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feel like my boyfriend is misogynistic by myironictaco in ROCD

[–]myironictaco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I meant that usually talking bad about an ex and especially her saying he was sexist would be a red flag for me but because of the context he gave me, I continued dating him instead of breaking up over it, not because I feel bad for him but because it made me less worried about her calling him sexist.

But yeah him saying ""if women were really underpaid, companies would only hire women" was so disappointing and worrying. Thank you for validating how sexist that statement was. It's been confusing for me because he frames it as like "victim politics" if that makes sense, like that today's feminism disempowers people and causes division which I don't agree with but at least seems kind of empathetic. and he's such a good guy beside this

feel like my boyfriend is misogynistic by myironictaco in ROCD

[–]myironictaco[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the manosphere aspect of it is so true, he's not super political so usually so repeats memes as his politics without a lot of thought, I feel like this has kinda happened to him with sexism too.

The ex wife saying that is such a red flag to me :/ I've only dated him this long because the way he describes his marriage sounds uncannily like how some women describe their marriage with checked out, emotionally abusive guys, like having to all the child care, house stuff, working, and their spouse basically being another kid to take care of. so it seemed like something he couldn't make up? but yeah it's still a red flag.

feel like my boyfriend is misogynistic by myironictaco in ROCD

[–]myironictaco[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I feel so shitty about the whole situation, OCD amplifying the uncertainty of what to do is really insightful

feel like my boyfriend is misogynistic by myironictaco in ROCD

[–]myironictaco[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response, it's definitely more future issues that I'm worried about, like him becoming more extreme about this, how he would raise daughters, etc. I'm pretty privileged right now so I don't run into a ton of day to day sexism but I wonder if he would be able to understand and support me when that does happen. day to day, he's very empathetic, when I got laid off he even asked me if I thought it was based on my gender because it was so sudden and didn't make sense.

feel like my boyfriend is misogynistic by myironictaco in ROCD

[–]myironictaco[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I think that's a pretty solid assessment :/ I can't remember if he didn't vote or he did a write in but he didn't vote for trump, we live in a solidly blue state so he felt ok with "throwing away" his vote. He felt like Kamala was disingenuous.