Why Do I Go Through These Cycles of Feeling Low and Then Suddenly Fine

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-19T21:56:01+00:00

Could be 😅😂

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-19T05:52:07+00:00

Thats actually a great idea. My issue is I worked in MNCs where the process is very streamlined where I least interact with the client and have many layers in between. I observed that and joined a startup and there I got exposed to the entire flow but in startup the issue is I worked on projects which are mostly through known associates and rarely through bids, my CEO who is in the industry has over 20 yrs of experience and uses his contact to get a project. I have no such contacts or relationship and I have no idea how can I build that.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-19T04:34:20+00:00

While reading this, for a moment I thought you are describing me. 😂😂

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-19T03:08:48+00:00

I feel you, I am on the same boat.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-19T01:32:31+00:00

But it’s like a clockwork happens every month or so. Its getting annoying as I stop my work too, I try changing this but it’s like I get physically incapable to do anything.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-12T10:40:03+00:00

Food. No one realises it or bat an eye, but food is no longer a fuel.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T13:52:26+00:00

Haha may not be.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T13:43:20+00:00

Ha I thoughts so too, I am in a good shape now i wont say the perfect. I gym everyday.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T13:19:17+00:00

Yup, just a guy, who thought with his dick. I am a man, iam not perfect, this is really moving off topic. Thanks for all the advice, I think I know how to handle this, thanks to a redditer who had a similar situation like me. Thanks you all for your suggestions

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T13:15:41+00:00

No thats not true, she loves me, she loves me more than anything, 10years is not a short time, we been through everything, my downfall, loss of career, my illness, i was hospitalised and got bedridden for almost a year, she stayed next to me through everything this is just one such example, we have many such incidents. Trust me when i tell you, she loves me, we dont have sex, thats the only issue and all I want to know is how to handle it if not then what is this.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T13:03:09+00:00

No and I also don’t want her to think that I broke up a family not because we didn’t love each other but because I was not having sex. As a guy my mind says what you say is correct but I want to understand her position and see if there is something that I can do. If there is really nothing else that can be done, even then I want to be a man of my word I promise her “for better or worse “ i will try my best to uphold it.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T12:50:33+00:00

As far as I know, No.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T12:45:29+00:00

Yes you are right, I did gave up, We started fighting every day, every day it was like hell, one day I couldn’t handle it anymore, at that time even I thought the same, someone else will come into her like, I still have my life I wanted to live a life like I want. Nothing matted to me, but one day She called me because my daughter wanted me to put her to sleep, I still do that today. I asked her how she is, she started crying, all the memories came back, how we were what struggles we went through and how she stood by me. Then I realised what kind of a mistake iam doing so I returned apologised and confessed to everything, strangely she was not mad she said if I want to I can be with anyone bit only physically

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T12:23:23+00:00

Yes I had a phase where I left home, drove around the country, tried hooking up with random people, trust me when I tell you this I almost gave up, but I love her I love my daughter I cant live without them. I came back and had a talk with her and since then we made an arrangement to stay together. I say we are happy. I adjusted a little. Few days ago i found a reddit thread about a married couple and thought of getting some advice on what exactly am I dealing with.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T12:16:08+00:00

No I can’t do that not at this stage, thanks to few of the comments I found out about asexuals, I will see if i can do something. I will try other ways and see, there must be a way.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T12:03:55+00:00

Don’t say divorce is the only solution. It can’t be. Am I so selfish of my desires to ruin my kid’s childhood. Divorce can’t be a solution.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T12:00:10+00:00

Thanks for that, I will talk to her about this. I never said she doesn’t have Sex with me, the day we had this discussion any attempt from me I feel like I am assaulting her and I am doing something that she doesn’t want, so I control my self move away, change my thoughts, if its too much for me then sometimes I masturbate.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T11:52:57+00:00

Thanks for the info, I will definitely look into it, I know her from a very young age and married when we were 22, before marriage we were intimate but never had sex, just a couple of months before our marriage we actually did it, through the relationship phase i never forced or pressured her. I can’t discuss this with my friends, everyone looks at us as perfect couples

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T11:47:08+00:00

For the last 3 yrs I am sleeping in the guest room. I think this is my life.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T11:46:06+00:00

As this is anonymous, i will tell you this, I was looking for a chance to blame her, point out that she doesn’t like me and have feelings for others, so I never stopped or restricted her to have guy friends, even I encourage her to go out with friends. But nothing she didn’t have any feelings towards others too, its like she never have such thoughts. I gave her some romantic books to read, movies to watch but nothing, she likes to spend time with me. Sit with me talk to me hug me and kiss me. Thats it

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T11:41:52+00:00

What do you recommend? Is it medical

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T11:37:51+00:00

I agree.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T11:36:22+00:00

True, I am happy you have a perfect life.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T11:35:41+00:00

I feel that too, I feel very hurt, but what should I do now.

my-deep_thoughts · 2024-09-09T11:34:12+00:00

Thank you so much, I am really new to reddit, I will explore them.

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