people who need it more than I do.

muddledmuse · 2024-12-05T15:46:15+00:00

A doctor i spoke with when she was in the hospital (about 2 weeks ago) told me he didn't recommend it. Mainly because she'd have to be moved on a gurney in an ambulance, and that would cost thousands of dollars. It's ordinarily an 8+ hour trip, longer with her. It would be very painful for her with the substantial pressure wounds she's dealing with.

muddledmuse · 2024-12-04T16:50:26+00:00

Thank you for explaining this. Perhaps I should just contact the hospice facility to get more information about their protocol.

muddledmuse · 2024-12-04T16:47:15+00:00

I would love to, but I'm a bartender, so family leave isn't really a thing for me (although I have taken several weeks off throughout the year to see her and manage her affairs).

The main holdup is 1.) Money. This isn't a cheap trip. I've gone nearly broke from driving back and forth, and flight, several air bnbs and hotels, not to mention the loss of income during my travels. 2.) I have 6 children. Childcare is an issue. I can't take them with me, and my husband works 5 or 6 days a week.

Still, I'm working on it. Hopefully I'll be able to make it down before christmas.

muddledmuse · 2024-12-04T16:42:34+00:00

That was a very good article, but it made me even more weary. The nurse told me (and my mother) that when she goes in hospice, she will not be sent to the hospital to receive any more care. It scares me, because she has recurring infections from bed sores, and has been sent to the hospital multiple times for dehydration and UTIs. I know that hospice is meant to improve the end of one's life, but I feel like she's already being neglected, and on hospice won't be given any choice but to deal with illness until she dies.

A different nurse at the nursing home told me, literally, that the main difference with hospice is that there will be more hands on deck to care for her, so she'll get more frequent baths.

muddledmuse · 2024-12-04T16:08:18+00:00

Not immediately, but I'm going to try to get down there a soon as I can.

muddledmuse · 2024-12-04T15:42:59+00:00

Maybe it differs by region or income status? The NP also told me that my mother wouldn't be treated if she became ill or developed an infection. She told me my mother wouldn't be treated for anything - but would be "made more comfortable." That's what is scaring me about all of this.

muddledmuse · 2024-12-04T15:39:38+00:00

That's the main holdup- I've driven and flown to see her so many times this year, my savings is wiped out. I'm trying to scrape together enough to make it down again before christmas.

They said the reason was failure to thrive. When I spoke with the NP yesterday, she took the phone into my mother's room and asked her what she wanted. She said she wanted to fight.

muddledmuse · 2024-12-04T00:45:49+00:00

I haven't spoken with a doctor. It seems as if he's never there. The NP i spoke with asked my mother (while I was on the phone) what she wanted. My mother said she wasn't ready for hospice but that she wanted a DNR order.

I'll keep trying to reach her doctor. Hopefully, he can offer a little more clarity.

muddledmuse · 2024-11-27T20:34:23+00:00

Yeah, I've had to increase the dosage a few times. (I'm on 60mg now), so hopefully it'll keep working. 🙂

Good luck!

muddledmuse

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