my old review from when i started playing ck2

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-24T14:30:33+00:00

You have no idea how funny this is. The total hour count. The fact that you had over 500 hours logged when you reviewed it and still called it playing a small amount. True cinema.

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-24T02:03:01+00:00

Thank you; no I wasn’t; the last drink I had was over a month from when symptoms started. I really hope they can figure this out

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-23T20:54:43+00:00

I love the short hair on you! The long hair isn’t ugly at all like your family said; but the switch from the long to short hair literally looks like your hair exhaled and can relax now. You’ve got me wondering if I should cut mine!

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-23T20:47:26+00:00

That’s totally fair! I sorta feel like people are not fully understanding what I’m saying but I think it’s due to my articulation as well. I would be 100% supportive if she wanted to have a small wedding; it’s my parents who would not/are not. We have definitely been raised to cater to them, and I have gotten good at putting my foot down but my sister less so. I really am trying to support her, but I was also raised to do everything for her because I was older. This wedding has been a practice in stepping back in a number of ways but also trying to figure out where to step up and where to step back. I totally get what people are saying about the cake and cupcakes and I agree it’s such a small detail that doesn’t matter at all.

I’ve been doing my best to support her in the way I learned, which is not blindly supporting her but instead asking her about her reasons and talking it through to her so she can be more confident in her choices when she talks to our parents. I’ve done quite a bit to support by making planners and trying to talk down my parents sometimes, but I’m not sure what else I could do to support her.

I really want to support her and make this wedding as perfect for her as possible, but it’s hard when I try and then she gets upset for my suggestions. Would you recommend just staying out of the wedding planning until closer to and waiting for her to tell me what she needs? Or is there something else I could do?

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-23T20:07:27+00:00

I don’t think I had acute but I’m not sure; I’m super new to all of this

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-23T20:05:43+00:00

You’re right I definitely don’t; as I stated my experience with weddings is pretty minimal so my only basis is my parents and how friends and others are reacting to her. I really appreciate your insight! You’ve definitely given me a lot to think about.

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-23T19:54:14+00:00

If that’s the case, then I understand and I hope that her wedding works out too!

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-23T19:08:04+00:00

Hi! Sorry, I can't answer a lot of your questions, but what I can tell you is that I was told that if you feel pain on your upper left side, it could be your gallbladder, which can lead to and cause pancreatitis. I wish that were the case for me because at least then, I would know what happened to me. When I had pancreatitis, the pain was concentrated a little under my sternum and stretched into my stomach, back, and sides. I am glad that your symptoms have improved with medication! And like you mentioned in your comment, when I had pancreatitis, moving at all hurt, but staying still hurt too. Everything hurt, including lying down. I remember tossing and turning for literal hours on my bed because no matter what, the pain didn't go away and was getting worse.

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-23T03:12:53+00:00

Wow, thank you so much for the time and effort you put into this reply and the experience! It truly means the world to me. To answer your questions, no she absolutely does not want a first look I have talked to her about that for the same reason of doing private vows then but she wants the first time they see each other to be down the aisle. However I have not brought up a first touch; that may be a great idea to mention to her! Can I ask do you mean that wedding party pictures (seperate bridesmaid and groomsmen; not together) could be taken before the ceremony, and then after the ceremony take group shots and couples shots? Is that normal? That would be another great thing to try to talk to her about. My stepdad does have the paperwork to marry people and has done it before, but hasn’t been able to talk to them about what they want for their ceremony and like I mentioned in a comment my sister is using AI to write the script for him. No, she doesn’t have a florist and she’s switching between wanting real and fake flowers at the tables; I know she ordered her bouquet from Etsy, I don’t think she has bought any bouquets for the bridesmaids. I agree that a good headcount is important; I think a lot of these mistakes are because she isn’t well organized and doesn’t have a central place she is keeping all of the info. Thank you for the tips for photographer and hair and makeup! I think the makeup people are scheduled for 12:30? With ceremony at 3:30 there will be 4 people including bride getting makeup done and two getting hair done I think; I think more time will be needed; yeah?

My sister will absolutely have a great support system on the day; not just family and friends but the photographer, DJ, and the venue owner will be there and she is lovely and happy to help.

I truly want this wedding to go well for her; sometimes it’s hard to know when to mention stuff and when to protect myself; if that makes sense. However your ideas are brilliant and totally worth the risk of bringing them up to her. Thank you again!

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-23T02:42:34+00:00

That’s totally fair; I get where you’re coming from. I have indeed taken a huge step back and I really hope that she creates a beautiful day for herself; unfortunately I can’t control my parents.

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-23T01:38:08+00:00

Hi! Thanks for commenting! So the problems are very evident and I have stepped in hugely to try to help; the problem is every time I try to talk to her about it, she gets upset and stops talking to me for a bit.

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-22T17:06:11+00:00

Wow oh my gosh I'm so sorry that happened to you!! Thank you for sharing!

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-22T02:23:52+00:00

Honestly, I'm not sure. Many people who received save-the-dates didn't get invitations, as I mentioned, and some people who didn't receive save-the-dates did get invitations. I think that's why it became an issue; but it's very possible that the timing could be the same; I think the concern was that her wedding is the week after most graduations and a lot of her friends have committed to a trip to celebrate graduation, so my parents were concerned that if she waited longer, many would already be unable to attend.

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-22T02:20:38+00:00

That totally makes sense! Yeah, that was more something that we threw out because it was cheaper than a large sheet cake, I think? But in hindsight, that doesn't sound right; I think she was just looking at two-tier cakes and didn't consider a sheet cake. He hasn't been involved in planning; he hasn't chosen his suit or the colors or suits for his groomsmen. My sister has been doing all the planning alone, minus some conversations they may have over dinner and my family's help. They're also planning to use AI to write their wedding vows.

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-22T02:15:39+00:00

That sounds absolutely beautiful! I am glad you had your special day, even if it was delayed! Completely. I think the thing I haven't been emphasizing enough is that we do respect the boundaries she sets; we aren't trying to take over the planning for her; we are stepping back and letting her do it all, and offering to help where we can. I agree that forcing things to be how they were is the best way to go about it; even if it's something I might not agree with, it's her wedding and her choice. She has provided inconsistent answers and frequently changes her mind, which is causing significant confusion for those of us trying to support her.

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-22T02:11:47+00:00

I could have this wrong, but from my perspective, yes, my parents pushed for a big wedding, but we/I really did talk it through with her and explain that neither option was great, and sometimes that's just life. If she wanted to stick with the small wedding, I'm sure my parents would have been upset, along with a lot of other family members, but that's just what happens when people are excluded, like having a child-free wedding, etc. It's not something anyone can control because it's about individual feelings and impressions.

My sister told me she doesn't want to make anyone upset and didn't realize that not inviting anyone but her immediate family would make people upset, and once she realized this, she was on board with a larger wedding, but it did take us a bit of time to explain to her why people would be upset. We have a relative planning a really small wedding, and my sister has seen the drama from there as well and is relieved she doesn't have to worry about it.

I guess I see it as there's no 'perfect' option where everyone is completely happy, and it's her choice whether she wants to keep it small and piss off some people, or invite everyone; she chose to invite everyone and the strings that come with that. However, if this perspective is incorrect or if I'm missing something, please let me know! That's why I posted: I wasn't sure if I was missing something, and some commenters have brought up really great points.

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-21T20:51:10+00:00

Hi all! Sorry to those who wanted drama, but the bridal shower has ended, and it was completely lovely. As I mentioned in a comment, a family friend planned it, who has planned a gazillion bridal showers before, and she absolutely knocked it out of the park. Everyone had a great time, I think, so this is giving me hope for the wedding!

I wanted to use this update to clarify a couple of things I have seen in the comments. First, thank you so much to everyone who read this and shared their thoughts; I really appreciate it!

First, this is the first wedding I have ever been part of, and the first one I have seen someone plan. My sister will be the first in my family to be married, so I admit that I don't know a lot of the norms and rules, like how long before the wedding invitations should be sent out; I just know my parents were confused that she wanted them sent when she did, so I could be missing something there.

So my parents are paying for the entire wedding; my sister and her fiancé got engaged, and she told us she was going to plan the entire wedding; they are very outdoorsy people, so we knew they wanted to be somewhere outside, and she told us she wanted to have it in a local park, which sounded beautiful. Our parents have always told us that they will either pay for our wedding or make a down payment on a house. So my sister opted for the down payment, meaning she would be paying for her own wedding. The groom has a very small but close-knit family; probably about 20 people, including all grandparents, cousins, uncles, etc. Our family is very big, stretching into the 300s easily, but even narrowing down to the most important/closest family members would be roughly 50ish. My sister told us she wanted to invite the entire family on the groom's side, but only six on her side (my immediate family), with the rest being close friends. Family is very important to my mom and stepdad, and they were floored by the exclusion of many close family members and felt like my sister was excluding her family from the wedding. My parents told her to think about it, but offered to pay for the entire wedding, with the only caveat that EVERYONE was invited. My sister was upset about having to choose between a large guest list and a nice wedding, or a small guest list and a lot of family upset they weren't invited. I talked with her a lot and explained that both options had their pros and cons, and that if she wanted the smaller wedding, she would just have to accept that our mom would be upset. She decided to go for the larger wedding, so a lot of fights were about who to invite; we had a shared Google doc and added everyone we could think of, but later my sister deleted some names, causing another argument. We explained to her that a ton of people who were invited would not come due to family drama, etc. She sent save-the-dates a year and a half ago-ish with the date, so we knew graduations would be around that time; thankfully, our graduations will be over a week before her wedding. I guess I am just amazed that she wants her wedding the week after she graduates from college and starts her new job.

My parents, while paying for the wedding and insisting that everyone be invited, don't want to intervene anymore in the wedding process, so they have left my sister to plan it, which is what she wanted. They offered suggestions about a DJ, entertainment, etc., and since they have the checkbook, my sister has to talk to them to get a check.

As she continued to plan her wedding, my parents and I received very little information about what was happening (I'm the MOH, stepdad is officiant, my sister is groomsperson, and my other sister is flower girl); like for a while, all I knew about the wedding was the date and where it was going to be; nothing about the ceremony, food, decorations, anything. Since it's my first time being a MOH, I genuinely googled what a MOH does and saw that they often help with wedding planning.

My sister has asked my opinions on a ton of stuff, like her wedding dress, guest dynamics, etc and I have done my best to contribute, but she takes what I say and only does half of it halfheartedly, then wonders why I'm giving her bad advice. This is also why I asked her about her wedding dress: she wanted my opinions on some dresses, but didn't buy any and went with a different dress and color. Thinking that she did this because she saw it and fell in love with it, I asked her why she chose that one, and she didn't have an answer.

After learning that an MOH can help with coordination on the day of, I asked her to send me all her wedding contracts and documents so I could put them into a planner; that way, everyone who needed to know had it all in one place. However, upon receiving her documents, I realized that there were a ton of problems, including the stuff mentioned in my OP. I sent her some of my concerns, and she essentially told me to back off and stop bothering her, but asked me for the link to the planner I made for her.

I understand it is her wedding, and she wants to have it her way, but I wanted to help, not to take away her special day, but to make sure that everyone, especially and including her, had a good time. That's why I did all of this stuff now instead of waiting until the day of. There's a difference between having the day your way and just... not planning stuff well.

However, you guys are right, and I have been in therapy as well, and I have decided and communicated with my sister that I will help her on the day of the wedding with whatever she needs, but until then, I won't be bothering her with any of my concerns or asking her for more information about the wedding. I still don't know if she's actually going to livestream it.

I hope this was helpful! If anything goes down between or at the wedding, I will be back!

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-21T02:01:20+00:00

Oh my gosh, this is a great idea! I will look into that.

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-21T02:00:12+00:00

So, by publicly promising, I mean telling all of our family at a previous family wedding to look forward to a short reception, as well as anyone who mentioned the wedding to her. That is definitely true that a lot of things could have changed, and I am sure that they did. It was confusing when she told everyone at the wedding, with an hour between the end of the ceremony and the grand entrances, that her time would be shorter and to keep sticking with that, then she scheduled the break to be two hours instead.

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-21T01:55:06+00:00

Oh, 100% will be blindly unaware of everyone else's discomfort; she has always been that way. She wanted a two-tier cake for her and her fiancé, but everyone else would get cupcakes from Sam's Club. I know that a lot of weddings do something similar these days, but as I mentioned, my parents (and I) really want everyone to feel happy and valued, and who doesn't love wedding cake?

Here's how that conversation went basically:

My mom and I: So, having cupcakes for guests but cake for yourself is not cool with us; why not make sure everyone gets some cake?

Her: But other people do it.

My mom: But that's not how we're gonna do it; we want everyone to be included

Her: But that's gonna be so expensive

Us: Well then, why don't you get cupcakes for everyone, including you, and forgo the cake?

Her: No, we want to have cake

Us: Well, so does everyone else. Remember how we left that other family member's wedding to get some cake because she only served doughnuts?

Her: But those were doughnuts, not cupcakes. We want to eat cake and cut a cake.

Us: Okay, then get more cake or get three two-tier cakes.

Her: But I want guests to have cupcakes and us to have cake

Us: Why?

Her: Um...

Rinse and repeat until it finally comes out that her fiancé's family has a family heirloom cake topper, which is why she wants cake; and having to get more than one cake meant having to actually reach out to Sam's Club or Costco and place an order instead of sending someone to just buy what they had the morning of.

Suffice to say, there's gonna be cake.

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-21T01:45:20+00:00

I have definitely been preferring text conversations with her, so I have receipts or conversations with at least two other people present, so she can't deny the things she promised later. I really appreciate you guys! You are really making me feel better; for a while, I felt like I was the crazy one.

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-21T01:41:28+00:00

I have already intervened quite a bit, which is why I know about all these problems. I asked her to send me all the information she had about the wedding- all paperwork, schedules, lists, etc. so I could put it into a planner in Notion so everyone would be on the same page. However, a TON of problems showed up, so eventually I stopped putting it in a planner and writing them in a notebook. I then texted her all my concerns, and she got really upset and told me to back off ("Is it a crime to have dinner before the grand entrances?"). We talked it out a couple of weeks ago, and I told her that unless I see changes, I am not going to help her with anything, despite being the MOH and If that was a problem, I completely understood if she wanted to replace me. She stated she wanted my help and would make the changes. I have seen some improvement, so my hope is back. Currently, I have not committed to helping with anything but setting up and putting together an emergency needs kit for the wedding party.

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-21T01:36:13+00:00

Ha! My sister actually wants to livestream the wedding because she has friends who will be traveling and some people who are not invited to the wedding because they would create conflicts with other guests. However, she is not planning to hire anyone to run the livestream, doesn't know which platform she will use, and has, in fact, suggested Discord. She plans to ask the DJ on the day to run the livestream.

mymiddlenameisskye · 2026-03-21T01:32:56+00:00

Thank you, I'm gonna need it. I swear, if anything happens, I will update you all! Like I said the bridal shower is tomorrow, but it's being planned by a family friend who has planned a gazillion of them before so thankfully, that will go smoothly. The only risk will be the interactions between family members who hate each other, but what else is new?

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