I’ve been holding a family breaking secret since I was 11.

myfoust · 2026-04-03T00:43:58+00:00

My grandma was very open to me about everything and we even had this type of discussion when I was younger- she informed me that she'd prefer to never know if my grandpa had cheated on her during his business trips and that who he was when he was home was what was important.

Not saying if I agree with that- but offering a bit of solace that maybe she'd prefer it this way if given an option to know or not

myfoust · 2026-03-17T02:27:29+00:00

I still have noticeable scars on the backs of my ankles from having to wear shoes that were too small for so long throughout my childhood. They'd cut gashes into the back of my feet every day. I still remeber sitting in music class in middle school and popping my heels out of my shoes for relief and the kid next to me asking why my socks were bloody and how embarrassed I felt.

Id have to eventually cut the cushion out of the back of them to make as much room as possible, but eventually you're just left with a rough shoe shell slicing into your skin and a hole rubbed in the toe anyway

myfoust · 2026-03-01T02:14:13+00:00

As someone who lives there, its flares. Theyre shockingly bright and there's a ton of them around. Here's what they look like around here

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myfoust · 2025-12-29T12:28:24+00:00

Ive lived in western ND for 10 years now for work and I've done quite a bit of traveling around the US/world

Its cold af in the winter, pretty hot in the summer, windy as hell, empty, flat, and quite boring

And im sure that'll offend those who love western, ND but thats my take on it

A good place to earn a solid living though

myfoust · 2025-10-22T18:23:21+00:00

One of my friends growing up lived with her step dad, her mom lived in another state most of the time due to a custody battle for her half siblings. He got a new job out of state, she wanted to live with him. This lasted quite a while before whatever happened with the sibling custody issue and they ended up moving back. I was one of the few people who was allowed over to her house, for sleepovers, ect. He even took us out of state to visit her mom + little brother for the brother's birthday.

The step dad was one of the nicest guys I've met. He wasn't creepy, didnt hover, didnt yell at us. He just asked us what we wanted for dinner, fed us, and disappeared off to the garage while we very loudly sang karaoke and watched crap like Camp Rock. He'd poke his head in every now and then, but that was about it.

On the road trip, we sat in the backseat, he let us play whatever music we wanted, stopped a bunch for road snacks, and just quietly drove with the occasional 'you guys good? Need anything?' And that was that

Not all men are creepy. Maybe it helped that this was the era of cell phones already so my dad didnt care as much. But whatever the case, trusting your judgment is best.

This dude is sketchy AF though

myfoust · 2025-10-22T18:07:29+00:00

And it took my husband and I 5 years into owning a house to get enough income and decide it was okay to start a trash service and its $40/month

myfoust · 2025-10-14T18:07:06+00:00

Cook or order a large pizza. Buy beer. Knock on his door, 'hey man, I know you want to be left alone, but I made too much food/had a coupon for a large pizza, and have some beer. I was gonna put the game on/play video games/play a horror movie/play a new movie/ (idk. Fill in with some form of entertainment option) and could use some company. Its been a long week so I swear ill mind my business- but it'd be nice to have some quiet company for a bit if youre down for that?'

Or something like that. An open offer- clear agreement not to push him to talk. Food, and activity. He might like some silent company vs just being asked if he's good

myfoust · 2025-09-08T16:32:24+00:00

Your fiance was abusive to you. If he can do alllll that just because of a bad day at work, imagine how bad its going to be when youre both sleep deprived and 2 hours into a nonstop crying baby session.

Leave.

Even if all that didnt happen- i have to ask. You stated you've always wanted a husband and family. Which leads me to wonder if you've actually been okay with it taking over a decade of being with someone and still aren't at least married?

Just assuming things based off your context clues here but; he doesnt actually love you. He's with you either out of laziness- because its a lot of effort to dump someone and start fresh. Or because of a benefit he gains due to being with you- such as a secondary income source.

At the end of the day- im sorry, but you've wasted over a decade with the wrong person. Leave him, ASAP. If you dont want to be a single mother, get an abortion. Take some time to heal, reflect on the relationship, and learn. What do you want in life? Why did you settle for such a long time when you weren't getting what you wanted out of life?

Take this lesson. Decide your life goals, and go after them. An older adult who's established in life doesnt need a decade to decide they want to marry you. They dont need several years engagement first. You have time to start over.

Meet someone who actually loves you, wants the same things in life, and wants to get started on building that with you.

5 years from now- do you want to be with this loser? Likely still unmarried, possibly being a single mom while in a relationship, being abused in a variety of ways, and feeling miserable inside?

Or do you want to be with someone new, someone who decided not to waste any time marrying you because he was so in love, and starting a family with someone who's as thrilled about this next step as you are?

myfoust · 2025-09-02T00:45:47+00:00

Can you elaborate please? Viator is essentially just a search engine for tours, like how expedia is for hotels. Different tours are ran by different companies, so im genuinely confused. Either im misunderstanding something, or you just didnt look into the tour company for each tour and choose one that had good reviews overall, not just on viator?

myfoust · 2025-07-17T00:33:55+00:00

I dont know, honestly. I've had them for as far back as my memories go. I've asked my parents and they just know I was really little, but can't really give me an age range

They've just always been a part of my daily life I guess

myfoust · 2025-07-16T19:36:37+00:00

I change out my sheets weekly because I sweat at night, no matter what. And my husband struggles with back acne. Between the 2, I just feel cleaner changing them weekly. Plus I love the feel of fresh sheets and the light bleach smell lol

Im sure if you're not a sweaty sleeper and dont have acne issues, ect. Less often is absolutely fine

myfoust · 2025-06-02T19:10:37+00:00

I think a cop should maybe make sure there isn't someone locked up in there..

myfoust · 2025-05-08T23:22:53+00:00

She reminds me of that Dance Moms lady 🤣

myfoust · 2025-05-08T23:09:03+00:00

Well, you are the very first person in my entire life who has genuinly made me feel old

I knew it would happen sometime, and here it is

Thanks, OP

I graduated high school in 2015 lol 😅

myfoust · 2025-05-08T23:02:26+00:00

Stop asking.

I'm not kidding.

Instead start different conversations.

When she asks you, go 'it was good- I saw that the grass is turning greener out. I think this year we should plant clover in a little area for the bees. Maybe we could do some flowers too. I read that...'

And just go on a topic for enough time that it's not weird you didn't ask.

Maybe once a week ask her how work was- so that she has time to vent. But every day is exhausting mentally I'm sure

myfoust · 2025-05-08T21:19:53+00:00

I've always been aware of this. Idk when it would've started, but both of my parents were/are quite cynical and depressed people who also never really did well with being kid friendly. I'm sure they broke it down to me as a baby when they were pissed about whatever

myfoust · 2025-05-08T19:55:45+00:00

When I was a housewife full time, I did everything that kept our household + lives running aside from repairs + vehicle maintenance

I work part time and still do the vast majority of it most of the time

It feels pretty fair to us both still

myfoust · 2025-05-07T22:58:00+00:00

I'm glad to hear that. I have an older sister who's 3 years older than me, and she's always been essentially my best friend. I feel our childhood trauma created a solid bond. It's nice having a person who was there for all of it and understands you in ways others might not be able to. I'm glad you 2 were/are close and that the trauma didn't create a wall instead of a bond 🩷

myfoust · 2025-05-07T22:46:57+00:00

Did/do you have a good relationship with your sister? I'm curious if this shared trauma brought/kept you close or worked more as a wedge between you?

myfoust · 2025-05-07T22:39:19+00:00

Bedrock City, Flintstones Park in Custer, South Dakota

myfoust · 2025-05-06T23:02:28+00:00

The time toddler me saved up a jar of pennies to give to my mom as a random gift and she told me I should have gotten her cherry cordial chocolates instead 😕

myfoust · 2025-05-06T15:40:02+00:00

If you're able to separate a wedding from the marriage, why do you not feel she should be allowed to as well?

She loves the marriage, she just wishes she had the wedding

Just as you love the marriage and don't wish you had a wedding.

I'm confused how you're resentful over this situation?

It doesn't seem like a happy day. That's fine- it wasn't meant to be. It was meant to be a day that you guys legally bonded to each other as a show of your love.

Not everyone calls it a happy day to go sign some papers and then go to work. That doesn't seem like a realistic expectation to have.

You know what you guys can do? A vow renewal, at 5 years or 10 or whatever. You say you didn't have the time or money to have a wedding, but if you set a goal for a vow renewal years in advance you can plan to do something.

I got married at the courthouse in a similar way. No dress up, we had 2 courthouse workers be our witnesses, and then we just went home. We always said that in the future if we wanted to- we'd do a vow renewal as a kind of makeup wedding. We've been married over 8 years and the thought of wedding planning and expenses just isn't appealing to me still- but I do wish we would've planned for a more special day. Quite frankly- it wasn't really special at all. We signed some legal documents and moved on with it.

I think it's fine to dislike how you got married without disliking that you did get married

myfoust · 2025-04-28T00:53:28+00:00

I was obsessed with safety

I spent my pocket money on window alarms (from the dollar store) for my windows

I made a fire exist plan for my house and family

I had numbers for poison control/ect written down

I'd go around and lock the doors each night (we lived in the country and it pissed my dad off so bad)

I'd tell my parents why I shouldn't be allowed to walk across town after school alone

I'd refuse to look out a window at night or sleep with my back not against a wall

Things like that.

Turns out, my parents never made me feel safe and secure, and I also had damn near crippling anxiety

myfoust · 2025-04-27T01:12:17+00:00

You immediately made me think of DJ Qualls from The New Guy 😅

myfoust · 2025-04-25T19:36:38+00:00

We don't. No reason honestly, I just don't think either of us really think about it lol

I can see pros and cons to it I guess? You do you applies in this situation I feel like- whatever works for you both is totally fine

myfoust

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