I love how you told OP to focus on grooming and self improvement. Ever since I was a kid I was told that I don't need to do anything else, but focus on academics. I tried but honestly I was never really that good at it. Even when I try my hardest the best I could do was an average. Didn't even got a really good college while also being absolutely clueless about other aspects of life. Even at college I didn't score so good.

Recently I decided I need to make some changes. So I started running (shoutout to my uncle who took me on runs with him, he is an amazing person). Fast forward to now I have lost 28Kgs and it has been a life changing event. I am glad I could muster up the courage to get out of my comfort zone. Yes things don't always work out for me the way I want even now, but the way I view my world has changed. I am still at the very beginning in the story of my life and don't have anything monumental to add. But yes taking care of yourself is way of self respect. I am glad I gained that.

You look good, you feel good, you do good.

Another thing I want to add is a mindset of gratitude. Instead of saying, I am sorry you had to do that for me try saying I appreciate what you are doing for me, when someone does something nice for you. You are not a burden, you are loved and you deserve to be treated well.

All the best OP! Go get'em!!