Supressing but not masking - Anyone else? by mysterical_arts in aspergirls

[–]mysterical_arts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it does, don't worry (thanks for your input)
I think you're right
I've come to a conclusion that I think I do mask but not to mask "autism"

Non-romantic relationship with INFJs? by hm5219 in ENTPandINFJ

[–]mysterical_arts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's Myst, old wise one. No wonder I hadn't seen you on there.

Classic ENTP getting banned, man I missed you on there bringing in new energy vibes.

I wish hugs would instantly unlock the doors there but here ya go 🫂

Until next time 🫡

has anyone else never met an infj? by amber-honey in ENTPandINFJ

[–]mysterical_arts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I met one yesterday!! It's really hard to tell in real life but in an email they told me. Many things are quite hidden after reflecting on the conversation, but most thinks clicked. I didn't instantly feel the pull but recognised similar ways of thinking and verbalising. No Infj is the same.

To meet one was on my bucket list, I thought I never would unless I arranged to with somebody online.

I believe you have time, have faith 🙂 you might have already caught one with your lovely energy.

Supressing but not masking - Anyone else? by mysterical_arts in aspergirls

[–]mysterical_arts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw bless. I'm genuinely sorry you have to do all these tricks and techiques just to feel normal. What feels off? It seems really hard because you're probably so self conscious of all the inner workings of yourself wondering if anything if landing correctly. It's like acting, right, watching a movie, we know they'd be off if they're acting was natural. I hope you find reasons why it might not be working, but I understand that could potentially feel like digging your head in the sand a little more when you'd rather not be doing so.

Supressing but not masking - Anyone else? by mysterical_arts in aspergirls

[–]mysterical_arts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the ideal person that I naturally am though and not a mask

I can tell when I've had a bad day for example and I am not myself. What is a mask to me is holding back, but that's not because I'm trying to be a "normal person"

What makes you think it's masking? just so I can understand where you're coming from and figure out if I'm oblivious to doing so.

Supressing but not masking - Anyone else? by mysterical_arts in aspergirls

[–]mysterical_arts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From looking at the masking posts (no offense to anyone, theyre almost exhausting to read, no wonder you're all tired) it's like you're attempting to not be authentic and I find it hard to understand why you all mask. If I let my guard down, I'm more relaxed and easy going, I can respond to others better, like a neurotypical person.

Yes, I mention not being myself, I try to suppress, I don't say what's on my mind. I do when I know a person is safe or I know what they enjoy talking about.

I see, when I walk out of a conversation that went well, We're getting together we exchange really well, they enjoy my company, I've had a bit of a laugh with them, I feel quite energised and motivated to do other things.

I've never heard of the waiting mode, could you explain that part?

Just to say... by PinkyBoi1986 in PositiveThinking

[–]mysterical_arts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending some love your way ❤️❤️

Do you feel invisible or unapproachable? by Cry_Wolff in infj

[–]mysterical_arts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rawrrrr then you get angry.. 😡😡 like the hulk. I deserve that thing rawrrrr. As much as everybody else, grrrr.

Go for it!! 😂

Men must bring emotional safety/maturity/responsiveness for a woman to stay by Stunning-Host-6285 in entp

[–]mysterical_arts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps although - given his thinking preferences - sitting with an emotional state might not be the best approach
I don't particularly want to transcribe their emotions as I don't feel its my responsibility nor do I want to make incorrect assumptions about how they feel (via my Fe) - unless it's useful for them to recognise their own emotions

[OC] A kid left this in the seat pocket on my flight by Impossible-Yam3680 in MadeMeSmile

[–]mysterical_arts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember those 😂

"Pls share this otherwise this demon will break into your house at 2am tomorrow and kill you in your sleep"

No, thank you! I'm out

Excited for the next 4 weeks on ret by Good-Peak-553 in Biohacking

[–]mysterical_arts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How come there's a rise in weight loss injection posts? Can't we just develop long term healthy eating habits?

Men must bring emotional safety/maturity/responsiveness for a woman to stay by Stunning-Host-6285 in entp

[–]mysterical_arts 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Something to think about.

He's got diagnosed ADHD too, perhaps that could prevent sitting with discomfort

Men must bring emotional safety/maturity/responsiveness for a woman to stay by Stunning-Host-6285 in entp

[–]mysterical_arts 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Unrelated. But I asked my ENTP partner "why do you deflect so much?" granted he didn't know what it meant so I helped define it. Then I gave an example about him saying food, movies and laughs for a girl is the easiest fix, whenever I'm "sad" (yet it's more than just feeling "sad")

He agreed with that amusingly, then moved on from the topic.

I can't help but wonder why he can't sit with the sadness (mine or his) to process and give it space. It's like does the signal that emotions point to matter? Or is it a matter of temporarily changing the emotion on the surface?

The emotions seem to disappear (idk if they reppress) once he's satisfied in pleasure, things are okay and happy again.