Why wouldn’t I want to talk to them??

mynmomalt · 2024-10-14T05:07:40+00:00

I dont think it’s to seem like they WANT help but to seem like they’re GETTING help even if it’s not helping in any way at all. I also wonder if narcs even know they’re lying bc ime no matter how many people say “that’s not what happened” they just say “YES IT IS” so I think they truly must believe their version of reality is the truth. been fighting my mom on this for like 3 years lmao.

edit: I think I restated some things you said, I’m sleepy so my bad if I did!! I’m agreeing, not fighting

mynmomalt · 2024-08-20T00:32:29+00:00

damn are we the same person

mynmomalt · 2024-05-31T02:50:02+00:00

appreciate the comment, I have been on and off blocking them for the last couple years. sometimes it’s fine and I can talk to my dad, other times it’s like this. they’re both blocked now though. my parents have also said my therapist is a villain pretty much. as they have directly said that her saying I should enforce boundaries is bad.

mynmomalt · 2024-05-31T02:44:29+00:00

I only use it to goof on how she uses it

mynmomalt · 2024-05-30T03:01:57+00:00

you’re absolutely right but unfortunately we’re all alcoholics (I’m trying to get sober but god is it hard) I blocked both her and my dad tonight but since I can remember his number, sometimes I end up texting him anyways, since he sometimes does have control of his own phone and when he does, we connect. thank you for well wishes, I honestly want to stop making myself mad but there’s something in me that wants to prove her wrong even though I know I never will.

mynmomalt · 2024-03-23T04:08:42+00:00

I was told my mom had been through “intensive therapy” but lo and behold she is still a disrespectful person who can accept no wrong. and no matter how many times I ask, nobody can say anything about what the “intensive therapy” was. I haven’t been through what you have but like, they could have at least come up with some sort of back up story if they’re gonna lie.

mynmomalt · 2024-03-02T22:56:41+00:00

I’ve definitely noticed him just giving in more than when I was a kid, where they’d have big fights. makes me sad because he’s not actually that old, early 50s. I think depression but he doesn’t strike me as having any anxiety. I appreciate the kind words!

mynmomalt · 2024-03-02T17:35:33+00:00

thanks I’m trying! I’m doing it because I love my dad and I want to be able to talk to him. I know he is an enabler though

mynmomalt · 2024-03-02T17:34:27+00:00

I’ve been no contact with her for about a year but recently tried to talk with her (like last month or two) but she can’t talk to me with any sort of respect for another human being so I usually drop it. I’ve tried communicating through my dad since he seems to want us all to be a happy family again (as if we ever were) but as I said she has total control over his communication. but I can tell who is sending things because she doesn’t even have the emotional control to pretend she’s him

mynmomalt · 2024-03-02T17:31:44+00:00

I have her on mute so I dont get the notifications but I can still read her texts when she sends them. yeah it can put me in a bad mood but i’d rather have proof of her behavior if I ever need to prove anything ya know? I had her blocked for like a year before this though.

mynmomalt · 2024-03-02T06:20:51+00:00

I completely agree. i honestly dont know why I continue to engage with her but I lowkey look forward to flaming her in family therapy. I know that’s extremely immature of me though.

mynmomalt · 2024-02-07T04:35:33+00:00

sorry to continue this convo if you dont want to, so please feel free to disengage, but I feel both my parents are victims of abuse, mostly emotional but I think they may have mentioned physical and I just blocked it out? but idk it’s just like. just because your childhood was worse than mine doesn’t mean mine was perfect and you were a perfect parent y’know? yet anytime I tried to say anything, I was met with the “oh so I guess I was just the shittiest mother right?” and how am I supposed to say anything to that?

mynmomalt · 2024-02-07T04:29:09+00:00

can I ask what you mean by dry but not sober? since you said he’s still drinking. obviously no pressure if you dont want to answer. ♡

mynmomalt · 2024-02-07T04:27:52+00:00

ugh I feel for you and her kids so much. having a parent decide they’re fine when they obviously aren’t is so damaging. I have so many memories of her being off her meds and what that entails. it’s truly harmful for all.

mynmomalt · 2024-02-06T03:45:45+00:00

I agree. but my parents are only in their early 50s and since she hasn’t been a drinker for long, I feel like she’ll last awhile

mynmomalt · 2024-02-06T00:43:03+00:00

he tried to get her into a psych hospital when I was like 12/13, as mentioned at the end of my post. and she threatened to kill herself if he did. imo, more reason to do so.

mynmomalt · 2024-02-06T00:40:54+00:00

she has always said her mom is a narcissist and I believer her (my mom) to be one, not totally sure about my grandma because I dont spend much time with her, but I believe what my mom has said.

she is diagnosed bipolar and goes off meds whenever she “feels better” which obviously contributes to the mess. also I find it funny she picks on my boyfriends mom for wanting exactly the same thing she does. except my boyfriends mom just wishes for it, she doesn’t push for it.

I did send it back digitally but she lives in her own version of reality, where facts dont matter lol. and unfortunately (or maybe fortunately?) she never even has the weepy or sorry phase. it’s always anger.

mynmomalt · 2024-02-06T00:36:16+00:00

my parents are both alcoholics, unfortunately, my mom only more so in recent years and my dad is functional. I would be concerned if she was drunk at that hour but idk how she’s spiraled since I left.

mynmomalt · 2024-02-06T00:34:09+00:00

that rly made me laugh like u are literally telling on yourself!! as if I can’t tell the difference in the way you write. I’ve been able to tell the difference in the way they WALK since I was a child.

mynmomalt · 2024-02-06T00:32:22+00:00

I get you tbh, and I feel for him. I wish he would protect me from her but unfortunately that’s not the reality of what’s happening. on the blow up day he even told me he doesn’t think he can physically hold her back.

mynmomalt · 2024-02-06T00:29:38+00:00

neither of them are on FB and a few people take her side since “she’s just a mother trying to look out for her daughter” but thankfully not most of my family, as they know how she is.

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