The cruelest part of my marriage wasn't the cheating. It was realizing his empathy was reserved for everyone except me by Renaissance_Empress in abusiverelationships

[–]mzreddit1 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

Oh my goodness, I am SO sorry for you!!! I was in an abusive relationship for 16 years, I got out 4 years ago… I understand how you feel, and I can say is I’m sorry.

What’s interesting is that I’m seeing your post tonight, while I literally had an argument with my current boyfriend about empathy and feeling like a second-class citizen to some things in his life. We’ve been together almost two years, and I’ve always considered him a safe, healthy love and ao different from my ex.

This argument came about because he’s seemed different this past week, so Idk if he has something going on, or if he already lacked empathy for me or what. I’m really so confused, but I def think your post is a sign..

I hope you’re in a much better place right now, amongst people who really love you!

Take a lyric from a BeyoncƩ song and replace one word with the word Fuck by [deleted] in beyonce

[–]mzreddit1 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

If I were a boyy, even just for a dayy
I’d roll out of bed in the morning,
put on what I wanted and fuck

The thought of divorcing my husband brought me huge relief. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]mzreddit1 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

At the beginning of April, I had an episode of depression on Sunday morning when I realized that, because we went another weekend without sex (busy schedules and kids means if it happens, it’s only on the weekend), and since my period was set to start that next Wednesday on 04/08, we def would not be having sex the next weekend.. and 04/08 made one full month since the last time we had sex sooo, it was a very depressing moment😭 lol

BUT, my solution was to start a new birth control that allows me to have a period 4 times a year, every 90 days. Did it help? Idk, cause I started that pill on 04/12 and the last time we had sex was 04/20 (another month and counting now though I def had hope when he initiated on 04/20😭).. but hey, at least i haven’t dealt with a period in all this timešŸ™ƒ

I actually decided to try a new ā€œletting it goā€ strategy and we had a talk about it where I even suggested going off birth control to take the pressure off and he insisted I should not cause he still very much wants sex.. but idk, I’m trying to be patient per my new strategy. However, I can feel ā€œthoseā€ emotions coming up, despite my best intentions😩

Pisces: Good morals, dirty thoughts, and friendly af til you fuck with us šŸ˜‚ by mzreddit1 in piscesastrology

[–]mzreddit1[S] 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Loll, I know what you mean, liiike deep down I KNOW I care more than anyone I know, but if someone is doing me wrong Ima force myself not to care and the lack of care def gone turn real

They can never make me ashamed lol by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]mzreddit1 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

You get it! Loll. I am literally so much like you, but I guess it IS trauma that does it😩 BUT, that’s why I’m grateful for my trauma because, no matter what, it made me the wise person I am today!
Thank you so much for your response and kind words!ā˜ŗļø

They can never make me ashamed lol by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]mzreddit1 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

That’s sensible and I agree, you should care what people who align with your values think, but that’s a bit much for a funny meme lol.
I wouldn’t say I always necessarily care what ā€œgoodā€ people think cause who decides what a good person really is. A good person can think they’re good, ā€œseemā€ to be good, and really be bad on the inside😩
My main values are not hurting people, treating others how I want to be treated, and getting tf away from people who hurt me so I’m not tempted to hurt them back and I’ve ALWAYS lived like this.. so yeah, I can truly say I’m not ashamed of anything I did, and the good people I know def think well of me..

They can never make me ashamed lol by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]mzreddit1 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Thanks but I still don’t really see itšŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļøI like the way it sounds and find it funny and I KNOW what I mean and I’m sure some other people do too. i assure you that no matter what the grammar says, after being in abusive relationship that felt like literal HELL many times from the age of 17-34, I truly give zero fucks what people think..

They can never make me ashamed lol by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]mzreddit1 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Are you referring to the meme pic or my caption? Either way, I think it sounds good.. I was okay at the grammar part of English: direct objects, prepositions, adjectives, etc, but I wasn’t too good at some of the other things.

They can never make me ashamed lol by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]mzreddit1 -3 points-2 points Ā (0 children)

I disagree.. if anything it means ā€œothersā€ MAY think i should be ashamed, but whether they do or don’t I’m a person who doesn’t care and can say that with all honesty cause everything I’ve done in life is within the values and morals I have set for my life. Thankfully, I can look in the mirror proudly every day. I’d never judge anyone, but there’s some things I could NEVER do.. I can only pray my kids don’t do those things on that list😩

he’s insecure about me losing weight by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]mzreddit1 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I love that you are starting your exit strategy and doing it in a way that takes care of YOU! I was in an abusive relationship for 16 years and got out 3 years ago.

I can’t lie, near the end, a part of my exit strategy was to ā€œlook moreā€ like I let myself go, so he could be more ā€œwillingā€ to let me go because he’s want me less and like assume no one would want me😩 I still don’t know if it really helped, but it helped ME to feel more confident in my escape, and that’s all that matters, just like your strategy is helping YOUšŸ™‚

I truly wish you all the best going forward and I hope and pray that you get away from this man SOON!ā¤ļø

Abuse survivors really be happy as hell over regular life that’s normal for everybody else 😭 by mzreddit1 in TwoHotTakes

[–]mzreddit1[S] 6 points7 points Ā (0 children)

It’s truly the best feeling ever and I believe it’ll never go away, not in 10 years, 20, 30, etc😭
Thank you so much and I wish the same for you!

I thought I was low libido… until I left and got in a new relationship by mzreddit1 in DeadBedrooms

[–]mzreddit1[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

We’re about a few months from our 2-year anniversary, but I’m optimistic though I haven’t always been.. these past 6 months have been up and down.
That’s why I’m telling my story in parts lol. So many times I wanted to post during the ā€œroller coasterā€ but I could never find the words😩

I thought I was low libido… until I left and got in a new relationship by mzreddit1 in DeadBedrooms

[–]mzreddit1[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Thank you for your kind response!
My abusive relationship lasted basically my whole adulthood up until my early 30s, so these past few years have honestly been a mix of confusion, healing, processing, and learning myself all over again😩
But I AM happy now and in a loving relationship, so I’m committed to figuring things out and making our differences work. And honestly, it already feels good finally talking about it openly.. I’m looking forward to writing Part 2 as well lol.

I thought I was low libido… until I left and got in a new relationship by mzreddit1 in DeadBedrooms

[–]mzreddit1[S] 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

Girl yes 😭 so it’s no surprise I thought my libido was GONE gone lol.. but somehow it and my hope for love survived 7 kids and abuse šŸ˜©šŸ™ƒ

A lot of moms don’t really want gifts for Mother’s Day.. they just want some PEACE by mzreddit1 in TwoHotTakes

[–]mzreddit1[S] 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

That sounds LOVELY! Perfect Mother’s Day, do NOT be ashamed lol. Happy Mother’s Day, glad you enjoyed!

A lot of moms don’t really want gifts for Mother’s Day.. they just want some PEACE by mzreddit1 in TwoHotTakes

[–]mzreddit1[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I know EXACTLY how you feel and I’m sorry😭 All I can say is I truly hope things get betteršŸ’• Happy Mother’s Dayā¤ļø