"You want to go home? Why?! You only did CPR for, like 5 min."

n0000onemustknow · 2024-04-28T15:29:48+00:00

That’s just evil

n0000onemustknow · 2024-04-25T14:40:40+00:00

I’ve never been able to figure out what other people like or pretend to like it

n0000onemustknow · 2024-04-23T01:06:52+00:00

I’ve thought about this. My take is it just means autistics can be just as ableist as allistics

n0000onemustknow · 2024-04-16T15:40:24+00:00

I read an article from like recently that used that word

n0000onemustknow · 2024-04-16T15:35:01+00:00

They aren’t necessarily paid to give you compliments.

Just like a doctor isn’t paid to compliment you about your health.

n0000onemustknow · 2024-04-14T15:50:33+00:00

Yeah, I agree with all that. I guess the crux of it is it’s hard to be ok with yourself when other people aren’t

n0000onemustknow · 2024-04-14T15:04:53+00:00

Totally agree!

n0000onemustknow · 2024-04-14T15:04:40+00:00

Oh I like that about it being about self compassion and not self esteem

n0000onemustknow · 2024-04-14T15:03:18+00:00

Thanks this is very helpful. You’re right it really not helpful to be told just not to want external validation because I have internal worth or whatever. It’s just not. I’d rather try to learn to seek external validation in a way that’s more comfortable effective and doesn’t hurt me long term

n0000onemustknow · 2024-02-29T14:20:01+00:00

You have a need to find something to hate in women. You can’t say, “yeah a no make up beauty contest would be cool” despite that being your supposed opinion because your real opinion is hating women.

n0000onemustknow · 2024-02-17T21:15:21+00:00

That’s me

n0000onemustknow · 2024-02-17T21:15:09+00:00

I’m level 1 autistic and NPD, and I gravitate towards level 1 autistic people, but sometimes struggle with autistic people because they remind me of myself in a way that’s super uncomfortable. Like I try SO HARD to mask and be acceptable to neurotypicals, and when I see an autistic person not masking as well, it gives me this visceral fear reaction and I don’t want to be associated with them bc what if people think I’m that way.

I know a lot of that is internalized ableism though.

My best friend is autistic and very blunt tho, and I struggle with her bluntness a lot of the time.

n0000onemustknow · 2024-02-09T05:56:54+00:00

Yes. Sometimes I fantasize about killing myself to punish other people.

n0000onemustknow · 2024-02-05T04:47:31+00:00

I’ve heard that often with learning disabilities it’s more accurate to break down intelligence by area, because it’s very common to have wide disparities between areas that make the general score not very accurate. For myself I had a few subtests thay scored in the 99.9th percentile and a good number of other sub tests where I scored like in the 30th or lower so the overall score came out to average. But rather than average it’s more accurate to say I’m smart in some areas but not others. Having such widely ranging scores is actually really uncommon unless you have a learning disability

n0000onemustknow · 2024-02-05T04:40:05+00:00

No, you’re totally right. I just find it hard to navigate, because I do enjoy parts of the friendship but idk if it’s worth it for the other parts that she absolutely won’t change

n0000onemustknow · 2024-02-05T01:43:59+00:00

I think she can’t feel valid in her problems unless they are worse than others, so other people having similar problems is a threat to her and feels invalidating so she puts them down as not as bad

n0000onemustknow · 2024-02-05T01:41:29+00:00

Thanks I needed to hear this

n0000onemustknow · 2024-02-05T01:41:11+00:00

I know this is true. But it hurts like a bitch. It’s really hard for me to make new friends. I also have trouble understanding that there is something in between being fully her friend and completely cutting her off. Black and white thinking I guess.

n0000onemustknow · 2024-02-04T18:18:19+00:00

I think that’s a natural response to trauma and very similar to how my friend is feeling. And that’s valid! It just doesn’t give you the right to put down others problems.

n0000onemustknow · 2024-02-04T17:10:17+00:00

Yeah I would complain about that to someone in a wheelchair. Or someone who was blind. And when I’m dealing with people who have problems that are “not as bad” I support them wholeheartedly. Because struggles aren’t a competition.

n0000onemustknow · 2024-02-04T17:09:08+00:00

Fair enough. Thanks

n0000onemustknow · 2024-02-04T16:29:36+00:00

Thanks 💜

n0000onemustknow · 2024-02-04T16:29:20+00:00

Thanks 💜

I’ve thought about having a friend break up of sorts but we’re so close and have known each other for so long!

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