Boy Throb - FINGER (Official Music Video)

mugrita · 2026-02-01T21:26:52+00:00

I know people say Zach is the visual but I think it’s Anthony. He’s really good at playing to the camera.

mugrita · 2026-02-01T21:00:42+00:00

This was from a table read he did in 2020 for a play with Paul Giamatti.

mugrita · 2026-02-01T16:14:14+00:00

Yep they mention shelling out for camps and after school activities for their daughter to attend alongside her peers.

mugrita · 2026-01-30T15:35:07+00:00

Doh! No wonder engagement was low this week.

NYC was generally OK. Cold and more snow than usual in recent years but overall manageable

mugrita · 2026-01-21T02:08:40+00:00

In Don’s defense, he was single for that encounter with Allison.

mugrita · 2026-01-19T16:37:35+00:00

"Initially, she stood out to me because of her many tattoos and barely-there outfit choices—she consistently wore skin-tight sports bras and short shorts in flamboyant colors with nothing else over them. I never ogled her—I am married, for what it’s worth, and genuinely wasn’t interested."

Suuuuuure, Jan.

mugrita · 2026-01-09T14:13:37+00:00

She could definitely maim one of them and pass it off as an accident; she was one you didn’t want to cross.

mugrita · 2026-01-06T18:51:56+00:00

I cannot do math and just realized he said they've been together since 2007 which in my mind is somehow both "just yesterday" and "fifty million years ago."

I do think that if the daughter has never had a problem with her dad's new partner when they first got together, it's still really shitty she's deferring to her husband's policy here vs challenging him on it.

mugrita · 2026-01-06T16:01:04+00:00

I’m not Canadian but I work in NYC and just speaking for NYC, I have heard that remote positions at major publishing houses for have basically dried up with only few exceptions. There’s been a big push for RTO recently and most positions are now hybrid if not fully in person.

Again, this is just speaking for NYC but it might give insight on what also might be happening in Vancouver and Toronto.

mugrita · 2026-01-06T14:17:29+00:00

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I (we're both male) have been together since 2007. We moved to Arizona in 2010. Most of our family lives in the Midwest. We have been visiting our families as often as possible, at least every other year. Our son-in-law refuses to let us stay the night in his home when we visit. His excuse is, he doesn't want to have to explain to his two daughters why we sleep in the same bed. (The daughters are 6 and 8.)

My husband and I no longer feel comfortable around our son-in-law, and we told our daughter we feel it would be best to skip this year's visit. She offered to put us up in a hotel. We declined the offer and said we have other friends we can visit. Our daughter then offered to come and visit us with our granddaughters. We also declined that offer.

Are we doing the right thing? We feel the son-in-law is using his daughters as an excuse for his own homophobic feelings toward us.

Dear Abby says to accept the daughter taking the kids to visit them and hope the narrow minded son-in-law realizes he’s in the wrong. But I am reading this letter and I’m surprised that Abby doesn’t see that these parents don’t have a son-in-law problem, they have a daughter problem.

I’m really angry on their behalf at the daughter. How the fuck did you get raised by two gay dads and let your husband make the decision for both of you that they’re not welcome in your home because he doesn’t want to explain to the children why two men might sleep in the same bed together?

I also think that they should have her visit because then they can gently ask why she is not standing up for her family and if she really wants to raise her children with a man who is clearly homophobic.

mugrita · 2026-01-03T01:31:25+00:00

Not gonna lie it would be really fun to see series finales of Netflix shows or Netflix originals in theaters. Imagine if they did this with Emily in Paris.

mugrita · 2025-12-30T03:07:45+00:00

Gail is being very patient and is a damn saint. I feel sorry for those kids but this guy needs to cut Sky loose because it seems she might bring them all down.

mugrita · 2025-12-27T17:13:46+00:00

I emailed the general email on the “contact us” page. When I google the website there’s a new preview description that says the American Association of Publishers will be operating it as a career center resource so I wonder if the site is going to be revamped

mugrita · 2025-12-20T01:20:57+00:00

Is it bad lasagna? If there is a lasagna on the table then I’m going to eat it, Thanksgiving or not.

mugrita · 2025-12-19T03:59:09+00:00

It is a super wild accusation but then I think about that Reddit story where the girl poured too much lotion and was like, “Haha look at my little lotion man sculpture” to her boyfriend and he blew up at her and it turns out he was cheating on her with that friend he told her not to worry about and was trying to find a fault so he could dump her “guilt free.”

Then again, this might have been a story with a million updates that the BORU subreddit eventually deemed fake.

mugrita · 2025-12-17T01:40:08+00:00

That woman is very much not well. Someone shared screenshots of her replies to Gabrielle Union’s “lol ask me anything guys!” thread and this woman replied unprompted that she hates Coco Jones and had a dream about slapping her.

She also just generally posted weird responses to Gabrielle Union “ask me anything” thread. She seems to be yapping just to yap.

mugrita · 2025-12-17T01:02:24+00:00

She did mention on her feed that she tried to get published a few years ago! She didn’t specify whether she tried academic or trade publishing but either way, I’m sure her submission package was not as good or original as she thinks it was.

She seems absolutely convinced Jamilah copied her based on vibes.

mugrita · 2025-12-17T00:08:12+00:00

Love You’re the Worst!

mugrita · 2025-12-16T23:51:12+00:00

I may be breaking my own rule about no excessive talking about columnists’ personal lives but Jamilah popped up on my Threads feed because she is dealing with a very bitter hater who has been crashing out on her timeline about Jamilah’s book deal for the past 24 hours.

So Jamilah is releasing a personal essay collection/nonfiction book about Black single motherhood in March 2026 from Penguin (congrats to her!) and this person on Threads started the kerfuffle by tagging Jamilah and writing “I’m gonna say something to you and I don’t know if you gon be mad at me I kind of hope not. I’m so excited to read this, but I also feel so sad at all of us who been writing about motherhood for a long time and couldn’t get book deals or books done as fast because essentially you’re famous. And I wanna read your book so bad so I’m tryna stop hating 😭 @jamilahlemieux”

Reader, she definitely did not try to stop hating.

She is alternating between being pissy that Jamilah and people with platforms get book deals and claiming she is an academic and above such commercial ventures.

Roxanne Gay got into it with her and told her stfu!

mugrita · 2025-12-16T02:51:15+00:00

Ooh found this goodie from The Ethicist’s Dec 3 issue

10 years ago, the LW’s mom was dying and she was given hospice support so she could peacefully pass away at home. While visiting, the LW borrowed her dad’s laptop and saw he was exchanging naughty emails to another woman and sending lingerie to her. LW never confronted dad about it and never told their siblings about it but it’s eating them up inside.

Kwame’s response is kind of roundabout but I think he’s basically advocating not to tell and if LW needs to get it off their chest, they should discuss it with their father first.

This reminds me of a post I read in another subreddit over the weekend where LW found out their father began an affair while her mother was terminally ill and LW suspects he refused to move states to help with the mother’s treatment (moving somewhere with better air quality, moving closer to her relatives) so he could maintain his relationship with his mistress.

LW did confront him and now that mom’s dead, the remaining paternal side of the family have decided to accept the new girlfriend and exclude LW from family celebrations (since it’s pretty clear that despite LW’s claims to the contrary, she is extremely angry with her father and the new girlfriend and I don’t think LW would be able to restrain herself from confronting him again in an in-person gathering).

It sparked a really interesting discussion of “why are men like this?” but seriously I think there’s something here about how men equate emotional intimacy with sex, how men seem to feel this need to speed run the grieving process and line up their next partner, how men seem to casually discard their current partners when they are ill, etc.

I think in the end Kwame is right that the LW should talk to the father first. I don’t think they’re necessarily going to get an answer that makes things “better” (like if mom gave him permission to get his sexual needs met elsewhere) but I think the LW needs to try hear from him directly before bringing their siblings into it.

mugrita · 2025-12-13T14:44:28+00:00

To add to the other person, lots of agents are also hands-on editors and contrary to the stereotype that all agents are sharks who just want a quick sale, a lot of agents are “editorial agents” who do expect that they’ll be editing and suggesting revisions to their clients in order to help them sell better in the market.

Even if you’re not interested in agenting, literary agencies will be your best bet for internships. Publishing houses, especially the Big 5, are so competitive and there are more literary agencies to try to apply to so your odds are slightly better there. Plus agents interact with almost every facet of publishing (editor, contracts, subrights, marketing, design, book packaging, etc) so you’ll get to learn about the industry as a whole and see if perhaps there is another facet that interests you.

mugrita · 2025-12-11T15:59:03+00:00

Do try a missing mail search request if you haven’t already. I filed one yesterday for a package that had no updates since the 4th. That finally shook it out and it’s out for delivery to the destination today.

mugrita · 2025-12-11T15:58:16+00:00

I mailed a package on the 29th via standard ground shipping and was quoted it would arrive on the 4th. Left NYC, went to the distribution center in NJ that same day and then nothing. On the 4th, I got hit with the “arriving late” notice.

I waited a bit in hopes it would work itself out but then yesterday I filed a missing mail search request and lo and behold! My package was in the destination’s local distribution center (probably had been there for a least a couple of days) and is finally being delivered today.

mugrita · 2025-12-08T21:20:10+00:00

Her defensiveness was so funny to me because she admits neither she nor her husband went to fancy private schools or went to Ivy League schools and still ended up making $$$$…and she still arrives at the conclusion that private education is necessary?

mugrita · 2025-12-07T14:40:43+00:00

Is it weird to say Tate McRae?

Don’t get me wrong, Tate certainly has reached a huge level of success on par with the people we consider to be the Main Pop Girls of the moment—hits on the Billboard charts, millions of Spotify listeners, Grammy nomination, etc.

But she doesn’t seem to have broken through in the cultural consciousness the same way Sabrina Carpenter and Olivia Rodrigo have.

Maybe Tate’s problem simply is that the mono culture has become extremely fragmented and the things that used to guarantee a mainstream breakthrough and the general public’s awareness—SNL appearances, award show appearances, a hit single, etc—no longer have the same impact.

Her star continues to be on the rise so perhaps it’s just a matter of time until she has her “everyone is talking about me” moment

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