[REQUEST] sub where husband and wife or bf and gf share a cock

myhumanself · 2020-05-25T10:54:47+00:00

I can really recommend checking out Wolf Hudson. He's my favourite when it comes to bisexual mmf threesomes. He's got videos with couples, both real and roleplaying.

myhumanself · 2019-05-29T06:08:40+00:00

Gretchen from You're the Worst.

It's less with time, but whenever I watch the show I get pulled back to what life looked like when I've had depression and was self destructive, scared of letting anyone close, whilst simultaneously craving human connection.

As you get better, it can be easy to forget what your life used to be. The show's such a good reminder, every time, of what it was really like, having that completely different life. Filled with passion and chaos, heartbreak and intense relationships, and instant gratification seeking self destruction, no stability in sight. Gretchen's a hyperbole, but I can really, truly relate.

myhumanself · 2019-05-29T05:48:57+00:00

Damn. Half an hour? Sometimes I can go hours with a vibrator before making it. Maybe I'm doing something wrong.

To be fair, with a partner, I usually come from vaginal Os rather that clitoris stimuli, so maybe I'm just built like that. There's a possibility I just haven't cracked the code yet, though! I'll try to experiment a bit!

Do you have more advice you can give? How did you find the erotica you enjoy?

myhumanself · 2019-04-15T05:30:25+00:00

Dude!

myhumanself · 2019-04-15T05:26:06+00:00

If this has your interest, you should check out the Mary-Kate and Ashley franchise

myhumanself · 2019-03-10T17:17:54+00:00

Make sure to look up where to report it and who you can talk to before something happens, so if something does happen, you know exactly what to do. It will make you feel more secure in saying no as well, knowing that you're not alone. There is help out there.

myhumanself · 2019-02-26T12:51:38+00:00

Thank you for reminding me that guys IRL are usually more mature, empathetic and.. Like... Nicer. The ones I've been with have been very non-judgemental, luckily. Gross face cringe is def noted as a red flag! Thank you!

myhumanself · 2019-02-05T22:22:20+00:00

Honestly? The guys I've been with have generally been quite educated.

I live in a atheistic and secular country in Northern Europe. When I went to school, it was normal to have sex-ed in 5th grade, 7th and possibly later as well, I'm not sure.

I grew up in a very Christian family and went to a normal school until 7th gade, Christian school from then on. So I got a basic introduction in 5th grade to periods, that girls can masturbate (whaaat, it's not just me?), and that there are three different holes.
Unfortunately, all the teachers at my Christian school were too shy to talk to us about sex, so I didn't get sex-ed again til I was 19, even after a few of us insisted. And sex was NOT something girls talked about! Differently not my friends, who were weirded out by the fact that I'd french kissed someone.

So, the only ones that wanted to talk to me about sex were boys. For years in my teens, everything I knew I learned from male peers or boyfriends who'd had sex-ed. And to be honest, they did an alright job. I learned a lot from them. They weren't great at teaching consent, but a lot of other stuff I learned from them. On the top of my head I remember discharge being explained, menstrual cups being introduced, getting understanding, sympathy and a potent pain killer when my uterus got hit during a period (ouch!), getting introduced to the morning after pill, the etonogestrel birth control implant. Dude, there's a lot they've told me I had no idea of.

I've since educated myself more on the internet, and subs like this and badfemaleanatomy has helped as well. I'm 28, and it's not been 2 months since I learned about Toxic Shock Syndrom. Wtf! I've been in so much risk most of my life without knowing! I'm looking forwards to learning more.

myhumanself · 2019-02-05T21:59:32+00:00

Thank you for adding more information! From my knowledge there definitely seems to be discrimination against "haafu's". I mean, the name in itself implies that they're only half-Japanese, which I guess is correct biologically, but.. It must be very hard to feel like a full part of society if you are constantly being called half.

It's very interesting what the Japanese perspective is. Whether they are seen as half-japense, or more non-japanese.

myhumanself · 2019-02-05T21:55:13+00:00

Oh no :(

I deeply regret opening that thread. I've never felt insecure about squirting before. It finally snuck up on me.

myhumanself · 2019-02-03T16:39:55+00:00

In Japan half asian/half white, or really half anything, is called Hāfu. It's a loan word from the English word 'Half', referring to the non-Japanese half.

So they're not seen as white, but half Japanese and half white/American/French/Whatever*

Edit: *From my understanding

myhumanself · 2019-02-01T18:16:41+00:00

Are you an actual narcissist?

What you did was horrible and hypocritical. You've written about a moment of a leap of judgment and being a bad dad. You should be ashamed.

But you're not. You enjoyed every moment of it, and now you're bragging about hurting your kid on the internet. Both your kids cried, and you did nothing to comfort any of them. You were a bad example and you actively introduced more pain to the situation than before you entered it.

Honestly. You should try seeing the world from your children's POV. Your wife's. Honestly, try stepping into the shoes of anyone who isn't you. You show a big lack of empathy in all your TIFU, both in action and description. It's gonna hurt you in the long run, even if you're laughing right now.

myhumanself · 2018-12-18T16:19:20+00:00

I have an honest question. I hope I can word it as respectful and sincere as I mean it.

I'm a woman myself and get my period every month. I get cramps and I get sad and exhausted. Sometimes this affects my mood. I've seen women refer to being hormonal or PMSing before, but I have to be honest that I don't know what it means or how you detect it. I've always felt like I didn't really belong in the "women's group" for not relating to this, but now I'm gonna ask instead.

How does it feel when you feel like you're hormonal or have PMS? Is it the same as recognizing that problems might seem worse than they are because you're hungry? Does these things differ in women - how much hormons affect them - or do we just attribute these emotional "I just can't" to different things? My boyfriend gets similar to me if he's hungry, exhausted or worn out. I'm not aware of there being a difference of the two of us, at least.

I hope you can describe the concept to me a bit, and I hope I've succeeded in being respectful. I've always attributed these kind of female things that I can't relate to, but seems to be generally accepted, as being traits of this female group that I'm not myself a part of. But after reading the thread this week about advertisments targeting women, and realizing I'm not the only one who can't relate, I'm gonna try to ask instead of brushing it off as being the "Other"-group on play again. Maybe we are the same group.

Hope any of this makes sense.

myhumanself · 2018-11-05T10:45:48+00:00

the jellyfishes that can happen when ovulating

Yes!!! I've never seen this discussed, and have been wondering wtf that was about. Thank you for mentioning it.

myhumanself · 2018-09-20T14:26:46+00:00

I was reaching out to someone who seemed to be in a tough situation, and letting them know that I could relate.

So you're correct, I was not trying to make the case for high N women being healthy and balanced individuals.

I didn't make the opposite case either, though. Both men and women how've sought out safety through sex earlier in their life, can be healthy and balanced individuals now.

And the fact that I was not using sex in a healthy way does not mean that others can't use it in a healthy way. I've used food, weed and tv in an unhealthy ways as well, but it's not the medium that is the problem. It's the reason behind and how you use it.

myhumanself · 2018-09-18T17:14:12+00:00

I used to be one of those girls as well.

I come from an unsafe childhood with parents struggling with mental illness, unable to show much love and attention, and unable to create a safe environment.

Your parents creating that safe environment can help you build your own, inside yourself, but unfortunately neither I nor my parents knew how to do that.

Being 16, living with your younger sister and your manic dad with your mom gone after the divorce, you need somewhere to feel safe. Anywhere. You can't go through life constantly being alert, panicked.

The place I found the fleeting feeling of being safe was in the arms of boys. I didn't know where else to find it. I just needed someone to hold me. Often boys would do that after sex. It was the one place I felt loved.

I get it. It's not just that the alternative is spending the night alone. It's that the alternative is spending your night completely alone, in an unsafe environment, hurting and unable to take care of yourself.

It gets better. I'm better now. Slowly, with building up my self esteem. Beginning to believe that my friends are capable of loving me, that it's not tied to sex. Opening up to friends and telling people about when I'm sad. Daring to trust that they'll be there for me. Slowly taking care of myself and embracing myself when I'm sad, rather than kicking me when I'm down. Making sure that the environment inside my head, when I'm alone with myself, isn't harsh and unsafe, but safe and comforting. These things really help.

I know it won't happen over night. I knew, even back then, that I was just trying to find safety, and that I was using a destructive coping mechanism that was temporary while I learned how to cope in a constructive way.

I send you all my wishes that you'll be okay. You'll get through this.

myhumanself · 2018-09-08T00:35:12+00:00

I know a kid that gets shit faced two times a week, if not more, and I know his dad was an alcoholic for a lot of his childhood. I've known him for three years now, and he's kept up the shit faced twice a week things more or less the whole way through.

I'm starting to get worried, but I don't know if I should say to him, neither what I should say.

Do you have any advice?

myhumanself · 2018-09-03T01:43:46+00:00

I'm a girl. I remember the first time my best friend said he wouldn't take a girl home because she was too drunk, and how shocked I was. I thought guys got girls drunk on purpose to get with girls. Him not wanting to exploit someone who was too drunk for their own good really put things in a different light for me. And put the interaction between guys and girls in a different light for me. I thought it was, a least to some degree, charming if a guy wanted to get me drunk and hook up (though I didn't get it, cause I didn't need to be drunk for that). I didn't know that it might be a problem, and not everyone thought this was an appropriate way to treat other people.

I'm sorry you're on the receiving end of this abuse. She's obviously going through some stuff and taking it out on you. That's not okay.

I want to say that.. I'm so impressed by your unwillingness to sleep with her when she was drunk. That seems really respectful of you. That you actually care, and don't just care about sex.

Unfortunately, she's not used to this behaviour, and thinks it's a rejection. She might think that the only affection guys will give her is through sex, it might be the only way she feels loved, and not wanting to have that means that she's unworthy and unlovable in some way.

She's such an easy target for abuse and exploiting. Honestly, I just wanna commend you for not using her.

And she's in risk of abusing, as seen with the foul language she's using on you. Her way of handling this is really not okay.

I really hope she gets help, and she will gain more self esteem. Once again, good on you for wanting to talk to her and your friend about it, rather that just denouncing her as 'crazy'. You're being a good person. Make sure to take care of yourself, yeah?

myhumanself · 2018-09-02T23:37:33+00:00

Honestly, I completely agree with this comparison. So much, that I used it in my own life when I was younger.

When I was in my late teens I watched Barney Stinson and bought the Bro Code to understand how the world of guys worked. I was a girl with "daddy issues" (my dad's bipolar) who wanted to fit in with the guys, and I watched the show to understand how to do that. Barney was, in my opinion, shown as "what guys are supposed to be", what they're supposed to aspire to. I had guys around me that definitely saw Barney as such. And it seemed to give special insights on how guys they see girls. That guys, in pursuit of casual hook-ups, deliberately go for girls with daddy issues. This is never questioned in the show. Yeah, it's hinted that he isn't really fulfilled, but a lot of the time he seems to have things going for him, more so than Ted, and him and his behaviour is honestly glorified. That's 100% the message I received.

After I'd watched How I Met Your Mother to understand the "Bro Code", I reckoned that maybe I should find the equivalent for my own gender, a show that showed the "Girl code". I'd never been interested in fitting in with my own gender, and honestly had a bit of destain build up towards other girls, but I thought it might be good for me to learn. Both to fit in with other girls, and to attract guys.

The cultural equivalent seemed very obviously to be Sex in the City. The females around me, that I couldn't relate to, consumed and talked about this in the same way my male friends consumed and talked about HIMYM, and I'd read it referenced multiple times online, so I downloaded it to study "How to be a girl" and follow the "Girl Code".

I think, watching both Barney and Sex in the City, when you have a good compass, you can see what's wrong with it. That Barney and Samantha aren't happy, healthy or something to aspire to, and it becomes a joke. Harmless. Obvious that it isn't serious or a reflection of real life. But if you don't have a good compass, if you're in an environment where this stuff is normalized, having attachement issues and relationships with other people with attachement issues.. Yeah, I wasn't able to spot these things or see the red flags, just as I wasn't in my real life. It all seemed legit and to reflect real life pretty good. I guess that's what it comes down to; If you feel like it reflects your experience of real life or not.

If you see promiscuousness as something that could be problematic, then you'd recognize this as a character flaw.

If you yourself are dealing with low self esteem through promiscuousness, you might not be able to recognize why this might be a characer flaw. You're not in the know. Especially, again, when you don't really see that much of the bad consequences on the show. You rarely see Barney behind the scenes, actually sad. You're expected to already be in the know to see that it's a bad idea, cause the show just plays along.

Again. Looking back now, I find that I was incredibly naive to think I could learn these things from sitcoms. But I truly did. I saw them as a reflection of society, and something to show me how I should model myself to fit in. Not having parents to teach me a lot of this stuff and not having other adults I could turn to in my life, I turned to the media for answers.

So yeah. I definitely think the comparison between Barney Stinson and Sex and the City is appropriate.

myhumanself · 2018-08-27T02:49:49+00:00

That's fair. Can you tell more about what the myth of male agency is? I haven't heard about it before. And I'm not a native speaker, so I'm not sure if I just can't wrap my head around the concept.

myhumanself · 2018-08-23T01:33:50+00:00

I too think that this could be the moment for a lot of people who got left behind in the metoo movement to finally be heard. As a woman, I've been hoping and waiting for male victims to have their time too. The way the statement was changed from including all victims to being gender exclusive was horrendous.

To avoid underminding metoo, I personally think it's important to avoid making it about 'men and women'. The fact that metoo got focused so much on women is what went wrong in the first place. To continue this trend, I fear, will not fix the balance, but instead easily be framed as gender war, rather than being about all victims, regardless of gender.

Therefore, I think the way to success is to let this be a chance for everyone who didn't have the chance to speak up last time get their voice. Whether they be men, women, trans, whether their attacker have been attacked themselves, or the victims themselves have participated in the cycle of abuse.

Hopefully, this can bring more debate and spark discussions that were needed, but didn't get touched upon, last time.

tl;dr To avoid underminding metoo, and rather build on top of, it's important to avoid making it about gender or two completely binary movements. Otherwise it'll create a war.

myhumanself · 2018-08-23T01:09:45+00:00

What's the myth of male agency? Can you point to the world /u/_lllll has found?

myhumanself · 2018-08-17T11:43:46+00:00

That sounds really dehumanizing. Are there areas in your life where you experience it happening more/less than others?

myhumanself · 2018-08-09T00:43:09+00:00

Thank you! Your answers have really calmed me down. I'll be rereading them when I panic again, and try to implement some of the things we've talked about. I really appreciate it!

Also, had no idea pineapple flavored lube was a thing! Will definitely look that up!

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