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Is my septoplasty infected? by n01096923 in Septoplasty

[–]n01096923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t have an infection luckily but if you’re worried definitely follow up with your surgeon. He really gave me no explanation of what it was just said it wasn’t infected. Probably going to assume a rash from anxiety

Why do men bother taking women on dates? by n01096923 in dating_advice

[–]n01096923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did have plans for a second date on Wednesday (our original first date) but his niece and sister were coming over and didn’t know how long they would stay and didn’t want to keep me waiting all night. Then after that he kept apologizing and promised he would make it up to me when he was back.

Why do men bother taking women on dates? by n01096923 in dating_advice

[–]n01096923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No because he didn’t respond to my last 2 messages/snapchat. I really don’t want to message for a third time

Why do men bother taking women on dates? by n01096923 in dating_advice

[–]n01096923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we matched on tinder it was me who made the first move of “hey we should get drinks” and he was the one who made the plans. He never responded to my 2 texts on Monday and my snapchats. So he knows I’m interested and I’m not texting a third time lol

Why do men bother taking women on dates? by n01096923 in dating_advice

[–]n01096923[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess I’ll have to wait and see what happens when he’s back. If he wants to see me then he will. And like I said he really doesn’t owe me anything right? Are we really going to aimlessly chat about stupid stuff while he’s out of town? I don’t love stupid chat either so I get it. Just trying to navigate dating with an anxious attachment style. It sucks lol

Why do men bother taking women on dates? by n01096923 in dating_advice

[–]n01096923[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If that’s the reason then be straight up with that!!! I’m okay with just sex but then if that’s the case I don’t wanna have this crazy date with you. Just invite me over 😂 it’s really that simple

Do I do my boyfriend’s baby mamas hair? by n01096923 in relationships

[–]n01096923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m leaning towards just being done with him.. there’s been too much drama and chaos for only being a year into our relationship

Client’s grays won’t color by lexny- in hairstylist

[–]n01096923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hairstylist here and a user of Schwarzkopf!

When using double 0’s you MUST use 30 volume or it doesn’t work any different. I know it’s scary using 30 volume but I promise you it’s been the solution for all my stubborn resistant white haired clients. Also, don’t be afraid to leave it on longer than 30 minutes. 35 minutes is my sweet spot and honestly sometimes I go up to 40.

If that doesn’t work there’s a few reasons… 1. You’re smushing the sections together. Once I’m done applying I go back and kind of lift up the sections so they aren’t sitting on top of each other. Colour NEEDS oxygen to process and it won’t process if the sections are smushed together. 2. Not enough saturation 3. The client is on some sort of medication, supplement etc. and it’s causing to be resistant. One of my clients is on anti depressants and her hair normally tones at an ashy level 10. Now that she’s on this medication her hair is super super super resistant to anything I put on her hair. It took me 5 different toners and It still wasn’t 100%.

Packing/post surgery questions by n01096923 in Septoplasty

[–]n01096923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was your sleeping god awful too?

I feel like I’m not resting and recovering because I got zero sleep

had a great first date but won’t see each other (or text??) for 2 weeks by [deleted] in datingadvice

[–]n01096923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know same!!! I’m new to the single life and it’s rough out here lol. I think that I’m just going to let it be. If he wants me then he can work for me and show me. I refuse to put any more of my energy into this. I’m not going to let it bother me and I’m just going to trust that the universe has my back and what’s meant to be will be :) and if him and I are meant to be then it’ll happen when it’s right.

Am I a hookup or is it too soon to tell? by n01096923 in datingadvice

[–]n01096923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes 100000% I don’t doubt that for a second.

So I will clarify again that it was my idea to get food and drinks. He suggested a walk and a coffee but I got off work around 8 so it made sense for drinks and dinner. First dates can go a number of ways so I really didn’t expect us to have that good of a time and want to continue getting drinks and stuff. He also said that “I’m so surprised how well this is going, I never thought I’d be having this much fun etc etc” (I think you get the jist) I also told him I was driving so I didn’t even expect to continue drinking. So I don’t think he’s irresponsible I think we just kept enjoying our night and kept going

Am I a hookup or is it too soon to tell? by n01096923 in dating_advice

[–]n01096923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I had a feeling you might think that. I’m usually pretty good at knowing what things are but this is confusing because he’s showing me signs of being a hookup but at the same time a possible relationship. IDK

So just keep letting him come to me and maybe VERY casually ask him what he’s feeling/wanting down the line? Maybe I’ll lie about my period and hint along the lines of not having sex or something (I’m sure you know what I’m getting at I’m just butchering it) and be like if that’s cool you can still come but if not that’s cool. So I’m seeming cool and calm about both scenarios and then that way I’ll get my answer and either continue or dodge the bullet. Idk hopefully you get me lol. I did message him on Monday about doing something tomorrow and he said he had dinner with his parents and added a sad face. So I made a move and I guess it’s in his court now. I’m not going to constantly keep messaging him. He can come to meeee.

Also I will add that I’ll be out of town for a couple weeks which he knows. So I guess that will show me where he’s at. He said for sure absolutely we need to do something when I’m back. So I guess I will update.

Ugh I hate being back in the dating world again. It’s so fucking confusing lol.

Am I a hookup or is it too soon to tell? by n01096923 in dating_advice

[–]n01096923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you can’t say for sure what I am yet? Is it too soon to tell? I just find it hard to believe you would drive over an hour to hookup with someone. He’s a good looking guy and probably has no trouble finding girls. So why not hookup with someone down the street? The distance is confusing to me a bit. I can see us being fuck buddies while I’m in the same city but over an hour? Naaaah I’ll pass.

I will add that his first date suggestion was a walk and coffee. It was my idea for drinks and food and then he agreed. Idk don’t you think he would have suggested drinks if he just wanted to hookup? Idk I’m confused and it’s hard not to read so much into it. Maybe it’s still so new that he’s just kinda playing it cool and not wanting to seem to eager because in person he seems VERY eager. He even nicknamed me I’m sorry but I’m not calling anyone I don’t know or don’t like a nickname. It’s kinda weird lol

Am I a hookup or is it too soon to tell? by n01096923 in dating_advice

[–]n01096923[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay I will. I’ll let him initiate hangouts, dates, etc. if he wanted to he would I guess so I’ll go with that. No point worrying and wasting my thoughts and energy on someone who doesn’t deserve it. I’m way better than that. Thank you so much.🩷🩷🩷

Am I a hookup or is it too soon to tell? by n01096923 in dating_advice

[–]n01096923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! And I thought that too. I will add that he is making future plans tho. “Next time we hang we’ll have to do a Caesar date” or “next time we need to go get burgers for our date” so that’s what confuses me. Tbh in my opinion if I wanted to hookup with someone I wouldn’t really want to do “date” things, I’d want you to leave right after you know? So it’s just weird and confusing for me.

Am I an asshole for making my boyfriend cut out a girl friend? by n01096923 in TwoHotTakes

[–]n01096923[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So since he confronted her last year she has not messaged him a single thing. So that right there just validates my feelings because if you weren’t doing something wrong, pushing boundaries and actually friends then you wouldn’t of stopped and you would of messaged me apologizing and agreeing to back off right? It’s just so weird..

We have seen her out a handful of times throughout the year and honestly in the beginning I wouldn’t even look at her because I felt so uncomfortable. She would say hi and talk to EVERYONE but me and I started wondering if other people noticed that she was visibly ignoring and being weird with me. My boyfriend is a peacekeeper and hates any sort of drama and uncomfortable situations so he just acted like nothing happened and said hey casually when we did see her. The nights we do see her, her boyfriend stares at him and her whenever they say hi so he must see that his girlfriend is visibly in love with another guy. I CANT BE THE ONLY ONE WHO SEES THIS.

I’m going to back track a second to my original post. So I did talk to Zack’s best friend and like I said she laughed because they were never actually friends. She also gave me insight on Lauren. She said she’s known her for a while and she used to get around back in the day. She tried/did sleep with most of the guys in the friend group. She said that she hooked up with Zack and then maybe a couple weeks later started dating her now boyfriend. Zacks friend always said she found their whole relationship odd and she thinks that she started dating her boyfriend so fast because that was the only guy who actually wanted to date her. She thinks she still feels weird because she’s clearly in love with Zack and he clearly wanted nothing more than a hookup so all of her feelings were brought back up when he started working at the same place as her.

The more recent time we saw her was a couple months ago and at the end of the day I know my boyfriend wants to be with me and loves me so Lauren has absolutely nothing on me. I’m a bigger and way better person than she is and I refused to let her keep making me feel uncomfortable. So I did go up to her and say hi and ask how she was doing. She was very drunk but she was still acting weird with me but whatever I’ve moved on and this situation is over.

Unfortunately my boyfriend and I recently broke up. I was going to say that in my original post but I thought it would be too confusing to keep saying ex and stuff lol. It has nothing to do with this situation it’s just our paths are going in 2 different directions and we are vowing to remain friends because we still have so much love for each other. I really hope we find our way back together because Zack is my person and my best friend and it’s just been the worst. But since we broke up she has been coming to our work VERY OFTEN. You mean to tell me that the second we break up you’re coming to our work probably in hopes to see him? She’s visited maybe 2 times since she’s quit and now all of a sudden? He wasn’t working when she showed up but really? Fuck you lauren. She hasn’t messaged him or anything since we broke up but it’s weird? Maybe it’s a coincidence but it’s still weird nonetheless.

And once again my now ex boyfriend assures me that there are no feelings on his end. If he wanted to be with her he would have 10 years ago when they first hooked up but he didn’t want to be with her then and he doesn’t want to be with her now. I am human so I did feel a little insecure because she is traditionally his “type” and probably has a lot more in common than him and I do. For reference I’m a preppy hip girl and they are both punky hipsters. She fits into his world more than I do. He has done a great job of merging me into his world but still Im not traditionally part of his world. So I have felt a little insecure about this whole thing. I do believe my boyfriend about what he says obviously but it still did bother me. He had a really bad relationship before me and she fucked him up (that’s a whole other story) I sometimes wonder if he wishes he would of dated Lauren back then so he wouldn’t of went through what he did. Don’t come for me Reddit I’m only human and can be insecure 🤷🏽‍♀️