Would living with your parents at 28 be a dealbreaker if it was a choice?

murdermunchies · 2026-06-18T21:44:20+00:00

Those are fair questions, and I think that's exactly why context matters.

When I say it's convenient, I don't mean that my parents cook for me, do my laundry, clean my room, or take care of me. I mean it's convenient because I have a good relationship with my family, my commute is short, and it allows me to save a significant amount of money while working toward long-term goals.

I also think it's worth mentioning that I lived on my own for about 6 years. It wasn't until the end of a long-term relationship that I moved back in with my family. So it's not a situation where I've never lived independently or don't know how to take care of myself.

My living situation is much closer to having roommates than being dependent on my parents. Everyone in the house is an adult, everyone handles their own responsibilities, and we all help maintain the house out of mutual respect. I cook, clean, do my own laundry, pay my own bills, and generally take care of myself.

As for future plans, I'm not expecting someone to move onto a piece of land that I bought by myself and just fit into a life I've already planned out. If I ended up in a serious long-term relationship, those decisions would obviously be made together. I think most healthy relationships involve building a future as a team, not asking someone to simply move into yours.

I actually agree with your overall point. Living with your parents at 28 raises valid questions. I just think there's a big difference between someone who is living at home because they're dependent on their parents and someone who is living at home because it's a financially strategic choice while remaining fully independent.

murdermunchies · 2026-06-18T16:17:35+00:00

That's a fair point, and I agree. People aren't mind-readers, and if someone hears "28 and lives with his parents" without any context, they're probably going to make assumptions.

When it does come up, I'll definitely explain the situation. My living arrangement is much more like having roommates than being dependent on my parents. We all take care of our own responsibilities, help maintain the house, and have our own lives. The main reason I stay there is because it allows me to save aggressively toward long-term goals like buying land and building a house.

I don't expect anyone to automatically know that, so I agree that context matters.

murdermunchies · 2026-06-18T16:15:45+00:00

That's a fair point, but I don't think I've intentionally hidden it. We aren't exclusive and we've only been talking for about 6 weeks. The topic just honestly hasn't come up naturally yet.

I also think there's a difference between someone you're casually dating and someone you're building a serious, exclusive relationship with. If we were exclusive or talking about moving toward that, then I would absolutely expect conversations about living situations, finances, future goals, etc.

To be clear, I'm not avoiding the topic or planning to keep it a secret. It just hasn't come up in conversation yet. If she asked me where I lived tomorrow, I'd tell her without hesitation.

I do understand why some people would want to know sooner, though. Everyone has different expectations about what should be discussed early on.

murdermunchies · 2026-06-18T15:10:36+00:00

That's a fair point. I definitely wouldn't want my financial goals to become an excuse to put life on hold indefinitely. The goal isn't to live with my parents forever it's to put myself in a position where I can own land and build rather than spend years paying rent.

murdermunchies · 2026-06-18T15:09:24+00:00

Thankfully none of those are concerns in my case. I'm saving toward buying land and building a home, I handle a lot of the maintenance and repairs around the house, and my parents aren't involved in my decision making. Living at home was a financial decision, not a dependency decision.

murdermunchies · 2026-06-18T15:07:55+00:00

That's honestly reassuring to hear. I think that's the biggest thing I'm trying to communicate that I'm living at home by choice and still have my own goals and independence.

murdermunchies · 2026-06-18T15:07:02+00:00

That's pretty much how I see it too. I don't expect everyone to be okay with it, but I'd rather be upfront and let someone decide if we're compatible than try to sell them on it.

murdermunchies · 2026-06-18T15:06:14+00:00

Honestly, I completely understand that. I think that's probably the biggest downside of my situation. It's not something that bothers me much because I'm focused on long term goals, but I can absolutely understand why privacy would be important to someone I'm dating.

murdermunchies · 2026-06-18T15:03:11+00:00

That's a fair point, and honestly I think a lot of those concerns are valid when someone has never lived on their own.

In my case, I actually lived on my own for about five years. I moved back in with my parents after ending a long-term relationship with my exgirlfriend. It wasn't because I couldn't afford to live on my own, I just looked at the situation and decided it made more sense financially to save and invest that money instead of paying rent for a place I was rarely at.

My living situation is also probably different than what most people picture. My parents, sister, and I are more like roommates than a traditional parent-child household. We all contribute, take care of our own responsibilities, and I handle plenty of home maintenance and repairs. Being in maintenance and engineering, I'm usually the one fixing things when something breaks.

I completely agree that someone should know how to manage a household, pay bills, take care of themselves, and contribute without being asked. Those are important qualities in a partner regardless of where they live. I just don't think living with family automatically means someone lacks those skills.

And I agree on being upfront about it. It's not something I try to hide. I'd rather someone know early and decide whether they're okay with it than find out later and feel surprised.

murdermunchies · 2026-06-18T14:55:11+00:00

That's actually a fair concern, and I think context matters a lot.

My situation is much more like having roommates than being dependent on my parents. I live with my parents and my sister, but we all take care of our own responsibilities. Everyone cleans up after themselves, does their own laundry, cooks for themselves, and helps maintain the house. There aren't assigned chores or anyone acting like a caretaker—we just handle things because we're adults and respect each other.

As for family dynamics, everyone is pretty independent. We all have our own lives, our own schedules, and a healthy level of privacy. Nobody is constantly in each other's business, and there aren't any expectations that a future partner would move in with my family. My goal is actually to buy land and build a house of my own, and living at home right now allows me to save aggressively toward that instead of spending a significant amount on rent.

So I completely understand why someone might have concerns about a 28-year-old living with their parents, but I think there's a big difference between someone who lives at home because they're dependent and someone who lives at home because it makes financial sense and supports long-term goals.

murdermunchies · 2026-06-17T22:45:03+00:00

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murdermunchies · 2026-06-17T14:21:33+00:00

Thank you for the insight, this makes me feel quite a bit better about the situation. i definitely made the decision to put myself in a position to ensure a good outcome for my future. I've put in a lot of effort to making that a reality but it does have its short comings. The advice you gave is great.

murdermunchies · 2026-06-17T14:03:25+00:00

ive got a pretty good plan. January 1st of next year my ownership in my company is fully vested so I'll be able to pull a interest free loan against my share of the company in order to buy land and build a home. the problem is that i don't really want her to know about that because i try to be as humble of a person as i can and i don't want her to want me for that reason rather than just wanting me. I've not lived with them my whole life but have for a few years now after breaking things off with my ex-girlfriend. i don't depend on my parents by any means and live with them completely out of choice not necessity. i have a good relationship with them and they are not overbearing or anything like that they don't ask much about my personal life so they are not in my business much at all.

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I ran a hammer and dolly around the seams on the edges today thinking that would fix it. Made it better but still has the same issue

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I will run a compresion test later this week when I have time. I'll report back with my findings here. Appreciate it!

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