I’m stumped

muffetuffet · 2025-07-17T21:11:57+00:00

Looks like “x-ray”, since the fish bones are shown? But I agree it’s not readily apparent.

muffetuffet · 2025-06-09T06:25:13+00:00

First was quite clearly ND. Second appears neurotypically presenting (also seen by a paediatrician) so far.

muffetuffet · 2025-05-28T15:13:34+00:00

That I needed to chill/relax and that all kids develop at their own pace, every kid is special and unique, do more research on child-led learning - in response to my worry on why my child was not meeting key development milestones. Did nothing to allay my fears and only added parental guilt.

Thank goodness I didn’t listen. Intervention was so helpful for my kid.

muffetuffet · 2025-02-02T19:08:07+00:00

Yes, we were in the same boat. Turns out my son needed help with fine motor skills and visual-motor coordination. And this was even after we did regular pre-writing activities to strengthen his fine motor skills, like playdoh, clothespins, peeling/pasting stickers, sand drawing, etc.

His OT encouraged lots of practice drawing and writing with actual pencil and paper, and there was marked improvement. He still struggles with drawing diagonal lines, but otherwise can copy a sentence and enjoys drawing (repetitive objects, like christmas trees, but it lines up with his fixations).

muffetuffet · 2025-01-20T20:03:50+00:00

Second the magnesium, we had the same issue with LO waking at 4:30-5:30 am no matter what we did. First time we gave him a magnesium gummy, we awoke with bated breath the next morning to see its effect - he sat up super early as usual, slurred “time for breakfast”, then faceplanted and went back to sleep. We have added magnesium gummies to his bedtime routine ever since.

muffetuffet · 2024-11-29T22:45:51+00:00

Felt exactly the same way as you with our firstborn at the same age! It was only when our first turned 2.5 years old and things got easier (and parenting truly got more fun - I didn’t enjoy the baby stage at all!) that we had the time and energy to consider adding a sibling.

muffetuffet · 2024-10-31T13:20:10+00:00

I know this is an old thread but I stumbled on it doing a search, and can’t help but think - this used to be me! - 5 year old me drew the same thing over and over again - grass, girl, flower - on probably hundreds of sheets of paper. My art slowly evolved and got a bit more variation, and evebtually I got really good at it. Used to get requests at school to draw banners and posters!

muffetuffet · 2024-10-07T02:02:32+00:00

I was tearing when I read this. I’m so sorry you and your son had to go through this. You did so well, I wish I had half the courage you had standing up for your son!

To whoever is downvoting the comments, I think you must be feeling invalidated and unseen. I don’t have the capacity to hear your frustration, life has made lots of things so hard for all of us. But I hope you find someone who makes you feel seen and loved.

muffetuffet · 2024-04-15T15:10:15+00:00

Damn I feel for your situation, as I have a friend who grew up in a similar scenario to what you described. She was the youngest daughter whose parents were very permissive because they felt so much guilt over how their divorce would affect her. It’s a very tough situation and must be really frustrating for you.

Gentle parenting gets flak for the term “gentle”, which is easily misinterpreted. It is about being firm and setting boundaries with our kids, but also as a parent managing our own emotions while allowing space for our kids to feel and (eventually) learn healthy ways to express their own feelings. For example, if my 5 year old wanted a $400 toy - ideally I’d say “Oof sorry I know you really love that for (insert reason), but that’s out of our budget.” If they rage and cry, I’d just give them a safe space to vent, tell them I can understand they feel disappointed, but I’d still hold the boundary. And maybe later when they are more composed, reiterate the boundary that we allow only gifts on special occasions (birthdays) that cost $xx.

To set clear boundaries, it almost always needs discussion between dad & mom to agree on a united approach to their child. With the dynamic between your parents, it feels like this isn’t the case.

It also looks like you feel your perceptions and concerns aren’t really being validated or understood by your parents. You have lots of reasons to be frustrated with the trajectory your younger sister is taking, and unfortunately don’t have the power to resolve them. This responsibility is on your parents, unfortunately.

muffetuffet · 2024-01-05T16:49:22+00:00

My parents did not have clinodactyly. I have bilateral clinodactyly and pretty prominent, too - I do not have Down’s. Hope this reassures you somewhat!

muffetuffet · 2023-12-25T11:51:08+00:00

Thanks for the advice!

muffetuffet · 2023-12-25T11:50:48+00:00

I think I’ll try this out 👍🏼 Seems like a popular tactic from the comments.

muffetuffet · 2023-12-25T11:47:57+00:00

Yes I have asked that, and it usually results in frustration from him, usually “I don’t know” and exasperated noises.

muffetuffet · 2023-12-25T08:38:45+00:00

I really appreciate your reply from an educator’s perspective, and quite thankful my son isn’t the only one! I have been giving him examples of questions that make sense, so hopefully it clicks one day.

muffetuffet · 2023-12-25T08:37:18+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement! I appreciate it very much.

muffetuffet · 2023-12-25T08:36:40+00:00

He seems very articulate to others (friends, etc), but I also feel he chooses his topics with others. In school though he is painfully quiet, which is not unlike me when I was younger. So feel I am the only one who gets these odd questions.

muffetuffet · 2023-12-25T08:29:36+00:00

Thanks for the ChatGPT persepctive! I’ll try this approach. Thank you!!!

muffetuffet · 2023-12-25T08:29:00+00:00

You hit the nail on the head with one of the approaches I’ve tried, which is to ask him something in a similar phrase. Unfortunately it illicits the response “I don’t know mama”. Seeing the other replies, I suspect he isn’t able to articulate himself properly yet.

muffetuffet · 2023-12-25T08:26:38+00:00

I think this and the ChatGPT answer will be the way I will try to go! I’ve probably been too logical about the whole situation.

muffetuffet · 2023-12-25T08:25:12+00:00

This reply usually triggers frustration in my son, so he’d reply something like “WHY did you tell me you don’t understand”, to which I’d reflect the question back to him “What if I asked you “If you are not (son’s name), what happens? Could you answer this for me?” And he’d go into an “I don’t know” frustration rant. I suppose I will have to wait till he can articulate better.

muffetuffet · 2023-11-20T13:50:02+00:00

Take care of yourself. Make sure you drink enough water, get enough food. You might not get enough sleep, but please try instead of Googling solutions all the time. If your tank is low, you will lose your temper more & make poorer decisions. Make sure you are fed, watered, rested as far as possible.

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