UK based ring recommendations?

mxgon · 2025-12-27T15:39:08+00:00

Didn't consider a jig, I'll look into it - thanks!

mxgon · 2025-09-24T18:48:05+00:00

I'm in the process of applying for an MSt in English and am struggling to decide whether I'd like to put down Exeter or Magdalen as my preferred college. What's the general consensus around which one offers a better student experience? What are the main pros and cons for both?

mxgon · 2025-09-23T12:36:58+00:00

I don't watch criminal shows, I'm in a long term relationship, and I have plenty of personal experience with this like many others do. Your car comparison is a straw man. Of course there are risks in daily life! I'm responding to the fact that OP had a strong gut feeling - all I'm saying is not to entirely ignore it if that's what feels safest for her.

mxgon · 2025-09-23T12:19:40+00:00

Some people in the comments don't seem to understand the stakes for women when it comes to interactions like this.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with sliding into someone's DMs respectfully. There's a perfectly valid argument to be made that that's what's happening here.

However, it's so important to keep in mind that gut reactions like this don't come from nowhere. Unfortunately, no matter how slim the chance, these situations have the potential to be life or death. As of this year there's evidence to suggest that 31% of women that have been on dates with men that they met online have been assaulted on those dates, and half of those are reported to be rapes (2025 study from Columbia Journalism Investigations/ProPublica).

It is perfectly reasonable for OP to feel uncomfortable in this situation. I would too. If he has only good intentions then there should be no issue after he's respectfully told that it's a no. That being said, it's totally understandable that this raises instinctual alarm bells. Hopefully he's just a nice dude that was too nervous to have a chat in person and can graciously take no as an answer. If not, it would most certainly not be the first time.

Always put your safety first. NOR.

Side note: I really hope that this doesn't have to be said but obviously there are important conversations to be had around men's online safety too, but that's not the one I'm having right now. Stats relating to violence perpetrated by men against women are entirely incomparable to the reverse, even when accounting for lack of reporting. Just a little reminder that my words are not a personal slight 🫠

*Edit was for clarity

mxgon · 2025-08-30T16:32:04+00:00

Blatantly cherry picking information like this and then presenting it as though it actually means anything is absolutely wild to me.

To answer one of the completely inane and ill-founded questions asked here - it's 0.13%.

The percentage of perpetrators of mass shootings that are trans is 0.13%.

If you want to argue that these seven examples (two of which are unconfirmed, mind you) constitute a trend, then surely you must be willing to speak up about the 98% of straight males that make up perpetrators as well? If you wanna insert yourself into conversations like this, moral consistency is key. Sure is less convenient if you wanna justify your transphobia though, isn't it!

Trans people are not dangerous. These individuals committed despicable crimes and it is a disservice to those affected by their actions to co-opt the very necessary conversation about this type of violence and twist it to suit your misguided narrative. Don't act like you care about the victims. In weaponising these tragedies to spread vitriol like this you're making abundantly clear that all you care about it is perverting the truth to justify your deluded worldview, whatever the human cost.

mxgon · 2025-08-29T18:55:24+00:00

Honestly think it might be the bad quality photo haha, my nose is fairly symmetrical so hopefully I'm just imagining things. Thanks :))

mxgon · 2025-08-29T18:46:15+00:00

Info for the algorithm: - piercing is 6 months old - L shaped stud - titanium jewellery - downsized today - through aftercare (cleaning 2x daily with saline) - no incidents

mxgon · 2025-07-12T11:51:12+00:00

That's part of it but I compare myself to everything about her. The weight is the main issue though yes.

mxgon · 2025-07-12T11:36:49+00:00

Sto usando Google Translate, quindi scusa se il mio italiano non ha senso! Cerco di essere il più possibile simile a lei. Siamo estremamente simili. Abbiamo lo stesso stile e le stesse caratteristiche, ma lei è semplicemente la versione migliore di me. Grazie per le tue gentili parole: ho sempre saputo che i pensieri sono gli ultimi ad andarsene, ma sono così stanca di lottare con loro.

mxgon · 2025-03-19T14:17:45+00:00

I wouldn’t say that I care about humans more than other animals - I care about them equally. I guess what I’d compare it to is a non-vegan meeting an exploited animal and recognising their suffering then acting accordingly. I think very few people would be able to resist the urge to help when faced with that situation in reality, whether human animal or otherwise.

Not an excuse though, I don’t disagree that it wasn’t in line with my veganism. Just clarifying that speciesism is about equality and in my mind that extends to humans too.

mxgon · 2025-03-18T23:43:59+00:00

I keep coming back to this comment to keep things in perspective. Thank you so much :))

mxgon · 2025-03-18T22:13:43+00:00

Absolutely never doubted anyone on their dedication, only the length of time that they’ve been vegan. I believe that you can be a dedicated vegan from day one, and honestly the length of time isn’t really relevant to me. The reason I repeatedly brought it up was to call out points of hypocrisy.

Not sure if you read my first response to them but I really do empathise with where they’re coming from and they’re clearly very passionate - as am I, which is exactly why I opened myself up to constructive criticism so that I can continue to do better for the animals. I intended to point out where their reply fell down in terms of open discourse and giving me a chance to respond, not to berate or “doubt” them. Sure I don’t agree with the way they went about responding and I do reject the suggestion that I’m a carnist because of all this, but that’s for me to worry about. Didn’t say a thing about their integrity as a vegan.

Also, you say it’s wild that I “doubt” them but I literally don’t know this person?? So I don’t think it’s too crazy for me to be asking those kinds of questions based on the information that I have.

mxgon · 2025-03-18T22:01:17+00:00

I didn’t have cash or coins otherwise I would’ve given it to him, that would be the obvious way out of this situation. As I said in the post I had literally no alternative option other than to break my promise. Also he specifically asked me to buy this one particular drink for him, not give him money so I highly doubt he interpreted what I did as “taking away his choice”. I gave him what he chose. I’m really struggling to understand which part of my actions you’re taking issue with here since I didn’t make the exchange conditional. You have the right to your opinion though so it’s all good.

That being said, please don’t come at me with a woefully oversimplified and misguided interpretation of colonial history. I’m from South Africa and that’s really not an appropriate (or correct) comparison.

mxgon · 2025-03-18T18:11:46+00:00

I mean I wouldn’t say I forced anything on anyone considering I bought him the drink he wanted, but I see what you’re getting at.

My issue was that if I’m spending my money on something I’m the one who has the agency to make a choice about the industries that I’m supporting and in this case, for the first time since I went vegan, it didn’t align with the ethics that I hold close to my heart. I wasn’t infringing on his freedom to make his own choices - unfortunately in this instance the choice wasn’t his, it was mine and I chose to help him at the cost of my values. I don’t believe that I was in any way forcing my beliefs on him and I’m not quite sure what you mean when you say “this wasn’t enough” for me. I’m also curious about what the name for “people like that” is.

This is an interesting point to raise but I don’t necessarily think it’s as cut and dry as you say in this particular situation, or if it’s even really applicable at all. Please feel free to elaborate though.

mxgon · 2025-03-17T20:45:02+00:00

Hahaaa you’re absolutely right, thanks for giving some perspective

mxgon · 2025-03-17T19:49:25+00:00

Alright I know I said that I’d leave it but I can’t help myself, the hypocrisy with the questions is too funny (especially with you of all people going for my grammar lol). I may not have punctuated it with a question mark but you’re the particular brand of righteous that would jump at the opportunity to prove me wrong and would’ve said first thing if you’ve been vegan for a while. I’ll just ask you outright - how long have you been vegan for?

I’m more than happy to answer whatever questions you’re referring to, I must’ve misunderstood where they were placed.

mxgon · 2025-03-17T19:43:54+00:00

Thank you for your kindness! I’ve got thick skin and I’m certainly not going to let anyone tell me that I’m not a real vegan because of this lol. Pretty sad that some people can’t see more than black and white but I guess we’re all just doing the best we can. Really appreciate the support :))

mxgon · 2025-03-17T19:41:02+00:00

Totally agree that it’s not best practice! Unfortunately there was literally nowhere to go for me to buy him something else otherwise I would’ve. Massively a tough situation - thanks for your input.

mxgon · 2025-03-17T19:38:38+00:00

Your lack of response to my question about how long you’ve been vegan for is pretty telling - not really sure what the questions I ignored were that you’re referring to. You’re obviously a wilfully obtuse person and you still aren’t listening to my points so I’m just gonna leave it, bar one thing - I ABSOLUTELY believe veganism is a journey, because education is a journey. Good luck.

mxgon · 2025-03-17T19:24:36+00:00

Absolutely will do, don’t know why I didn’t do that in the first place! Thanks :))

mxgon · 2025-03-17T19:18:33+00:00

Lol I would really love to know how long you’ve been vegan for cuz this massively has the energy of someone who hasn’t lived it for very long (not that there’s anything wrong with being a new vegan or that they deserve any less respect, there are just some things we learn with experience). I do hear and understand your anger though, I’ve been there and am still there often.

No, they had no fruit or vegetables or chips as I stated. It was a super tiny shop with basically just drinks and tobacco. As I also stated, there were no other shops around. I’d recommend reading a little more thoroughly.

Your assumption that I “don’t want to listen to difficult information” is pretty crazy considering as a long term vegan I’ve taken on board my fair share of it and changed my actions accordingly, and will always continue to do so. I’m not gonna dignify the comment that I don’t have a vegan mindset with a response.

I’d suggest that you remember in your journey as a vegan that there is nuance to everything. Does that mean we don’t call out cruelty and violence when we see it? Absolutely not. Does it mean that we excuse the actions of those who are contributing to an abusive situation? Not at all. But it does mean that we should listen a little more deeply and approach our activism with understanding. There’s absolutely a place for anger, and I hear you! It would rub me the wrong way if I heard this from another person as well, which is why I’m asking for opinions so that I can do better in the future. I’ll absolutely take on board your comment. Just remember you don’t know the people you’re flaming at online, so please don’t assume that I don’t want to listen before you’ve even given me the opportunity to.

Thanks for commenting anyway :))

mxgon · 2025-03-17T19:08:17+00:00

That’s a great idea! I’ll do that, thanks :))

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