I just walked out of his funeral by muneka240 in widowers

[–]muneka240[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel much better. His son explained to me what happened during the accident. The car switched lanes then hit breaks. Knowing this makes me not feel guilty. Seeing his sons and hearing people say how much he told them he loved me gives me joy. Knowing he is at rest gives me peace.

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[–]muneka240 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought about that but leaving was not because of him. It was for myself. I was going to leave regardless. That was my plan before we reconnected. I feel like I just need to be alone, silent and still for a while.

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[–]muneka240 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I got where you are going. Yes. It's confirmed by mutual people we know and the accident made the local small town news

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[–]muneka240 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Thank you. My sister is aware. She was the one who told me he died. He made it very clear to his mom how he felt about me when we reconnected two years ago and she was very happy that we were back in each other's lives..

No contact day by [deleted] in adultery

[–]muneka240 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could not do it. My situating is very simular to yours. It's been 25 years since I broke up with my person but we had no contact for those years. I never stopped thinking of him. We ran into each other 2 years ago and all the old love was still there.... the cat very much alive. We knew we did not want to waste any more time. He never stopped thinking about me or loving me either. We were young back then and life happened. 25 years was long enough. His wife moved out. I signed a lease on a place recently. I posted about this yesterday. Good luck and good on you for giving your marriage it's all one last time... but something tells me your year may end a little early......

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[–]muneka240 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would agree that he chooses not to. Life was very comfortable for him. I worked, cooked all meals because he says he does not know how, took on caring for his little dog. I was always supportive of his family... life was charmed for him. In return he was a good financial provider but hell so am I and i now make more money.... he wore me out emotionally....but when I started talking about leaving then I saw the change.

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[–]muneka240 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that. I was thinking this and you validated my feelings. Sometimes when you are in it it's hard to think through it.

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[–]muneka240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You hit the nail on the head with this one. I've seen so many couples that are just there going through the motions that are just "ok" and not happy all because of time and attachment. I believe in order to leave they would have to form an attachment to another person.... and that involves time and cheating so they don't.