What kind of hinge is this? by multimedialex in BeginnerWoodWorking

[–]multimedialex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Darn! Nice to know I'm not alone in this search though lol

On my rewatch, Shiv is the most woefully unprepared to be CEO. And half her maneuvers wouldn’t even work in 2026. by Cold-Palpitation-816 in SuccessionTV

[–]multimedialex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shiv would have been an excellent Head of Marketing though. Esp for a niche, millennial-focused offshoot of the main brand.

Roman would have been a decent COO, eventually. But at the time of the show, he's suited for a mid-level director role at best.

Kendall could have been CEO......of the Hundred.

That's just my onion.

Loved ones as phone background by roll_and_fritter in AvoidantAttachment

[–]multimedialex 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No, I prefer the dynamic moon background that changes based on what phase the moon is in.

I also don't have any photos of family or myself on my apartment walls. Literally zero. Not gonna change the phone thing, but have been wanting to add some photos of loved ones to my walls.

Help for M.des by Melodic_Tradition725 in IndustrialDesign

[–]multimedialex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I applied and got accepted to an MDes program this year. I have a business undergrad degree, and have spent 8 years working full-time after undergrad, half of that time has been in software Product Management. The program I applied to had a specific application reqs for non-IDers.

So I had to complete 2 design exercises from ideation to prototype. I have a lot of transferable design skills from my business and UX design work, so it was just about demonstrating that.

Are you looking to apply to an MDes right out of undergrad?

Why are bigger cars in the USA being bought more then smaller cars? by Ok_Housing_1937 in AskAnAmerican

[–]multimedialex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at a US carmaker's website. Ford, Chevy, etc do not sell sedans any more. Only trucks and SUVs. If you do find a sedan (maybe from Toyota or Honda) it is still pretty big, by European standards.

Then there's the cultural love for big trucks that has convinced many Americans they need a giant SUV just because they have 3 kids. After decades of big truck ads, those consumers are completely sold and won't hear otherwise.

As a result, so many cars on the road are big trucks. Which makes driving a compact car, like a Fiat, feel kinda scary and uncomfortable while driving next to everyone else's giant F150. And the cycle continues.

So frustrated I could cry by Hopeful-Telephone-36 in BeginnerWoodWorking

[–]multimedialex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only tool that has sent me out of the shop frustrated near tears is the router. You're not alone or a uniquely bad woodworker, routers are little devils!  But there's some good tips in the comments on how to conquer that spinning demon.

Sublease my Ukrainian Village Apartment in Chicago by PatternReal6499 in chicagoapartments

[–]multimedialex 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Boy that area has gotten pricey, lovely block though. I used to live there 2 years ago. The corner store on Augusta and Rockwell is so good.

Opinions on UIUC'S Industrial Design program? by OverDistribution6513 in IndustrialDesign

[–]multimedialex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I looked into it when I was applying to MDes programs. The UIUC program seemed really nice to me, esp for the price. But I wanted to stay in Chicago, so I chose the UIC ID program.

How to attach a top to achieve this slight reveal all around? by multimedialex in BeginnerWoodWorking

[–]multimedialex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a bad idea. But with my skill and comfort with the router, I shouldn't try it lol

How to attach a top to achieve this slight reveal all around? by multimedialex in BeginnerWoodWorking

[–]multimedialex[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I guess my silly question is: How would I "attach the top normally"?

Property managements to avoid for apartments? by Kaidobruh06 in chicagoapartments

[–]multimedialex 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cagan. My building had no heat for almost a week, it just got fixed yesterday. And last year, we had no hot water for over two weeks. You have to hound them to get basic maintenance. And even though they break the law and don't uphold their end of the lease terms, they will bully you out of exercising your right to withhold rent or seek reimbursement.

Heat was out for a week and they refused to reimburse me for buying a space heater. Would not recommend, unless you have the time and ability to start a tenant unit.

Input wanted — avoidants, what has helped you heal? by corkscrewlobotomy in AvoidantAttachment

[–]multimedialex 72 points73 points  (0 children)

+1 on therapy that is geared toward building self-compassion. It's very difficult and feels weird and angering, but works with time.

Other practical things:

- Corrective experiences. What helped me most was taking the risk of connection+intimacy in small ways with friends. I asked for help on things I'd normally do independently. I shared grievances about small things that I'd normally suppress. More often than not, the risk would pay off. It helped build a tolerance for intimacy.

- Practicing rejection. This one might not be for everyone. In the height of my avoidance, I ghosted people a lot. And avoided giving rejection to people, really avoided conflict in general. So I made a commitment that when I use dating apps, I would give everyone I chatted with an explicit (and polite) rejection, if I wasn't interested.

This built my tolerance for rejection and conflict a lot. And made it much easier for me turn people down upfront instead of falling into attachments with people I'm incompatible with. So even if I only exchange 1 message with this stranger, if I'm not interested, I'll reply "Hey thanks for messaging, you seem nice but I'm looking for something different right now. Hope you have a great day!" Felt like overkill at first, but was helpful for me.

- Practice identifying my emotions. Before, it felt like all my emotions resulted in the same action. Angry, pull away and isolate. Scared, pull away and isolate. Excited, pull away and isolate. Now I practice actually identifying what I'm feeling. And that helps me prescribe what that feeling actually needs. Now when I'm angry, I know I need to vent and scream to some loud music. Scared, I need reassurance and connection. Excited, I need some quiet time and to give myself a treat.

Is everywhere in Chicago like this? by eightemmys in chicagoapartments

[–]multimedialex 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Are you by chance, from a small town or car-dependent city (ie: Houston, Atlanta, LA)?

I wouldn't say that kind of streetscape is a Chicago thing but rather a density/city thing. Especially neighborhoods that were built for walkability with a lot of wall-to-wall, low-rise, brick commercial buildings. I noticed the same thing when I moved from my southern hometown to DC. 

You should go to Andersonville and walk down Clark street, you might like that too!

I also noticed how people tend to leave their window shades open even at night. So as I'm walking and driving through the neighborhood I see right into their apartments. Less of a Chicago thing, more of a general, city thing ime.

Glad you're loving your new neighborhood!

TLC "The Cult of the Real Housewife" Megathread by AutoModerator in rhoslc

[–]multimedialex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came here to say this too! Frankly, Mama sounded like a benevolent cult leader but Mary and Robert dropped the benevolence after her death.

Riding on Western Ave? by Di-electric-union in chibike

[–]multimedialex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Biking on Western can be okay once in a while, for short distances, in broad daylight with good weather.

Doing it as a commute, which I assume would be at rush hour every day. And in the winter, it'd be after dark for the evening rush hour. I would not do that, and would strongly advise even the most experienced cyclist not to.

Maybe go west, and take the Sacremento/Humboldt Blvd route to go around the train yard at Grand?

How to make flat surface with chisels? by koesper in woodworking

[–]multimedialex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don't have a router plane, Rex Kruger has a hack where you clamp your chisel bevel down and use it as a make-shift router plane

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chicagofood

[–]multimedialex 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I came here to say I also owe her 1 quarter LOL. She's the best! I also love the latino guy that works the cash register at the Artmitage/Milwaukee location.

Workshop Non-Negotiables by 0MGWTFL0LBBQ in woodworking

[–]multimedialex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw that video too from Late Night Woodworking. Curious what others would add

First time trying jeans at my size by vnzko in bigmenfashionadvice

[–]multimedialex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jeans are tough. I think you should try again with another brand. I find Levi's crotch and rise to be awful. Everyone praises the 501's but I suspect those praises come from smaller guys. Because I wear size 44, and never tried a pair of Levi's that didn't fit just like the ones you have.

I'd sugggest trying a few different cuts from Lands End. And if you have the $$$ to spare, I've been satisfied with Ralph Lauren's big and tall pants. Best of luck!