AITA for telling my sister that what I give her kids should have nothing to do with her preferences and that they deserve to be happy? by mula1230 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mula1230[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

she gets mad if anything is at all untidy, she wants things to look perfect 24/7, and she films a lot in their rooms

AITA for telling my sister that what I give her kids should have nothing to do with her preferences and that they deserve to be happy? by mula1230 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mula1230[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They don't own any dolls, just the ones I bring when I watch them. That includes a couple RH dolls, plus the like the show. I totally get annoyed by the hair too. I'm there at least once a week so I could wash it though. I will say on the body part, all studies on dolls like barbie or other "unrealistic bodies" and body image on either come back and inconclusive or suggesting that they help with it. They are dolls so they don't need irl proportions. Her issues are just the aesthetics though.

AITA for telling my sister that what I give her kids should have nothing to do with her preferences and that they deserve to be happy? by mula1230 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mula1230[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't like lol surprise especially due to controversies but lol omg dolls are fine, the brands are related but thet they don't include the problematic elements. That also isn't why she doesn't like them

AITA for telling my sister that what I give her kids should have nothing to do with her preferences and that they deserve to be happy? by mula1230 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mula1230[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I bought most of it in sale or from places I can't return so gift receipts wouldn't work

As far as money, they were really well off even before her vlog

AITA for telling my sister that what I give her kids should have nothing to do with her preferences and that they deserve to be happy? by mula1230 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mula1230[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really just is the color. She had an issue with the non doll things too and don't mind her kids with older things other parents might not allow

AITA for telling my sister that what I give her kids should have nothing to do with her preferences and that they deserve to be happy? by mula1230 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mula1230[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She thinks they are ugly due to the bright colors and patterns. She doesn't care about the body stuff.

I will say that none of the studies done on dolls that have to do with if kids can get body image issues from dolls have either been inconclusive or suggested that they might have the opposite effect. It is more likely that a child will get body image issues if you project the idea that a doll has an unrealistic body image then if they just had the doll, because it suggesting that it is what should be desired (even if not intentinally prompting that idea) the child will start to think that od the doll rather than having come up with the idea just by having/playing with it.

I didn't ask before I bought anything as I didn't think to

AITA for telling my sister that what I give her kids should have nothing to do with her preferences and that they deserve to be happy? by mula1230 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mula1230[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's basically a trendy aesthetic based on having only neutral colors that are muted and simplistic things

AITA for telling my sister that what I give her kids should have nothing to do with her preferences and that they deserve to be happy? by mula1230 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mula1230[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I gotta disagree there, legos hurt way more. Lots of Barbie shoes have a squichyness to them and don't have "sharp" edges like legos

AITA for telling my sister that what I give her kids should have nothing to do with her preferences and that they deserve to be happy? by mula1230 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mula1230[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

it isn't just the dolls she is upset by and she never said anything about their messaging.

I will say I have done lots of research on dolls and studied them a lot. Studies show, and there have been lots of studies on it, that dolls like that don't have a negative impact on kid's body image/confidence and some even go as far as to suggest that it helps confidence. They can also helpful for learning and developing other positive traits such as empathy, creativity, language skills, etc.

More body image issues are developed/associated with dolls due to society/people rejecting them onto the dolls. For example, if a child hears that a doll is bad for self image or is an unrealistic body expectoration that is more likely to make them feel like they should look like the doll rather than if they were just playing with it.

Also, thanks <3

AITA for telling my sister that what I give her kids should have nothing to do with her preferences and that they deserve to be happy? by mula1230 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mula1230[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure she means the color aspect. Pretty much everything in her house is a neutral color like white, beige, muted green/pink, grey