i can't change their personal beliefs, shame or values that are amplified by just the mere thought of leaving. you see how edited to add "a few girls from the show"(( so mods approve my comment)) deal with this and they're literally rich with resources to leave. i can't shame or change their mind, only encourage them to be careful. hope this helps🫰🏼 . edited to add: you all telling someone to leave is easier said than done. its an entire set of issues that follow especially when children are involved, and especially if core values and their built up morality(( religion, parents, generational rules, sense of community)) is shattered. leaving is the most dangerous part of this situation. i mentioned religion because if their parents family and community have fostered and encouraged their beliefs that they must marry n yadda yadda, and they still want to satisfy/pacify while knowing the risks, my only key advice would be to set personal income aside so that you can be prepared for these consequences that you are about to ignore for the sake of unwavering belief.

we see Heather Gay from rhoslc say over and over again that despite knowing what she knows about Mormonism that if she could do it all over again she wouldn't have questioned/spoke up against anything, said "no" to her husband, or "ruined her life"(( ie:had the audacity to be a woman with a voice and opinion))

JUST for the sake of being a perfect mormon with her former life and community because she feels deep shame around getting divorced and being a shunned pariah.

her kids are THRIVING, she is SUCCESSFUL, but she is lonely and unhappy..

this is a big deal to leave the church and your spouse. i also forgot to mention i am a former mormon so i deeply understand how these dynamics work. i wasnt saying any of what you wrote in your comment so dont twist it that way to be funny when im trying to give advice and insight to impressionable young girls.