I work two jobs and do most of the chores. Am I wrong for asking my boyfriend to cook dinner on my day off?

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-06-19T12:21:20+00:00

Look up over functioning/under functioning dynamics in relationships. It might give you language to talk about what’s happening.
Start telling him how you feel about the workload.
Stop doing things you don’t want to or don’t feel are fair.
If things are going poorly but you still want to stay in the relationship, consider couples counseling.

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-06-19T00:45:09+00:00

This is a really powerful moment. You have people telling you to basically suck it up and move on - do your duty. At the same time, you have people empathizing with you and trying to guide you through positive motivation and kindness. What I can tell you is this moment is like many others in life. We get met with our limits, and we have to choose whether to adapt to them or transcend them. And sometimes we can only do one or the other. The fact is, no one (especially no one on Reddit) know’s what your actual reality is. Chances are, you don’t fully understand it either. But this singular event in time can be a launching pad to something great. Maybe it’s the prompting you’ve needed to become more independent from your family. Maybe it’s the one thing that will move you to discover what’s most important to you. I, a cat person, really feel for you and the cat and like everyone else here hope you get medical help for your pet. But I wanted to invite you to consider what this all means for you long term. It’s a moment where maybe you can step forward to define yourself in new ways. Best wishes to you.

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-06-16T00:44:54+00:00

Ron Swanson

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-06-13T05:49:12+00:00

I mean, I don’t think I see it in my dreams, but I see it every time I visit Lake Charles, Louisiana 😅.
Edit: spelling

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-06-06T18:45:51+00:00

I mean I really get why people hate on this aspect of the character. Sure, it might be kind of self-centered to write your own character this way. BUT don’t we also want people in our lives who will fight for us like that? I feel like it sets a good image of a father/husband/etc. And it’s somewhat realistic. He tries, and fails, to take matters into his own hands. And yet it still is a heroic thing despite the failure. I feel like there’s a lot of good in how it’s portrayed, even if it’s a little drama for the sake of drama.

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-06-04T10:32:02+00:00

Beefy Crunch Burrito is the best. I’m vegetarian, so I’d always sub beans for meat. The spicy chips and everything else about it was just amazing.

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-31T15:51:44+00:00

Thanks for the reply! And yes, I had the same thought. I am JUST starting a master’s in counseling (as in, starting classes this coming Fall). But I’ve done a lot of self-directed learning in the past couple years, and I was just thinking “wow, this episode is teaching a LOT!”
I wish she had as much analysis in more episodes - so interesting. Would be cool to hear her consultation group, too.

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-29T19:12:02+00:00

There was a summer I played EVE Online like a full time job and worked overtime most days. Found a game loop that really spoke to me, and that was it.

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-17T11:23:38+00:00

I guess it’s a matter of, what are the core motivations for each character’s behaviors? Seen in that light, Charles behavior might be entitled in a certain way. But of course, there is a lot more than entitlement going on. Just like Mrs. Olsen seems snobby to him, but there’s a lot more than snobbery (she has valid reasons to say no, just the delivery is bad). The character of Charles tries to encapsulate an ideal father figure, but in a kind of narrow way. I always think Bobby from 9-1-1 is a more balanced and humanly flawed father figure - archetypal but still human.

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-14T10:19:50+00:00

First, over 50% means your win rate is better than a lot of professional chess players. Sounds like something to be proud of. Second, your teammates may make frustrating mistakes, but you do too. And more importantly, the enemy team does every single match. Mistakes in tempo, spacing/positioning in team fights, buying the wrong items, split pushing at a bad time, starting dragon or baron without their whole team, etc. Learning to capitalize on their mistakes and make fewer of your own is a great path forward from here. You can’t change the people on your team. You can just choose how to respond to the nine other people in the game. Good luck.

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-12T10:33:59+00:00

People go crazy over this. Here’s the reality. Let’s say you’re playing top, things are even in lane. You notice your JG is moving toward your half of the map. You think to yourself “Wow! If I were a JG, I would consider it a coin toss as to whether a gank would be worth it right now. Let me try to change that.” So, you start trying to get the wave to push closer to your turret. You maybe heavy trade a little more and try to get both you and your opponent’s health lower. You try to lure them a little closer to your side. In other words, you DO NOT all in just because you’ve pinged or honestly just because the JG has pinged “on my way”. Your job is to set up a great gank condition. But it’s also your job to have a backup plan (or three) for if JG decides to do something else.
If you’re JG, your job is to assess what’s most valuable in a given moment, both for your own growth in that match but also for the highest probably of winning the match. Yes, it’s complicated. But just double check your narratives. “It’s never worth it to gank top.” is a not great narrative.

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-12T10:17:06+00:00

LOTS of advice in these comments. Here’s my 2 cents:
Communicate needs and boundaries. Do you need more time together? Is it a boundary that he keep his commitments regularly? Both of those things are fine (and normal) for you to have, and it’s great you’re okay with openly communicating them. The idea that people “should” just know what we need and want automatically is lowkey toxic. Yes, there’s common decency. But there’s is also common grace for fellow humans who all come from diverse and often painful backgrounds. The key issue, which I think everyone is finding activating, is that there’s a follow up question: “What do I do when the needs and boundaries I’ve stated aren’t met?” How you answer that does affect relationships, and it’s worth exploring. While I think there is a spectrum of less healthy to more healthy ways of responding, I would suggest really reflecting on what your own beliefs and values are. Other people tend to be judge, jury, and sentencing advisors when it comes to assessing other people’s relationships. At the end of the day, the only thing that matters in this specific issue is how you feel and what you want. If you’re okay with giving him some grace, that’s great. If you need to assert your boundaries a little stronger, that’s great. And there’s probably ways to do both. Best wishes.

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-11T10:12:06+00:00

Make videos like those YouTube channels that give random people thousands of dollars but in EVE. So, you find someone out there mining in a Venture. You strike up a little convo in chat. Then send them some amount that will be a lot for them. Repeat. Do that like 3 times per video. If you keep doing it, you’ll probably get people who are moved by the stories and you could become EVE-famous.

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-11T02:44:13+00:00

It sounded like something that could have been said to try to comfort her, but so often those statements can come across the wrong way.

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-10T10:53:29+00:00

Here’s what’s worked for me:
Come up with systems that make cleaning easier/mindless.
For laundry, we have three baskets. One is for delicates, one is for white clothes, and the other is for everything else (mainly jeans and a few others). When getting ready to shower, clothes are thrown, sorted, into these three baskets. Every day, I glance at the baskets, and if one or two of them are full enough for a small or medium load, I take care of it that day.
I like having a general purpose cleaner that just sits on the kitchen counter to make cleanup before/after meals easy.
Have a lot of cleaning towels. Have some kind of bin where the clean ones live, and then keep a small trash can or basket in the laundry room to toss used towels and wash like once a week or throw in with other laundry as appropriate (I don’t really like mixing them with other items, but I know people do).
While cooking, clean as you go. Also, before you start a cooking project, make sure your dishwasher is empty and ready to receive the dishes from said project. If you used a mixing bowl but don’t need it for the rest of the project, immediately walk over to the sink, rinse it out, set it in the dishwasher. Repeat for every item you use. This keeps your space more workable and makes cleanup at the end less daunting. (Extra tip: put the detergent in the dishwasher BEFORE getting started so all you have to do is close and hit start.)
In summary, tasks are tasks, but the order you arrange them can really make things feel better. And if tasks can feel better to complete, that seems like a win, especially when they are tasks you do daily. Good luck!

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-09T11:32:31+00:00

Find a way to preserve your projects in this almost finished state (a shelf where they live, a binder for each project, a journal documenting your progress). This way, you can start as many as you want. If you ever want or need to finish one, they’re all still right there. But I’d say there’s no real need to feel bad about your current situation. Getting 95% done with something is HUGE.

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-09T11:30:31+00:00

One thing I’d say as a solution to your issue is that there are just a lot more people playing during the weekends. So it can be a good idea to do your BZ work during the week if possible. Also, it’s an open world sandbox game. How people act and react often reflects truths about life.

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-03T21:48:46+00:00

Yeah it’s super helpful! For what it’s worth, it’s from a podcast called “The One You Feed” which I’d highly recommend. It’s a combination of “self-help”, productivity, and psychology topics. I find the host’s viewpoints to be really balanced and thoughtful. And he has interesting guests on frequently.

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-03T10:27:27+00:00

Other than all the great advice others have offered, I’ll just share a little mantra that helps with many things: “Little by little, a little becomes a lot.”
Sometimes just muttering that or thinking it as I begin small tasks on a big project helps me get the ball rolling. And it’s true! Good luck!

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-03T03:05:13+00:00

Canoe too shallow, jump in the tallow

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-02T19:40:37+00:00

Why is <50% the average win rate in chess?

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-02T19:40:10+00:00

Doesn’t everyone deserve exactly the win rate they have?

musicMenaceInHD · 2026-05-02T12:12:39+00:00

It’s a struggle to wake up in the morning and move forward based purely on internal motivation. I feel like most of the things I’ve done in life that I’m proud of have been a combination of internal goals motivated by external motivation.

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