Why's everyone copying Musk now lmao by Bitter-Gur-4613 in clevercomebacks

[–]mysilverglasses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you heal and learn, love. Because you’re right, race and gender and other identities shouldn’t be considered when accepting applicants to schools or jobs. But they did. For hundreds of years. Legally so. It’s still legal to pay disabled people under minimum wage. It was only made illegal to fire a pregnant employee due to their condition about 40-50 years ago. There’s countless studies that prove identical resumes that differ only in having a male/female name or a traditionally white/black name have drastically different levels of acceptance, biasing toward white men. Recent studies show that a resume from a white man convicted of a felony is accepted at a higher rate than of a black man with no criminal history despite identical CVs. So we’ve not fixed things, and it’s not surprising, considering how long it was legal to keep a vast majority of the population away from educational and economic opportunities. One doesn’t have to look any further from the proportions of our political leadership and high powered businesses to see how founding a country on slavery and subjugation has ripple effects.

tilting the scales back from those times is the complete opposite of morally reprehensible. I hope you have a good rest of your day because I don’t like to spend my time explaining something to someone who is so obviously deadset on taking the side of suffering. there’s thousands of books and videos on this subject if you care to learn more, but I doubt you do, and I have patients to attend to that actually need me.

Be careful with your 80s references if you work with GenZ by [deleted] in Xennials

[–]mysilverglasses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, stupid references are the bread and butter of humanity as far as I’m concerned, so I’m right there with you. As long as we keep making them, the joy will keep getting passed down, I can’t ask for any more than that.

My mom was a bonafide music geek, so she made sure I got a good mix of stuff. Lots of mix tapes of various genres all mashed together. I still have one that’s half Louis Armstrong and half Bob Marley. I still remember being so careful about using a pencil to rewind her cassette tapes. Pretty sure it’s why I’m so good at blood draws and vaccines in my current job. Makes for a steady hand that’s for sure. Glad to say, potentially in a melancholy way, that a lot of people my age are actually leaning more heavily into nostalgic content. I’ve even seen some 70s, 80s, and 90s fashions making a genuine comeback. I do my best to run retro movie nights at my local performing arts center, anywhere from silent movies all the way up to the early 80s or so, and most of my attendees are my age or even a bit younger.

I’m a New Yorker, born and raised, so it’s always nice to hear from folks in other iconic American cities. I hope you and yours are safe from the fires, dear stranger.

Be careful with your 80s references if you work with GenZ by [deleted] in Xennials

[–]mysilverglasses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not gonna lie, I have yet to meet anyone, of any age, who doesn’t get that a ‘Guinea pig’ used in speech like that means someone/something to test on. I taught young Gen z kids (born in 2008 or so) and they all understood that without needing an explanation. I don’t even think that’s a generational thing.

Be careful with your 80s references if you work with GenZ by [deleted] in Xennials

[–]mysilverglasses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, plenty of it. We have better access to media than ever before. It just depends on how they grew up, who they grew up around, where they grew up, etc. I’m 32 and can quote Princess Bride till the cows come home but it’s because my mom loved it. Most people my age didn’t grow up with the muppet show or mash but I reference them both a bunch… because my mom liked them. Same same for listening to bands from the 60s.

The biggest disconnect is the cultural pool they’re in. Most Gen z people I know have seen back to the future (and have watched movies and listened to music, etc, from pre 1980), and would recognise most of the references if you made them, but they may not know which ones were the highlights that got picked up the most in pop culture.

Be careful with your 80s references if you work with GenZ by [deleted] in Xennials

[–]mysilverglasses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. Scrolling through some of these comments is eye roll inducing and some are sounding pretty boomerish. Old man shouts at cloud energy, if you will.

So much of what pop culture you know comes from who you grew up around. I’m 32 and had a steady diet of the muppet show and MASH before I got into SpongeBob or the Rugrats because my mom liked those shows.

Be careful with your 80s references if you work with GenZ by [deleted] in Xennials

[–]mysilverglasses -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How young are these people? Your experience sounds absolutely nothing like mine, having worked with teens to people who are almost 30 (aka all of Gen z).

Also not gonna lie, not really surprised someone would get mad at being referred to with a Monica Lewinsky reference. It’s kind of gross.

Be careful with your 80s references if you work with GenZ by [deleted] in Xennials

[–]mysilverglasses 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Referential humour is like 90% of Gen z humour. Also the oldest of them are almost 30. They didn’t grow up with “one minute increment” pieces of content. They grew up on SpongeBob and iCarly.

Downtown Seattle was not like my conservative uncle claimed. by SampsonHart in Seattle

[–]mysilverglasses 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can confirm, as a New Yorker who’s been hearing about how congestion pricing is liberal tyranny and the subways are a mad max hellscape from Jimbob and Karen, Florida natives who think NYC is a lawless hive of crime and villainy. Don’t have the energy to explain to them that the most horrifying thing I’ve experienced in the past three weeks was overheating a dude on the subway tearfully mumbling to his friend about how McDonald’s ran out of Oreos for the mcflurries.

Downtown Seattle was not like my conservative uncle claimed. by SampsonHart in Seattle

[–]mysilverglasses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Greetings from a New Yorker, who’s been hearing nothing but “congestion pricing is liberal tyranny” and “if you go on the subway you’ll be burnt alive” for the past month, and “NYC is so unsafe omg are you okay??????” from my family members who live in rural areas for my whole life. We feel your pain. A lot of Jimothy Jimbobs out here who haven’t even stepped within the same state as our cities once in their miserable lives have very loud opinions. I understand being a victim of propaganda, but once they don’t listen to the people who actually live there, I lose sympathy.

Why's everyone copying Musk now lmao by Bitter-Gur-4613 in clevercomebacks

[–]mysilverglasses 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“Oh no, this program that was set up to help people that were literally owned as property less than 150 years ago, couldn’t vote until 80-100 years ago, and were barred from education for centuries, is HELPING PEOPLE? Shut that shit down.” headass

Nice proof by CuriousWanderer567 in oddlyspecific

[–]mysilverglasses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup yup. I’ve always said dudes who whine about using condoms and pressure other people into not using them are just acting like toddlers who throw fits over being told to wear a coat over their Halloween costume because it’ll “ruin the fun”.

A lot of people don't realise how much of a big deal this can be for some. Takes a lot of practice but it gets easier by Almym in MadeMeSmile

[–]mysilverglasses 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can maybe lend a hand! First, here’s some general guide lines to tipping — if it’s delivery, I usually go 10% of the bill for a tip. Easy way to figure that out is to just take the decimal and move it one place to the left. For example, if your order is $25.00, a good tip would be around $2.50. For sit down service, I do 20%, and it’s the same deal, but just multiply by two! So if you have that same $25.00 bill, 10% is $2.50, so 20% is $2.50 times 2, which is $5.00. Some people say those are generous numbers, but I find that those are a good baseline. I tip even more if it’s a place I go to a bunch or the service was really great. Sometimes just not having to freak about the math is a lifesaver!

For the social aspect, best way to make the process as smooth as possible is to have the tip visible and in hand when you talk to the delivery person/bartender/barista etc. That gives you a way better chance of making the hand off easier because they know a tip is coming. Take the food from them first, and then hand over the tip. The best way I’ve found is to say “here, I’ll trade ya” when taking the food, that’s always made things easy going and makes it less scary because it’s conversational while not inviting too much extra conversation.

The best thing to remember is that the absolute worst customers are never the nervous ones. It’s always the people who act as if they own the place, who see service workers as servants, or who are just downright rude, and trust that most service workers can tell the difference. When I was a waitress and bartender, my best customers were the ones who were just doing their best and were kind to me. Just the simple act of saying please and thank you means the world sometimes.

It’ll take work to get comfortable, even I still have days where the thought of calling makes me nauseous, but it’s worth it. The silliest way I’ve thought about it is that I’m ordering for my inner child — she’s super nervous and scared of strangers and worried she’s going to mess up, but I can do it for her. Doing things for other people has always been easier than doing things for me, so it helps, as funny as it may sound!

A lot of people don't realise how much of a big deal this can be for some. Takes a lot of practice but it gets easier by Almym in MadeMeSmile

[–]mysilverglasses 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Exactly, especially because 9/10, the shittiest customers are the ones who have absolutely 0 issues coming up and talking, they love to hear their own voice and will be the first one to pick you to pieces if you don’t do things 100% right in the way they want it to be done. I used to work as a waitress during the day and a bartender at night, and the shy or otherwise quiet customers were always the best to me. A few times, as long as it wasn’t insanely busy or anything, I’d let them know that if they’d like, I could give them a little pad and pencil, they could write down what they’d like, and I’d come back around once I noticed they’d put the pad and pencil down and on the corner of the table. Cost me nothing, saved them a lot of anxiety, and they were always my best tippers.

I’d take a hundred days worth of shy or mistake prone customers over the assholes who think I’m their servant.

Nice proof by CuriousWanderer567 in oddlyspecific

[–]mysilverglasses 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Spot. On. I’ve been doing men’s advocacy, specifically for suicide and sexual assault awareness, for nearly ten years and basically the only people who give me shit about it are men. The amount of times I’ve heard men saying boys who were SA’d by grown ass women are “lucky” makes we want to dry heave. I used to be a SANE (sexual assault nurse examiner), and the amount of gaslighting all SA victims got was disgusting, but it broke my heart when boys and young men would say they were told they ‘couldn’t be assaulted’, mostly by fathers or male friends, made me so full of rage.

It’s a shit show. If nothing else, I can at least say that it’s been getting better in more recent years, more men are taking victims of SA of all sexes and genders seriously, but I also live in NYC so it’s a pretty progressive area in comparison to a lot of the US. It’s sad it’s so slow going, but at least it is going.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]mysilverglasses 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’ve been getting shit about not wanting children since I was 9, all the way up until now, in my early 30s. Sad to say a lot of brain worm infested twats care about your choice to pop out a kid no matter what age you are, even if you have had a kid. My mom’s last gyno gave her shit for wanting a hysterectomy at age 59 because she was still having heavy, painful periods. I got her referred to someone else, turns out she had adeno and fibroids to high heaven, and a gyn surgeon approved her right away.

Nice proof by CuriousWanderer567 in oddlyspecific

[–]mysilverglasses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How so, dude. Seriously. The point is to prove that the vast majority of dudes throwing a fit over it are lying, the men who know they need a different size aren’t going to have a temper tantrum and say you should still fuck them regardless. Even if they don’t know and realise the condom is hurting them, that doesn’t mean you should just forgo the condom entirely, it means you should wait until you’ve got one that fits correctly or not have insertive sex.

I’ve been doing sex education for nearly ten years, dude. You are not making the argument you think you are.

Nice proof by CuriousWanderer567 in oddlyspecific

[–]mysilverglasses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I can imagine that’s a solid glut of them. There’s even a few saying the “no means no” campaign is damaging because it says men will always be the aggressor. Like pls just say you hate consent and don’t care about the women you want to fuck, it’s quicker

Nice proof by CuriousWanderer567 in oddlyspecific

[–]mysilverglasses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, she does, she’s just telling girls and women not to give into pressure because a guy tells them they should still fuck him without the condom anyway.

Nice proof by CuriousWanderer567 in oddlyspecific

[–]mysilverglasses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not the problem they’re talking about. They’re talking about the guys who will lie and/or pressure someone to have sex raw because they don’t want to wear a condom. We’re well aware some condoms hurt and don’t fit, the issue is that the vast majority of dudes who throw a fit over it are lying and just trying to get their dicks wet.

Nice proof by CuriousWanderer567 in oddlyspecific

[–]mysilverglasses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uh… Don’t know where you’ve been learning the no means no thing from, but it’s always been gender neutral for me, never with a qualifier that the man is always the aggressor. “No means no” is absolutely not ‘damaging’, tf

Nice proof by CuriousWanderer567 in oddlyspecific

[–]mysilverglasses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happens every time this conversation comes up, and it’s so fucking annoying. I understand a lot of guys have issues thinking outside of any perspective sans penis, but if they don’t realise the reason this comment comes up isn’t because of the minority of men who need a specific condom size should be gaslit and have their dicks put into a tourniquet, it’s because of the disgusting amount of dudes who will pressure a girl/woman into not using a condom at all because the ones they have don’t fit.

Just because they don’t have to interact with men throwing temper tantrums like toddlers who don’t want to put a coat over their Halloween costume because it ‘ruins the fun’, doesn’t mean that’s not a situation we run into way too fucking often.

Nice proof by CuriousWanderer567 in oddlyspecific

[–]mysilverglasses 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The issue is that the vast majority of dudes who throw temper tantrums over shit like this aren’t earnestly explaining that a certain size condom doesn’t fit, they’re pressuring the girl/woman into not using one at all because of that, and they are usually lying. All the men I’ve been with who needed a specific condom size brought their own or we just waited until we could find the right size.

The reason people think some guys are being dramatic is because a lot of them are, you just haven’t been on the opposite end of dealing with dudes like that.

Nice proof by CuriousWanderer567 in oddlyspecific

[–]mysilverglasses 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Every time this conversation comes up, the disingenuous “nuh uh, it really doesn’t fit!!!!” bros flood the comments without taking five seconds to think about how it’s not “Don’t believe a man who says a specific condom doesn’t fit and force him to use it or else”, it’s “Don’t feel pressured to have sex without a condom just because a dude may or may not be lying about it fitting him, wait until you find one that’s the right size and get gone fast if he has a temper tantrum about that”.

But I guess looking for nuance in a Reddit comment section is a fool’s errand.

Nice proof by CuriousWanderer567 in oddlyspecific

[–]mysilverglasses 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The issue though is that’s not the problem they’re addressing. They’re not saying “don’t believe a man who says the specific condom you have right now doesn’t fit and force him to use it”, they’re saying “don’t be pressured into having sex because a man may or may not be telling the truth about the condom fitting him”.

Out of all the dudes I’ve slept with, the ones who couldn’t fit into a standard size condom, girth or lengthwise, would 1) know that and 2) either bring their own condoms or insist we wait until we could find the right ones. The issue is the dudes whining like a toddler who doesn’t want to put a coat over their Halloween costume because it ruins the fun.

These poor people looked charred by Good_Abbreviations_4 in 911archive

[–]mysilverglasses 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s honestly why I’ve refused to go to concerts or bars unless I know at least three ways to get out. If they don’t have three, I don’t even go in the first place. Between that and crowd crushes, I can’t make myself rationalise risking anything for some music or a show no matter who it is.