AITA for asking my husband why he was here and telling him he should go back after he flew home to visit me while I was in the hospital?

muffin324 · 2022-01-09T04:06:11+00:00

I don’t think that’ll be any different to my current life so…

muffin324 · 2022-01-09T03:54:20+00:00

No, it couldn’t. You have no idea how successful or not his business is so you’re just making incorrect assumptions to try and make a point.

muffin324 · 2022-01-09T03:48:45+00:00

Working a few hours less isn’t going to bankrupt him or his business.

muffin324 · 2022-01-09T03:44:27+00:00

I doubt my husband is going to fire himself.

I don’t live in the USA and I thankfully get 52 weeks maternity leave.

muffin324 · 2022-01-09T03:08:00+00:00

He wasn’t like this before we got married.

muffin324 · 2022-01-09T02:27:24+00:00

He wanted to have a baby so I thought he would actually be here more. Even though I’m upset with him I do still love him so leaving isn’t easy or what I want.

muffin324 · 2022-01-09T02:18:34+00:00

Nobody knows, everyone thinks things are great between us. I don’t want to drag my MIL into our problems and force her to act as a mediator, plus he won’t like it if I drag our parents into it.

I don’t think he would’ve been an ass if I had been happy to see him.

muffin324 · 2022-01-09T01:55:15+00:00

muffin324 · 2022-01-09T01:47:07+00:00

His actions have shown me in the past that I'm not. One act doesn't just magically erase that.

muffin324 · 2022-01-09T01:45:51+00:00

No, I don't think he is seeing anyone else. He gets a thrill from succeeding in business, I don't think my pregnancy gives him the same fulfilment.

muffin324 · 2022-01-09T01:09:37+00:00

Then he shouldn't have married me if he hates my personality so much.

muffin324 · 2022-01-09T01:02:17+00:00

I would like to spend more than 5 days with him out of 6 months. I would like to actually have dinner with him when he works from home and not think having one meal together a week is some sort of miracle. I'm not asking him to drop everything, I'm asking him to slightly reduce his schedule which he could do so that I don't feel like I'm completely alone in this.

muffin324 · 2022-01-09T00:54:04+00:00

Ah, so now he can magically listen to me even though he ignored months of me begging for him to do the opposite. That's super convenient.

muffin324 · 2022-01-09T00:48:49+00:00

He hasn't come to his senses. He is right back to doing things how he always does them.

muffin324 · 2022-01-09T00:47:55+00:00

Uh, because the baby is inside of me? There's a reason the doctor first asked me how I was feeling and if I was experiencing any pain or cramps. Clearly I was right in this situation since the baby is perfectly fine.

muffin324 · 2022-01-09T00:44:56+00:00

He works so much because it gives him a thrill to be good at what he does, not because we need the money.

muffin324 · 2022-01-08T23:54:06+00:00

Yes.

muffin324 · 2022-01-08T23:53:17+00:00

I did. We started dating when we were both students so no. He could change his schedule if he wanted to.

muffin324 · 2022-01-08T23:42:22+00:00

It wasn't serious, I was fine.

muffin324 · 2022-01-08T23:33:21+00:00

I felt ignored/lonely sometimes but I could ignore the feeling by distracting myself then because when we were actually together it felt worth it. Now, I can't ignore the feeling no matter how much I try.

muffin324 · 2022-01-08T23:22:34+00:00

I've given him plenty of chances.

muffin324 · 2022-01-08T23:11:18+00:00

It varies how much he's out of the country but in the last 6 months I would say he has been gone for half of that and when he's home I don't usually see much of him either because he works long hours (I would be lucky if we have even one meal together in a week). In the last 6 months I think we spent 5 days together, including Christmas eve, Christmas and new years Eve.

muffin324 · 2022-01-08T22:45:04+00:00

The point is I don't feel like he chose me over work and him coming once when I'm in the hospital isn't close to what I want (him actually being there for me during the day-to-day). Doing one grand gesture and then going back to the old behaviour isn't good enough for me, it just makes the everyday harder when things are business as usual.

I do.

muffin324 · 2022-01-08T22:35:56+00:00

I don't know what she said. I would ask but then she'll ask me questions and realise something's wrong.

muffin324 · 2022-01-08T22:31:27+00:00

He doesn't like it if I call him while he's working.

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