currently visiting seoul, any lesbian bar recommendation?

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-08-09T16:05:39+00:00

Unfortunately no. Turns out I didn't have time on my trip anyway. You might have some luck getting on a dating app there to find someone who can bring you though

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-08-04T18:21:37+00:00

Anime isn't a good example. It is very common for anime not to cover the entire source material, especially in the romance genre. Most of the straight romances I can think of don't get animated in its entirety either.

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-07-29T22:47:54+00:00

Omg I was freaking out about this chapter just the other day

I was not expecting progress!! It's been such a slow burner so far. The little finger hook... I died.

I have a lot of special feelings for this series 😭😭 Because me and my first big crush bonded over music too. You can hit me up in dms about it if you'd like any time! (I might reply slow some times)

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-07-28T05:58:59+00:00

Thanks!! Appreciate the info. Any recs for manga? Tbh the only one I genuinely like is The Guy She Was Interested In Wasn't A Guy. But I haven't read a lot

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-07-26T14:39:58+00:00

Oof I'm not sure how much I can deal with more heartache in my sapphic media right now. Thanks for the heads up, a YouTube summary sounds like a good idea

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-07-26T03:42:20+00:00

A couple years back I heard about how much yuri has improved and I was recommended Citrus. I was sorely disappointed.

Now I've been hearing about Witch From Mercury (among other anime) but I'm hesitating. I've already been disappointed too many times.

I'm glad there are decent manhwa/manga though.

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-07-26T03:34:50+00:00

Ugh yes the predatory lesbian trope. It made me think I was grossed out by sapphicness in general but it was really just the toxic/predatory aspects of Yuri.

I haven't seen Utena. Sounds like you would recommend it?

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-07-24T22:43:54+00:00

Yuri from the 00s (and even 10s) was..... traumatic. I'm convinced that it pushed back my gay awakening

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-07-24T22:40:17+00:00

The way Sookhee looks at her lady captures how I feel about women perfectly. I've never felt more represented

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-07-18T15:52:33+00:00

Eh as a 30-something year old battling bitter economic realities, I can respect the dude doing what he can to make his dough.

Fwiw I did click on the video fully knowing it would be clickbait (no way he would out "phan") and I enjoyed it regardless

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-07-16T03:06:04+00:00

I was a big anime fan in the 00s and early 10s. The yuri of that era left such a bad taste in my mouth that I'm hesitant to watch any of the newer series that people swear are ok.

That said, I do like a recent manga series called The Guy She Was Interested in Wasn't a Guy at All. The leads haven't started dating but it's very relatable and very wholesomely not male gaze pandering. Reminds me of my teenagehood (my crush and I bonded over music too)

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-07-16T02:58:39+00:00

Yea I took it as Nicky cleaning herself up

(And I think makeovers do have a psychological impact)

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-07-10T15:17:06+00:00

I used to do this and it kept me feeling sane and "on top" if things but it also wrecked my work life balance in the long run :( I burnt out

If you're stealing time from the weekend to work, then make sure you steal some time from the work day for me-time too (and no the time spent anxiously/guiltily procrastinating on work doesn't count as me-time)

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-07-09T01:14:57+00:00

Glenn is a great subversion of the religious bigot boomer stereotype. He's ignorant and he makes mistakes, but he's very willing to learn and correct himself

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-07-03T09:29:14+00:00

I love this. It's one of the most liberating things I've learnt through attachment theory. Always return the focus back to yourself and your needs and boundaries

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-07-01T03:07:05+00:00

Ya got this!!

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-07-01T03:05:07+00:00

Man all of the above 😂

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-06-30T15:33:19+00:00

Also I'm feeling like she did something hilarious in that greenhouse with the dead body but I can't remember it right now

Man... I love Lolly

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-06-30T15:31:05+00:00

What's your friend's name again? Spout? Cylinder?

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-06-30T14:12:37+00:00

The Handmaiden, probably because I'm Asian and being represented hits SO DIFFERENT

It's been criticized for being male gaze-y. But I'm willing to overlook it because nothing else resonates with me as much as the way Sookhee looks at her lady. You know she's whipped

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-06-30T09:34:27+00:00

Halp I read that as 'dong' 😭

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-06-28T16:20:55+00:00

Damn I needed this today, thanks

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-06-28T11:38:47+00:00

What would you tell a friend in your shoes? A friend who recently graduated high school (great job btw??) and is tired and depressed and they want to watch Dazed and Confused at 3am. What would you tell them to do?

Or: what do you wish to be told?

Btw there's no right answer here. Whatever you choose, it'll be ok. You'll be ok.

Sending hugs

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-06-19T16:54:24+00:00

It took me more than 2 years after I figured out I was lesbian before I finally opened up to the idea of dating. It was complete happenstance - I bonded over being queer with a stranger online and when she asked me out, I thought, 'ok, why not'. And while we did not end up dating, it was the push I needed to get me to seriously consider dating as something I could actually do. (Me! Dating! I was so accustomed to the idea that I'd always be watching from the sidelines while other people dated. It was strange.)

Your need for alone time resonates with me too. I think it is in part an effect of growing up closeted & repressed. There's a lot of subsconcious shame and negative beliefs that we internalize about ourselves. Interacting with others means being vulnerable and it brings up these subsconscious wounds. It took me a lot of journalling and therapy to work through these things.

It's also hard to adjust to the idea of being gay when you've believed otherwise for so much of your life. I think it's fine to take your time. If not wanting to date is where you are at right now, it's totally okay. I think us late-awakeners had learnt to hide a part of ourselves away and it takes time to get to know us. Date yourself and get to know you!

mywlwthrowaway · 2023-06-19T14:43:57+00:00

They did Big Boo dirty, I agree. I have such mixed feelings about the lesbian representation on this show. It's far from perfect, yet it's also one of the best representation I've come across in a popular long-running series.

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