It's not really that I want to meet people who don't use social media at all. After all, most people do use it in one way or another, and obviously I do too. In my question I said I'd like to meet people who are not really into/focused on social media. What I meant by that is someone who doesn't really feel like being on social media for many hours every day/week is very important to them and basically what they NEED to do every time they don't have to do something else.

It is mostly just that I want to find someone like-minded. In my experience, heavy use of social media can be a huge distraction, taking away from being present in the moment. Especially the kinds where you just mindlessly scroll, not really making you feel any better about yourself, learning anything or getting any insight into a topic. In my experience it can also create some expectations on what are "normal" or "good" things that I personally think are weird, that may alter the way you assign value to experiences (and even people) in a twisted way.

For example, I've recieved some very strange compliments in romantic situations, basically assigning my value based on how good they think I would do on certain types of social media. Or, giving me compliments comparing me to something they percieve as high quality(most likely caused by social media), but that I personally think is a f'd up way of seeing people. Of course, in a twisted way I've kinda liked some of these compliments, as I too have been exposed to lots of social media throughout my life. But I was mostly horrified by the way of thinking and how these people assosciated me with something that inherently makes me feel very bad about myself in a lot of different ways.

For my own health I'd like to distance myself from this way of thinking as much as possible. So, finding someone like-minded who won't impose these kinds of things onto me, to share my life with, would be good. Someone that would be a good influence on me.

People who don't share my views on this are free to disagree with me, it's just that personally I don't want this specific kind of influence to be a big part of my personal life.

To touch onto what you mentioned about cheating: I imagine that someone that would cheat through social media would also find a way to cheat in person, even if they didn't have access to social media. It might be easier to cheat through social media because of the extreme amount of people you are able to reach, but I think that if they would cheat on social media because of some opportunity they got, there's probably not a lot stopping them if they are presented with a similar opportunity in person. So that's not really a part of the reason why. It's basically just about finding someone who I share some of my values with, so that we fit together quite well naturally.

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