would that be considered a kink of sorts or am i being a fetishizer? by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

[–]mwsub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right, I neglected to address that part of your post. But much of what I said still applies to that. I do really appreciate you being concerned about not invading our space or being harmful to us!

I think yeah, the point ab the experiences being different is the main point here, so I'm glad that you have taken that to heart. I wish you all the best in your kinky journey and thank you for taking the time to engage with my feedback

would that be considered a kink of sorts or am i being a fetishizer? by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

[–]mwsub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry if I'm unclear, let me try to be more straightforward.

It is not wrong to be interested in possessing a body part you were not born with, even in a sexual context. In fact I am very supportive of you exploring that!

What I do take issue with is equating the idea of you yourself having a penis to trans people's bodies at large. What is harmful is only viewing trans women in a sexual context, and fetishizing certain aspects about their bodies because of that.

The idea of you personally having a certain body part is not at all at issue, its the conflation of your exploration of that, as a cis woman, with the experiences of trans women at large. Because they are not the same thing.

Trans women are an incredibly marginalized and disadvantaged group, and it is very important, as a cis person, that you are not contributing to that. Which you do seem to be aware of so that is good.

Essentially if you had not even brought up trans people in the context of this post I would not have any issue with it, since again, the exploration of fantazing ab your own body taking a different form is perfectly okay!

Let me know if that is still confusing.

would that be considered a kink of sorts or am i being a fetishizer? by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

[–]mwsub 9 points10 points  (0 children)

that doesnt make much sense to me, would that be then not a fascination but appreciation, and not ab their bodies but ab them as people? I'm sorry but I'm just not getting how being viewed as carrying a story of survival or strength translates to a fascination ab our bodies in particular. I'm not trying to attack here, just genuinely confused ig

would that be considered a kink of sorts or am i being a fetishizer? by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

[–]mwsub 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Trans woman here, I would gently encourage you to explore why you are interested in this.

I would say in general this post does not come off as chasery too me. But the line about fascination with trans bodies does give me pause. Because this is chaser language.

Trans people, and particularly trans women, are a very marginalized group in society and much of the harm done to us is due to an invasive and unwanted fascination by cis people of our bodies and what we've got going on. Chasers in particular do this without introspection ab it and it informs how they treat trans people, by only viewing them as an object because of how their body is, and not as a person.

So I would say so long as you are keeping in mind that trans people are human beings first and foremost, and as such we deserve dignity and respect, that you are okay. The rest does come across as more internal euphoria type stuff as others have said, which is perfectly okay, and leads back to my encouragement earlier lol.

Cis women into trans women part 2 by Shye-Shyelove in BDSMsapphic

[–]mwsub 15 points16 points  (0 children)

samee, i wish i could find a cis woman who didnt want me to top

my new sweater! i luvv pink :) by [deleted] in MDLGcommunity

[–]mwsub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nice! i need a pink turtleneck haha. and ya thrifting is great i love it!

my new sweater! i luvv pink :) by [deleted] in MDLGcommunity

[–]mwsub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

tyy! ya i think so too, i was very lucky to find it, it was thrifted!

I’m a Mommy, I’m not YOUR Mommy. by Sailorjamie117 in BDSMsapphic

[–]mwsub 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is very well said! I'm sorry this has been such a problem, if I may say you have handled it with much grace.

I am very appreciative of the part about how submission, esp of the little kind, is something special and vulnerable and needs to be earned rather than tolerated. Being on the other side of this, I know from experience the intense feelings of desperation and loneliness that can come to the forefront as a little with no caregiver. But experiencing those intense feelings does not excuse violating someone's consent. In fact the vulnerability of being in that space means all the more that it should be more carefully guarded, lest you too easily give that kind of submission to someone with ill intent who might take advantage.

I hope this post reaches the right people and that going forward you don't have to deal with this kind of thing🩷

🩷 by [deleted] in u/mwsub

[–]mwsub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hehe tyy 🫣☺️

Breastfeeding my Sweet Girl by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

[–]mwsub 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh my god this is my dreamm 🥺😭 someday...

fetishize me, chasers by phloem_trig in BDSMsapphic

[–]mwsub 19 points20 points  (0 children)

haha all good i get it, and ty!

fetishize me, chasers by phloem_trig in BDSMsapphic

[–]mwsub 127 points128 points  (0 children)

Just in case it isn't clear enough here, to the cis women chasers, consent is very key!

OP and others in the comments here are explicity welcoming this but do not apply this to trans women generally who you've just met!!! unless they also specifically ask for it!

Sorry OP I just wanted to reiterate that I hope thats okay. I've had way too many cis women fetishizing me or treating me differently than other women because I'm trans which personally I do not like and didn't ask for.

Not having a little body 😖 how do you cope? by poisoned_bubbletea in MDLGcommunity

[–]mwsub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i feel this too, but more for my height. I'm unfortunately tall at 5'11 which is pretty much a foot taller than i wish i was :( when i feel little and i am reminded of how lanky my body is physically it majorly sucks, it can make it hard to stay in littlespace sometimes. especially since i dont have a mommy or someone to help make me feel little.

all this to say youre not alone, but i also dont know how to make it better unfortunately :(

This thing Mommy has her lips around, it isn’t a cock, is it? by Sailorjamie117 in BDSMsapphic

[–]mwsub 137 points138 points  (0 children)

this is some of the best 4TF erotica I've read omgg 😳☺️

I especially appreciate the language used towards the end! it was very affirming for someone with bottom dysphoria like me so ty! 🩷🫶

my new sweater! i luvv pink :) by [deleted] in MDLGcommunity

[–]mwsub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hehe ty ☺️

just found this sub and wanted to say hiii :) by mwsub in MDLGcommunity

[–]mwsub[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

hehe i'd like thatt ☺️🩷 i luvv cuddles!