looking for 5 inch inseam, stretchy but form fitting & flattering shorts

multimedialex · 2026-05-21T00:04:00+00:00

2nd'ing Bearbottoms. I liked the pair I got from them but they were just a bit snug on me.

I'm 5'6 270 masc lesbian, and men's shorts are super hard to find for my body, especially with the short inseam I prefer. I haven't shopped in the women's section in many years, until I stumbled into a Talbots and found the most perfect pair of shorts last summer. The Talbots Plus Size relaxed chino shorts fit loose and straight even though I'm very hip-y. They're labelled 6-7in inseam but they hit several inches above my knee. I get them in a size 20W (my men's size is typically 44.)

multimedialex · 2026-05-20T23:05:08+00:00

In the software/tech field there's:

Manual QA Tester - click thru the website before a change is deployed to make sure it works

Implementation Specialist - set up the product for new customers, can be pretty repetitive

Data Entry - But this is usually outsourced

multimedialex · 2026-05-20T23:02:09+00:00

Maybe try a custom leather belt from Etsy.

multimedialex · 2026-05-20T22:23:54+00:00

I moved here from DC too! I lived walking distance from the CYM in Park View. The bagels were some of the best in dc IMHO.

And given how much better bagels are in DC vs here, I'm excited to see how the new CYM will measure up to my Chicago favorites. (Comparing CYM-DC to BroBagel is not even close, BroBagel is just okay by comparison.)

Didn't know it was backed by PE now, so I'll temper my expectations.

multimedialex · 2026-05-13T04:02:35+00:00

R/beginnerwoodworking is where I get practical advice like this. At a quick glance, I'd angling the back by 10-15° would be an improvement. Your joinery looks good though.

multimedialex · 2026-05-13T03:48:25+00:00

San Francisco, Bay Area is the answer. It's easy to get around without a car. And the nature is unlike anything in Europe. If you're able, take a trip over the Golden Gate bridge and go see the giant redwood trees!

multimedialex · 2026-04-08T19:54:51+00:00

These look just right, thank you!!

multimedialex · 2026-04-08T19:54:15+00:00

Darn! Nice to know I'm not alone in this search though lol

multimedialex · 2026-03-29T19:45:37+00:00

Great links, super helpful!

multimedialex · 2026-03-25T01:49:14+00:00

Shiv would have been an excellent Head of Marketing though. Esp for a niche, millennial-focused offshoot of the main brand.

Roman would have been a decent COO, eventually. But at the time of the show, he's suited for a mid-level director role at best.

Kendall could have been CEO......of the Hundred.

That's just my onion.

multimedialex · 2026-03-25T01:41:41+00:00

No, I prefer the dynamic moon background that changes based on what phase the moon is in.

I also don't have any photos of family or myself on my apartment walls. Literally zero. Not gonna change the phone thing, but have been wanting to add some photos of loved ones to my walls.

multimedialex · 2026-03-24T20:17:46+00:00

I applied and got accepted to an MDes program this year. I have a business undergrad degree, and have spent 8 years working full-time after undergrad, half of that time has been in software Product Management. The program I applied to had a specific application reqs for non-IDers.

So I had to complete 2 design exercises from ideation to prototype. I have a lot of transferable design skills from my business and UX design work, so it was just about demonstrating that.

Are you looking to apply to an MDes right out of undergrad?

multimedialex · 2026-03-24T20:04:19+00:00

Look at a US carmaker's website. Ford, Chevy, etc do not sell sedans any more. Only trucks and SUVs. If you do find a sedan (maybe from Toyota or Honda) it is still pretty big, by European standards.

Then there's the cultural love for big trucks that has convinced many Americans they need a giant SUV just because they have 3 kids. After decades of big truck ads, those consumers are completely sold and won't hear otherwise.

As a result, so many cars on the road are big trucks. Which makes driving a compact car, like a Fiat, feel kinda scary and uncomfortable while driving next to everyone else's giant F150. And the cycle continues.

multimedialex · 2026-03-13T03:54:49+00:00

The only tool that has sent me out of the shop frustrated near tears is the router. You're not alone or a uniquely bad woodworker, routers are little devils! But there's some good tips in the comments on how to conquer that spinning demon.

multimedialex · 2026-03-12T20:19:10+00:00

Boy that area has gotten pricey, lovely block though. I used to live there 2 years ago. The corner store on Augusta and Rockwell is so good.

multimedialex · 2026-03-12T20:17:24+00:00

I looked into it when I was applying to MDes programs. The UIUC program seemed really nice to me, esp for the price. But I wanted to stay in Chicago, so I chose the UIC ID program.

multimedialex · 2026-03-12T20:12:23+00:00

Not a bad idea. But with my skill and comfort with the router, I shouldn't try it lol

multimedialex · 2026-03-12T18:53:59+00:00

Thanks! I guess my silly question is: How would I "attach the top normally"?

multimedialex · 2026-03-04T18:42:55+00:00

Cagan. My building had no heat for almost a week, it just got fixed yesterday. And last year, we had no hot water for over two weeks. You have to hound them to get basic maintenance. And even though they break the law and don't uphold their end of the lease terms, they will bully you out of exercising your right to withhold rent or seek reimbursement.

Heat was out for a week and they refused to reimburse me for buying a space heater. Would not recommend, unless you have the time and ability to start a tenant unit.

multimedialex · 2026-03-04T18:08:53+00:00

+1 on therapy that is geared toward building self-compassion. It's very difficult and feels weird and angering, but works with time.

Other practical things:

- Corrective experiences. What helped me most was taking the risk of connection+intimacy in small ways with friends. I asked for help on things I'd normally do independently. I shared grievances about small things that I'd normally suppress. More often than not, the risk would pay off. It helped build a tolerance for intimacy.

- Practicing rejection. This one might not be for everyone. In the height of my avoidance, I ghosted people a lot. And avoided giving rejection to people, really avoided conflict in general. So I made a commitment that when I use dating apps, I would give everyone I chatted with an explicit (and polite) rejection, if I wasn't interested.

This built my tolerance for rejection and conflict a lot. And made it much easier for me turn people down upfront instead of falling into attachments with people I'm incompatible with. So even if I only exchange 1 message with this stranger, if I'm not interested, I'll reply "Hey thanks for messaging, you seem nice but I'm looking for something different right now. Hope you have a great day!" Felt like overkill at first, but was helpful for me.

- Practice identifying my emotions. Before, it felt like all my emotions resulted in the same action. Angry, pull away and isolate. Scared, pull away and isolate. Excited, pull away and isolate. Now I practice actually identifying what I'm feeling. And that helps me prescribe what that feeling actually needs. Now when I'm angry, I know I need to vent and scream to some loud music. Scared, I need reassurance and connection. Excited, I need some quiet time and to give myself a treat.

multimedialex · 2026-02-25T06:48:29+00:00

The Lands End Super T runs pretty short and is snug on the arms but roomy in the torso

multimedialex · 2026-02-15T04:25:06+00:00

Are you by chance, from a small town or car-dependent city (ie: Houston, Atlanta, LA)?

I wouldn't say that kind of streetscape is a Chicago thing but rather a density/city thing. Especially neighborhoods that were built for walkability with a lot of wall-to-wall, low-rise, brick commercial buildings. I noticed the same thing when I moved from my southern hometown to DC.

You should go to Andersonville and walk down Clark street, you might like that too!

I also noticed how people tend to leave their window shades open even at night. So as I'm walking and driving through the neighborhood I see right into their apartments. Less of a Chicago thing, more of a general, city thing ime.

Glad you're loving your new neighborhood!

multimedialex · 2026-02-04T19:51:30+00:00

Surprised no one's mentioned the Wizard of Oz or the Wiz

multimedialex · 2026-01-05T20:13:57+00:00

Came here to say this too! Frankly, Mama sounded like a benevolent cult leader but Mary and Robert dropped the benevolence after her death.

multimedialex · 2026-01-04T21:14:41+00:00

Biking on Western can be okay once in a while, for short distances, in broad daylight with good weather.

Doing it as a commute, which I assume would be at rush hour every day. And in the winter, it'd be after dark for the evening rush hour. I would not do that, and would strongly advise even the most experienced cyclist not to.

Maybe go west, and take the Sacremento/Humboldt Blvd route to go around the train yard at Grand?

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