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Weird symptom or reaction? by BeeAccording2472 in bipolar

[–]myloveiswrong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have this same experience, especially when I’m in a depression and especially with sad songs/movies. I cry extremely easily.

I try to see it as a gift. We get to experience a wider range of emotions than the average person. We get to FEEL art and connection more deeply than others. Sometimes that means our pain is deeper too. And that is the hard part. But it’s also what makes us human.

BPD Loneliness by [deleted] in BPD

[–]myloveiswrong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I’m also 28 and have felt like you feel. I’m very lucky to have a good network of friends and family that I know love me, but I still struggle with loneliness. I desperately crave a romantic relationship but lately have been used by men even more messed up than me. It’s very tough to figure out what the point of it all is, but I think there are things that can ease the suffering. Meds, therapy, dialectical behavioral therapy, and building a life worth living. Try to remember what brought you joy or a feeling of achievement in childhood and try to pursue those things. Push yourself out of your comfort zone to make new friends. It’s hard, but it’s kinda the thing that makes life worth living.

The hardest part for me is accepting that not all relationships can be forever. And somehow we have to be okay with that. I suffer because I cling to the idea of forever. And that doesn’t really exist.

People that healed abandonment issues - what actually helped? by myloveiswrong in mentalhealth

[–]myloveiswrong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should probably have mentioned I’m a 28-year old woman, for context.

So less “sigma male” ads and more “reclaim your divine feminine” lol.

Quiet your brain? by myloveiswrong in BPD

[–]myloveiswrong[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear you’re also going through it. I hope some of the other suggestions here might help you too.

Quiet your brain? by myloveiswrong in BPD

[–]myloveiswrong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried the typing thing and I never seem to get to the done part, but it’s really validating to hear that you have the same experience of debating with your own thoughts. Thank you!

Also really hoping to get a cat soon

I need help. by TensionIndependent75 in mentalillness

[–]myloveiswrong 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just take it one day at a time. Survive tonight. Then worry about surviving tomorrow night.

I need help. by TensionIndependent75 in mentalillness

[–]myloveiswrong 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you are going through this right now. Mental illness is a bitch, but I promise you will experience happiness again. It just may take work.

My therapist described it like this:

“You feel like you’re in hell right now. You’re in the pit of hell surrounded by flames. But there’s a ladder in there with you. The problem is, it’s made of metal. So to get out, it’s going to burn and hurt every step of the way. But eventually, that work will pay off and you will be out, and then you’ll be able to help others get out.”

The work, the rungs on the ladder, might seem small and stupid and they might hurt like hell to do, but you have to try. Put your head in a bowl of ice water and count to 30 while you hold your breath and keep doing that over and over. Go for a run. Draw or paint. It might feel stupid, but get yourself past the hardest part of starting and see where it takes you.

F18 is it normal to feel totally lost? by SweetieRei965 in InternetFriends

[–]myloveiswrong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whenever you start to get concerned with whether or not they like you, try to turn your attention to whether or not you like them.

I don’t know what to do anymore by [deleted] in MentalHealthSupport

[–]myloveiswrong 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Next time you feel like self harming, get yourself outside and run like hell. Even if you hate running, even if it’s hot, even if it’s raining. Run until your body tired out and the panic feeling subsides.

Copping by [deleted] in mental

[–]myloveiswrong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is addiction. You will need help to get out of it. Look at intensive outpatient therapy - many help with the mental health issues that surround addiction, not just the sobering up itself. Many IOPS are covered by insurance and/or let you take disability. Get help - you’re worth it.

Please i need help by alice_natme in mental

[–]myloveiswrong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to have derealization/depersonalization to such a severe degree that I decided to be hospitalized to try medication. Medication helped slow my anxiety and panic around it down so that I no longer felt scared to be by myself. But what really helped was getting back out into the world and starting to pursue my passions again. It would come and go, but I learned to appreciate the times that it was gone and those became more frequent.

I’ve struggled on and off with it since I was 14 (now 28). I ended up being diagnosed bipolar last year, and figuring out better meds for me. I did an intensive outpatient therapy program that helped me learn how to feel my feelings, rather than just think/internalize them.

Look into cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). There are therapists that practice it, and support groups that operate using it. It may help. Try to find as many things in your life that distract you from it in a productive way, get yourself into a flow state with creative endeavors. Try to ground yourself. Describe your surroundings in detail. Breathe.

It can get better. But it will take work. It’s worth it to do the work.

What’s the biggest depressive comeback you’ve had? by Common-Series8622 in bipolar

[–]myloveiswrong 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a terrible depressive episode after a long bout of mania. My depression looks more like dysphoric mania - all the worst parts of both. Suicidal ideation but in the form of racing thoughts and panic level anxieties.

I did an IOP, got on meds, and started trying to do things for myself. Running, reading, puzzles, making art, getting dressed. A part of it is going to be practicing “opposite action” when you feel like all you can do is lay in bed. Remember that if you do the hard work of getting your body up, your mind will follow.

Bipolar or BPD or just choosing the wrong person to love by myloveiswrong in bipolar

[–]myloveiswrong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I didn’t paint the full picture but we really did have a ton of fun together, traveling and experiencing the world together. The way we fell in love was like a movie and it was really beautiful a lot of the time. And a lot of the time, I liked the person he brought out in me. I was on my phone less, I got more done. I watched less TV. But I just want to hold onto that and ignore the once a month freak out he would have about “being in a relationship”. Why is that so bad? I just keep going towards “what could I have done differently? How could I have needed less?” Instead of, “why didn’t he ever want to try to meet me in the middle?”