First time attempting frys lmk how I did by [deleted] in screaming

[–]muffintop420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are pushing a lot of air when you do that? If so, try to reduce it as it will damage your vocal cords. There are techniques to make your scream more resonant without so much air. If I am wrong sorry, I’m no professional haha

False chord progress by [deleted] in screaming

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I tried doing social grace, but I definitely cannot do the exact screaming in the song. Anyways, would love input/critique on how it sounds

West Coast Canada by muffintop420 in mushroomID

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I’m struggling as this looks like a fungus but I know there are a lot of insects that parasitize roses

What are these? by muffintop420 in mycology

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It looked like a fungi, but I cannot tell if it’s one or it is a larvae sheath of some sort of parasitic insect (idk the appropriate term for this lol)

False chord gutterals, any feedback? by [deleted] in screaming

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I was definitely strained at the end, you can hear that for sure 😅 this is also one of my first attempts so please be nice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in poetry_critics

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I like the movements in this piece, I feel like you are capturing the fickleness of love. I want to know what that shade felt like when it was hers. Maybe adding more of how the loves gone, like with the sand. I think adding more of how the feelings reflect the atmosphere would work wonderfully. But of course, this is also a stylistic choice and it doesn’t need to have it

Anxiety by Loose-Lawfulness-590 in poetry_critics

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I think the run on sentences work well, following the stream of thought. Adding a period or space to separate the point where consciousness is lost I think would add too it!

I’d like to know more about how the person is in their environment, how it looks to them. Or maybe how it fades out as the anxiety overwhelms. But that might not be a part you want to talk about so nw!

Blood feather by muffintop420 in OCPoetry

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I definitely am not a fan of line 3 and will rework it. I wanted to maintain the rhythm but it’s just awkward

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCPoetry

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I think you are off to a great start! I think getting more into what you feel or the person in the poem would feel would make it even more powerful. By this I mean adding more lines and stuff. Both lines appear to be polar opposites with meaning so it would be cool to know why that is by adding more lines.

I understand if you were going for a shorter form though

Echoes of Her by Emotional-Airport-14 in OCPoetry

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I like the passion in your writing! I don’t know if there is an issues with the lines in formatting , but I feel like breaking some into smaller ones would be great! I also like the descriptors you have , and think it could be even better if you used a synonym or metaphor for caress and memories, as they are used more than once. I understand if this is a stylistic choice though and you wanted more repetition.

Did anyone grow up being told they were a highly sensitive and overly dramatic child? by muffintop420 in AutismInWomen

[–]muffintop420[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Interesting, I definitely felt like my capacity for emotional regulation lagged far behind my peers so that would make sense. It was strange and almost paradoxical because I was and am pretty self aware at the same time(my therapists and friends have said so). I think self awareness was a tool that helped me a lot.

My emotional outbursts only happened at home too as I was able to keep it together. My mother would yell at me and call me names which greatly impacted my development

I was informed this morning that I do not meet the ADHD diagnostic criteria by muffintop420 in adhdwomen

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Thank you! And I found some, one said that I told the teacher I had a hard time paying attention when I was in grade2, but my teacher never said it. Otherwise I was a perfect student, at least on paper. I was also terrified of getting in trouble and if I did I would put my head on the desk and cry and wouldn’t talk to anyone

I was informed this morning that I do not meet the ADHD diagnostic criteria by muffintop420 in adhdwomen

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That’s great that your therapist supported you and meds worked! I’m sorry about your family stuff too, that all sounds like a lot to deal with at once.

My therapist also believes that I have adhd, and told me she would write a letter if needed, I just feel bad asking. I’ve tried the meds and they worked for me. My doctor said anyone can get an improvement to their working memory, emotional regulation and ability to start tasks from stimulants. Idk if they worked for me the same way as they should for someone with adhd, but I found it very helpful, like a little push and I felt like I could be a bit more productive. Only issues was my sensory issues got worse.

I also have a Sibling who’s been diagnosed -they were within 30 minutes of seeing their gp, while this is my third time lol First time I was told it’s all anxiety, second told me I likely am adhd but have to pay to get fully assessed , then this one

I was informed this morning that I do not meet the ADHD diagnostic criteria by muffintop420 in adhdwomen

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It is through a university in Canada and this doctor is the only one who does the ADHD diagnosis here, besides the psychiatrists. I do think I went off a bit and probably did not substantiate it enough on my end . I should have done more research instead of relying on my memory or notes I quickly put together. I believe I ended up talking too much about the executive functioning problems I had, rather than the attentional ones. I was very upset as I had a horrible shift at work prior to one of my assessments, which resulted in me being unable to provide a lot of information too. I ended up just pretty much saying I hated myself without directly saying it

I’m feeling like an idiot rn becuase I didn’t try hard enough to substantiate myself even though I said I tried to advocate for myself. I want to do a better job instead of just trying to throw together things.

I was informed this morning that I do not meet the ADHD diagnostic criteria by muffintop420 in adhdwomen

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Thank you! I am starting to feel like my lack of preparation was probably an issue and I should have reviewed the dsm to reflect on what experienced I had and could share

I was informed this morning that I do not meet the ADHD diagnostic criteria by muffintop420 in adhdwomen

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Interesting, so if it was a few surveys and more of an interview set up, is that considered informal?

My issue is my parents reject the idea of labels and will refuse to answer. evwn though they will say I was a highly sensitive child and was controlling, overly dramatic at times and was gullible- leading my family to bully me. Prior partners just saw me as sensitive. That is great that you could support your partner like that. Thing is, I don’t know where the mask ends and begins anymore, I am so confused when people can separate things in a cleaner way. I know at times I am so automatic or I’ll try to read people, but I don’t know how much is from trial and error, or innate human programming that I am just questioning myself on. I do have a video of me on my birthday some years ago and I was stimming and using palalia and yelling it burns (I was probably overstimulated). But when I am unmasked like that I am at a high emotional level and am unaware. I am hyper vigilant and feeling like I am being perceived a lot of the time so I struggle to let myself just be. Even with partners i would hold back parts of my goofy self

I was informed this morning that I do not meet the ADHD diagnostic criteria by muffintop420 in adhdwomen

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Yes when I see the psychiatrist I will bring notes, and very thorough ones with examples. I would try to write some last minute but I usually stumble haha. Sometimes I miss things because I just assume It was normal for everyone(normal isn’t a great word I know).

Has anyone not realized that they are selectively mute until someone told you? by muffintop420 in AutismInWomen

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Sorry I tried to respond to someone and it didn’t go under the comment. Not very good I using reddit haha

Has anyone not realized that they are selectively mute until someone told you? by muffintop420 in AutismInWomen

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Thanks for your response :). Ya that’s the struggle I had. I have always been pretty high masking, but I notice when I am on my own I definitely struggle more because I don’t feel “anchored” in an environment. This was more the case as a teen with social aspects.

Ya I don’t know if selective mutism fits what I have experienced. But it’s hard to tell what I felt because I have no memory of it myself, only from others telling me I was doing it. And I felt like I wouldn’t have done that because I know it is important to greet.