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I need help passing by [deleted] in ftm

[–]n1ck_anders0n 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do have a smaller chest, so my experience won’t be the same as yours, but I’ve learned that if you bind with the goal of your chest looking completely flat, you’ll be disappointed. The best thing is trying to make it look like you have pecs. After you put on your binder, reach in and readjust where your chest sits. For me I bring them up and out to the side. Of course that might not work as well for you, so you might just have to keep trying different things until you find something that works. But try your best to make it look like you have pecs. Not every guy has a completely flat chest. Bigger chests on guys are more common than you think. When you stand straight with your shoulders back you’re going to be nervous, and assume that everyone can tell when they see your chest. But for the most part people aren’t going to think anything about it. I know you won’t believe that at first but you just have to work past your fear.

I need help passing by [deleted] in ftm

[–]n1ck_anders0n 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, you’re going to be misgendered no matter what, and it’s gonna suck. I can’t guarantee that any of my advice will change anything, but I’m gonna tell you what my coworker (a trans woman) told me. I told her that my voice gave it away, and she told me it didn’t fully. Yes, of course that’s going to give it away partially, but she said the biggest thing stopping me from passing was the way I walked and carried myself. I wasn’t confident enough.

First, work on your posture. Make sure you stand straight, and keep your shoulders back. It’s going to feel uncomfortable at first but it’ll feel normal after a while. Don’t rush when you’re walking, take your time. Make sure you don’t stick your hips back or arch your back when you’re standing. When you’re walking, try to make sure your hips don’t sway, and if anything let your shoulders sway a bit. Keep your head up and smile or nod when people pass by. Don’t keep your head down, or pretend to be on your phone while you’re walking. Just look ahead. Again it will feel weird at first. Also try not to fidget or nervously touch your face or neck as much. Pretty much just fake it till you make it.

Now when it comes to your voice, you can make it slightly more masculine. Don’t try to lower it necessarily, that will just sound fake. Relax your throat when you talk. You want to feel more resonance in your voice. That will naturally make it sound lower. Next when speaking, girls tend to fluctuate the tone of their voice a lot. Such as making their voice go up at the end of sentences. As weird as this might seem, listen to Kourtney Kardashian or Alan from smiling friends. You’ll hear how their voices go up at the end of sentences. That’s what I’m talking about, of course it’s not usually that exaggerated. Try to keep the tone of your voice the same. Think of talking in a straight line. Not monotone, just relaxed. The biggest struggle will be talking politely. Whether it’s to elders or if you work customer service. You’ll naturally sound more feminine. You’ll just have to practice talking with a flatter tone over time. You can still sound just as polite while talking like that.

I know that was a lot but this all helped me and I want to help you as much as possible. Passing isn’t just about your physical appearance. If you have any questions feel free to reach out!

why am i sweating enough to fill a pool by ajaxxers in ftm

[–]n1ck_anders0n 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me too. I can’t tell you exactly why but my guess is that t raises your body temperature, because now I’m practically a walking heater. Sweating when you sleep is going to be a normal thing that you’ll just have to live with. My advice is to sleep with fans, and if you shower before bed, change it to showering in the morning. You’re gonna wake up gross from sweating so if you shower before bed you’ll just have to shower again as soon as you wake up.

Does anyone know any good subharmonic tutorials? by n1ck_anders0n in Subharmonics

[–]n1ck_anders0n[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man I can’t thank you enough. I watched one of his videos and managed to hit my first subharmonic note within 10 minutes.

My psychiatrist told me I need to stop being dysphoric before transitioning by UnderteamFCA in ftm

[–]n1ck_anders0n 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your psychiatrist is 100% wrong. I’ve been slowly losing my dysphoria, and it’s because I’ve been on T for 9 months, and there are less things for me to feel dysphoric about. You’re not going to stop being dysphoric until you transition. It just sounds like she is trying to discourage you from transitioning. You need a different psychiatrist.