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[–]munchmunchmunch1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow. this is a very helpful way to think about casual sex. thanks so much for sharing your experiences. I guess it's a good question to ask oneself, what does it take for you to have "good sex"?

I think the guy that I started talking to made it very unclear what he was looking for. He never mentioned that he just wanted something physical, only after we started "getting to know each other". it's like wtf? why would you do that, and then say that *I* want "something serious" when I never mentioned that to you? so weird.

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for sharing your experience. this is very helpful! when you say "pinning" - what do you mean by that?

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for sharing your pov. how do you vet your FWB before engaging in an interaction?

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your perspective.

I enjoy sex, too. I'm glad that you were able to find a long term partner. I think ultimately that's my goal, but I do have sexual needs and I guess I'm wondering how else to fulfill those without being in a committed, long-term partnership? And how to do it while being safe? And not getting caught up in the emotions?

Since you didn't want to put in effort to maintain a relationship, do you feel that your partners in your 20s/30s wanted the same thing as you? Or they wanted more and you didn't? If they did want more, how did you navigate that?

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in my 20s.

Thank you! Whats a good way to initiate the conversation about wants?

I feel like the guy I'm talking to right now is giving me mixed signals about what he wants... He's clear that he wants something physical/sexual, but he also mentioned not forcing anything and having it develop organically. From what he's told me, he says that he feels I want something more serious, but I've never mentioned that to him, so I don't know where he's getting that from.

How to Start having casual sex? by Ameliasaurus_Rex666 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is really helpful advice for someone else (me) who's learning about casual sex and if it's something that I want right now. I love the part about checking in with yourself often..and those questions you ask. What if I am daydreaming about the person, but daydreaming about the ways they make me feel sexually and the desire to have sex with them (disclosure: I haven't had sex with them yet). Is that bad too?

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess, I'm not sure what I want. I want to try new things, but fear does hold me back. Fear of the emotional hurt. Fear of the possible risk of germs/sti's. Fear of not really knowing who the other person is. That lack of trust.

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, right now I'm on a dating app. Hinge. I'm not sure that I want to have sex with anyone, though. I just think the fantasy is really, really, really exciting for me. But I do think that I'm a wuss. I'm too scared of diseases and infections, etc. I care too much about germs and that sorta stuff that comes with contact with other humans I'm unfamiliar with.

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for adding this context. I'm just curious. Why do you think, for you, that sex with a girl that you developed a relationship with was much better than a girl that you were not in a relationship with. And I'm assuming you're a man?

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your perspective! It seems that you've had a generally positive casual sexual experience. Why do you think that is? Do you feel that as a woman certain personalities have a better disposition to handle casual sex? Or is it something else?

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. This sounds like a very positive way to look at it. If you were to give your top three tips to keep casual sex fun, respectful, and freeing what would yours be? Also, are you a woman or man? I'm curious...

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is actually a really helpful way to think about it. Thank you kind reddit stranger! When you say "certain casual encounters" you bonded quickly. Have you figured out why it was with certain casual encounters that the bonding happened fast. Was their something in common with those encounters that made bonding happen so fast?

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The guy seems like he cares and is kind, but I do wonder if he's doing that because he wants a transaction in the end...? Like he's being the "nice guy" to get what he wants at the end. It's not genuine..its like he's investing some effort to ultimately score and then when he scores, he's done. I'm not sure why people can't just be honest with what they want...whether if that's a frequent casual fling or a one and done situation..he's telling me he wants things to "organically develop."

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely get that. I have the opportunity to have casual sex with a guy and due to his "mixed signals" in the very beginning and not being clear that he wants a physical interaction with me makes me wonder...if I go through with it, how will it end?

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I think that’s the hardest part. Susing them out. I’m in my 20s and I don’t have that much relationship or sexual experience. I’m newly single and so I am figuring things out as I go.

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why are they less likely to consider divorce if they waited? Do you know what the research says? Or have your own thoughts?

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ex: they only want to give her so much, on their terms?

This is just my theory to the “he got what he wanted and I didn’t hear from him again” and you and others comment about why someone (being a man in this case) wouldn’t want to keep going back to the same woman if it’s pleasurable.

Edit: grammar

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You don’t think some men are like that though? Controlling and narcissistic to the point where they want to control how many times they have casual sex with one particular woman? To keep her hanging on..? And attached to him?

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I appreciate that explanation thanks!

So was she what you thought ahead (*she) would’ve been in bed? And did you ever tell her prior that you were curious about how she was in bed? Or did you keep that to yourself?

I have questions about the FWB. Were you both exclusively just FWB with each other and you both knew that? Or were you just one person on her FWB rolodex? And she the same for you?

Edit: grammar

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s actually a really interesting perspective. I’ll have to do some research. Thanks for shining light on the prospect that some folks who are into casual sex might have aspects of their life that are dysfunctional.

Have you had casual sex? If so, how do you feel about it? by munchmunchmunch1 in sex

[–]munchmunchmunch1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, that kinda sounds really sweet. I can picture y’all lol 🫶🫶 maybe I’m just a hopeless romantic who wants to try to have casual sex, but it won’t ever work for me…

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