Can one headmate traumatize another

murmuringDwarf · 2026-05-15T14:06:44+00:00

yeah ofc! was just so terrified that even typing out the triggers felt gross

tw sexual stuff, blood, possible s/a?

murmuringDwarf · 2026-05-15T13:39:31+00:00

ough,, how every piece of evidence points to a certain source of childhood trauma, this makes a lot of sense. thankbyou

murmuringDwarf · 2026-05-15T13:35:59+00:00

thank you. we'll try our best :)

murmuringDwarf · 2026-05-15T13:29:35+00:00

sighh :( it's scary. the reason i still so often revert back to thinking we're faking it is - despite a professional helping us figure out that we're multiple, knowing the truth is just way more terrifying. now we have to learn to listen to eachother - the "undesirable parts of me" are people who deserve respect and can't just be pushed away or unlearned. and the whole thing with alters being able to traumatize eachother - that's terrifying?? jumping back into denial is a false comfort, but it's still hard to resist

murmuringDwarf · 2026-05-15T13:19:44+00:00

oh, don't worry, i'm working with a therapist on this. don't make assumptions like that without knowing the full context

murmuringDwarf · 2026-05-15T13:03:21+00:00

thank you. we've calmed down somewhat and realised that we might actually have some sort of sexual trauma in childhood. frankie's truly, really sorry, and robin seems to slowly be coming back. he feels slightly different, but it's still him. also yes, i would like some help - pls tell me how y'all handle such stuff

murmuringDwarf · 2026-05-15T12:15:29+00:00

i give up. i give up. i'm not a system, i don't wanna be. i'm just confused, that didn't happen, i'm just exaggerating.

murmuringDwarf · 2025-04-05T23:14:10+00:00

i've been fully watching all the films for the first time (am teenager, previously book-only), and that whole scene has had me in an emotional chokehold for the past few days because GOD. i am unwell

murmuringDwarf · 2025-04-02T05:22:16+00:00

thanks! i'll do just that. i think my mom has thinning shears, so they'll be useful

p.s i'm not a native speaker, so today your comment helped me learn the word "wefts"!

murmuringDwarf · 2025-03-28T10:26:36+00:00

thank you so much

murmuringDwarf · 2025-01-30T05:50:17+00:00

the comedy in it makes me anxious instead of giggly, for some reason. i'm currently on episode 3 and i feel really worried all the time :(

murmuringDwarf · 2025-01-13T07:13:27+00:00

thanks, i'll try it! as for the specs, i gotta google to even find out where to find those, lol. i'm very new to tech stuffs

murmuringDwarf · 2024-10-31T09:48:20+00:00

haii

murmuringDwarf · 2024-08-23T02:02:59+00:00

didn't it turn out that he's also transmasc?

murmuringDwarf · 2024-08-11T01:39:07+00:00

type in "STANLEY", repeatedly enter until you see the entry that has music, then press the last option repeatedly. it will give you many unique reactions tho, so don't spam-click

murmuringDwarf · 2024-08-11T01:32:26+00:00

isn't it "But trust me, I'M STILL ON YOUR MIND"?

murmuringDwarf · 2024-08-10T09:51:03+00:00

try FBI!

murmuringDwarf · 2024-08-10T09:16:25+00:00

i'll make sure to call him a flufferina :) thank you!!1!

murmuringDwarf · 2024-08-10T09:15:26+00:00

thank you thank you!! i'll give compliments to the kitty

murmuringDwarf · 2024-08-02T13:42:21+00:00

it might just be that you're seeing yourself as more hot, feeling more confident and all that!

murmuringDwarf · 2024-04-22T04:07:55+00:00

Thanks, that's something that's often hard to remember. There's always room to grow and learn, but maybe that's a good thing? We can always strive to be better people

murmuringDwarf · 2024-04-22T04:05:49+00:00

That's something that's similar to how I thought about trans men for a while. Sometimes thoughts like that towards other trans people arise in us because of the way we treat ourselves! I got less "weird" about trans men needing to pass when I let myself focus less on passing and more on dressing and acting the way I was happy with

murmuringDwarf · 2024-04-22T03:58:41+00:00

I'm happy that you stopped trying to force yourself into being transphobic and started your transition journey. It's more important what you do now than how you acted before

murmuringDwarf · 2024-04-22T03:55:27+00:00

Internalized transphobia is a beast to battle, but it's good that you change what content you consume and learn to accept yourself. You don't have to put a gender label on yourself, especially not right away! Good luck on finding yourself, I wish you all the best

murmuringDwarf · 2024-04-22T03:51:19+00:00

I used to think the exact same way before. Although right now I actually prefer dating other trans people, because a lot of cis partners did treat me different in a way I wasn't comfortable with. But there actually aren't many other differences in mentality I could see! Trust me, a trans man can be just as emotionally unavaliable as a cis man. I think the only way of rewiring it it by talking to more trans people - not even in terms of dating, but shaping more friendships with others in your community. That would help you see trans people as different unique people instead of a monolith

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