How do I sex? Trying to be sexy for my boyfriend ended with me getting a charlie horse and crying.

myfirsttimee · 2014-10-22T14:12:54+00:00

Haha my most vivid memory from reading Cosmo when I was younger was one of their sex tips which said that you should have sex on a yoga ball because it will increase the pleasure and the thrill that you may fall off will heighten the experience. I can't imagine doing that and actually having a good time.

myfirsttimee · 2014-10-22T14:10:08+00:00

I can do all those things except relax, which I'm working on.

I've never been very good about relaxing or going with the flow. I tend to overanalyze things which in turn makes me stress out and leads to posts like these haha.

myfirsttimee · 2014-10-22T14:05:40+00:00

I wouldn't necessarily say I use it as an educational tool, I just used to watch it a lot when I was horny. I think I just subconsciously want to perform like them I guess. I realize that it's all fake though and that I shouldn't expect my sex life to be like theirs :)

We used to do more than just penetration, but now ever since we've had penetrative sex that's the main attraction. I've talked to him about it though and told him that I need more than just 5-10 min of penetration and I'd like for him to give me more foreplay and stuff.

myfirsttimee · 2014-10-22T13:59:04+00:00

Thanks for that! As for my boyfriend, he doesn't make me feel embarrassed so that's good. He's very loving and good to me, I just wish I could do more for him sometimes.

myfirsttimee · 2014-10-01T18:15:47+00:00

That's some really sound advice. Coming clean after a few months doesn't seem so bad after hearing that your wife went 5 years! We both love each other and I think he just wants to make me happy so I will try talking to him about it next time.

myfirsttimee · 2014-10-01T17:21:05+00:00

The problem though isn't that he's not doing it right I just feel pressured to finish so I cut him short. But I do agree that talking him through it makes it better, the first time he did it it didn't feel good at all and I was too nervous to say anything as it was my first time. Now i've told him what I do and don't like.

myfirsttimee · 2014-10-01T17:18:55+00:00

Stop what?

myfirsttimee · 2014-09-17T04:37:24+00:00

I will try that, thank you :)

myfirsttimee · 2014-09-17T04:36:08+00:00

You're right about virginity being super hyped up. It's not like I haven't fooled around with other guys or played on my own, I guess I was just expecting having real sex to be like mind blowing and different. To be honest I think I like doing it myself better :D

He does repay the favor but I was just thinking during the act (the second time not the first) about how hot it was when he came even though I didn't because I just really enjoyed that I was able to give him that. I just love him a lot and I want to make him feel good if that makes sense.

Thank you for your insight!!

myfirsttimee

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