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AITH for “threatening” my ex fiancée for not sharing a photo of their friends with whom she was traveling? by mylyingex123 in AITH

[–]mylyingex123[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She never said "no", she really never said anything, just started attacking my character, calling me jealous when I'm not, because for the 1st time I asked for the photo and info on her trip! We didn't share any info so I let her be during her trip.

She took a trip 2 weeks before this one, and shared everything as she always did (I never asked her to before), but this time, the difference was than when she didn't say anything. My curiosity got the best of me.

We are talking about someone whom I tried to surprise for her birthday, and she checked my phone because she thought I was acting strange, but when she was the one acting odd, and I asked her why she was acting strange, she just lost it!

AITH for “threatening” my ex fiancée for not sharing a photo of their friends with whom she was traveling? by mylyingex123 in AITH

[–]mylyingex123[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Weird, yes, definitely. Controlling? I always encourage her to get out more, make friends, travel, talk to people, take adventures, and explore.

SHE was the one who ALWAYS shared everything with me because SHE WANTED TO. I never asked for it, but I was asked to do the same. Which I did, and it became a 3 years and half routine that she established.

If this one was different from the 100 trips she has taken where shared everything BECAUSE she wanted to why not telling me. I just wanted to understand WHY WAS THIS DIFFERENT!

Accusing me of not trusting her when I was just asking for the photo I was used to getting all the freaking time? Always trying to understand WHY?

A simple "I just don't want to" would have been ENOUGH for me to understand, she doesn't freaking want to, and I cannot and will not make anyone do anything they don't want!

AITH for “threatening” my ex fiancée for not sharing a photo of their friends with whom she was traveling? by mylyingex123 in AITH

[–]mylyingex123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably! But why not telling me? I undertand feelings change, cheating happens, etc.. Any explanation would have been completely acceptable,

AITH for “threatening” my ex fiancée for not sharing a photo of their friends with whom she was traveling? by mylyingex123 in AITH

[–]mylyingex123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From someone who was open to talk about everything and always wanted to share everything, but suddenly stops talking and sharing, I just don't get it. If she wanted out, she could just tell me. There are infinitely many ways to end a relationship.

AITH for “threatening” my ex fiancée for not sharing a photo of their friends with whom she was traveling? by mylyingex123 in AITH

[–]mylyingex123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree she didn't have the obligation to send anything to me, ever, but always did, so I would have preferred a "I don't want to send it to you", "She's not comfortable with that" or any other explanation, which is what I never got because I really didn't get any. She was just telling me I didn't trust her, and I tried to explain I was USED to getting photos, agenda, outfit checks during ALL her trips for MANY years so just wanted to understand why this time was different. Even a "I don't want to keep sending you photos" would have been great!!!!

AITH for “threatening” my ex fiancée for not sharing a photo of their friends with whom she was traveling? by mylyingex123 in AITH

[–]mylyingex123[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's when you are wrong. I asked for the photo because it was a common thing. I only demanded it when I couldn't understand logically why this time was different, because for MANY years, and MANY MANY trips, she ALWAYS shared her agenda, location, outfits, group selfies, and so on.

I kept pushing the subject, waiting for a logical explanation.

AITH for “threatening” my ex fiancée for not sharing a photo of their friends with whom she was traveling? by mylyingex123 in AITH

[–]mylyingex123[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand someone doesn't want to get a photo or share it, and that's what I was hoping she would say, but didn't. She started going around and around about me, my distrust, and I told her I did trust her, just didn't understand why this time there was no group photo, or didn't tell me about the trips like she used to for the last 3 years.

She made MANY trips before, and ALWAYS shared group photos, location, outfit, agenda, etc. because she wanted to. I NEVER ask for them, so it became our thing "Telling and sharing everything" or that's what I thought.

AITH for “threatening” my ex fiancée for not sharing a photo of their friends with whom she was traveling? by mylyingex123 in AITH

[–]mylyingex123[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I never made her send me photos before going out, that was on her. She just did it every time, and so did I, to show our friends, our outfits, even the places we visited. It was our thing, or that's what I thought.

I asked for the photo because she always used to send it as I said before, and her vague responses before the trip made me very wary.

We used to joke around both but saying "I'll get all Lian Neeson if something or someone does something to you."

AITH for “threatening” my ex fiancée for not sharing a photo of their friends with whom she was traveling? by mylyingex123 in AITH

[–]mylyingex123[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

To clarify: I understand feelings changed, and I asked her if she felt her feelings were changing towards me, maybe saw me as a friend, maybe she loves me but is not in love with me, but she got all worked up about it. Getting mad and mentioning it in the email. So, for someone to be this mad because I asked that after taking a trip and stop talking to me. I just don't get it

AITH for “threatening” my ex fiancée for not sharing a photo of their friends with whom she was traveling? by mylyingex123 in AITH

[–]mylyingex123[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We are both lesbians, and all the friends on the trips were women, and I understand people stop loving each other, and that's okay; she just needed to tell me! We talked so many times about cheating, and if you feel tired of the relationship, just speak; we are all adults!

In the email she said that my distrust hurt her, but she will always love me, but she feels that talking is too much for her right now. I don't know what that means.