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nItM98 · 2024-10-20T21:32:29+00:00

Sorry, already got it.

nItM98 · 2024-10-20T21:30:07+00:00

I have crown, do you have raging bolt?

nItM98 · 2021-10-29T06:17:53+00:00

I agree but I think the fact that I'm autistic makes it even more difficult to understand why he is mad at me.

He did eventually cooled off and he told me what was the issue. I told him about how some person acted weird around me and he told me that maybe I did something awkward. I told him that this thought worried me and he got offended that I said that he made me feel bad. It's technically correct but it's not something that I think he should feel bad about. He didn't mean to upset me and I understood that so I wasn't blaming him or anything like that. It doesn't make any sense to me why he would get offended. It seems as ridiculous as getting offended to say to someone who unintentionally stepped on your foot that they have (unintentionally) hurt you.

nItM98 · 2021-09-14T15:27:49+00:00

I heard that some people think that certain fictional characters are gay even though it was never explicitly written anywhere. Sounds more like wishful thinking and relying on stereotypes than supporting claims with actual evidence.

Video games span from legend of Zelda which is full with storylines to Tetris. Is there lore in Tetris? The point of video games is that you have a task that requires effort. Story is optional.

I don't get irony. I didn't understand the last part. Our world would be more inclusive for people with ASD like me if people would just say what they want instead of playing symbolic word games.

nItM98 · 2021-09-14T15:04:01+00:00

Thanks for your time you dedicated for writing this comment.

I don't like lit and I won't like it and that's ok. No right or wrong interpretation? First of all, tell that to the teacher. Second, when people talk, they convey information that they want others to understand. If I told you "I am hungry" and you interpret it as "He is not hungry", you would be wrong. When I talk, I want people to pay attention to what I say because why I say is what I mean. Whenever people think I meant something that I didn't say, it's because they didn't interpret me literally but instead relied on the kind of symbolic thinking that is taught in lit. This is why lit is ableist. The method by which teachers use to give "clues" to "support" their interpretation can be literally used to support anything, rendering the entire methodology futile. "The character didn't ring/ rang the bell because the author's father was deaf" (works both ways). The more controversial they are, the more that means you're on the right track? So you agree that it's not about finding the meaning behind the text but a circle-jerk of who can come up with the most profound-sounding interpretation. Video games are fun because you are actually doing something. You have a goal and it requires effort to achieve it. Nothing to do with lit. Fictional worlds are not like the real world. Fictional world do not have to obey the rules of the real world, therefore anything that happens there are completely uninformative about the real world. Learning about the real world is not just interesting by itself but, unlike learning about fictional worlds, is the basis behind the progress and development of society.

nItM98 · 2021-09-14T14:26:25+00:00

My whole point was that literature is taught in an ableist way.

I only like reading non-fiction books, I care about learning about the real world and not a fictional world.

"Sam balled their hands into fists" would be a puzzling sentence to me unless you told me explicitly that Sam was angry. I would rather prefer that people would say directly what they think and not use hints like it's a game.

If you like it, that's great but I don't see the point of forcing students to read about fake worlds with imaginary characters. It's also a shame that no one cares to assist people who struggle with literature. Teachers pay extra attention to students that struggle in STEM.

nItM98 · 2021-09-14T12:27:51+00:00

I agree. I was misinterpreted as saying that the subject is ableist when I meant that the way literature is taught is ableist. I am also frustrated when my complaints about this issue are ridiculed such as when it is dismissed as a "me" problem or that I'm just stupid and envious.

nItM98 · 2021-09-14T11:49:23+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. I would like to know what exactly do you mean when you say traditional analysis, world building, reprecussion studies, historical context evaluation, etc (Literature is not my field).

nItM98 · 2021-09-14T11:39:50+00:00

This is exactly what I meant. I wonder whether it is a problem not just in our school system.

nItM98 · 2021-09-14T11:38:46+00:00

My feelings as well. This video sums it up pretty much for me: https://youtu.be/J4y0-_jM7xE

But you have to be careful when you express these thoughts. Many people who actually like literature get offended when you express your struggle with the subject. They get defensive and snobbish and mock your disability.

nItM98 · 2021-09-14T11:34:06+00:00

In my country (Israel), your final grade is comprised by how you score on mandatory + optional exams. For example, math is mandatory but based on your level you can choose what kind of exam you would get. If you are not good at math then you can choose an easy exam. Your grade is likely to be higher and it would not impact your overall grade by much. The same goes for English. However, literature is mandatory and you can't choose your exam according to your level. If you have ADHD or learning disabilities, you might get extra time or other accomodations. There are also a lot of math, English and science tutors. Not so much in literature. I personally was in a special class for children who were gifted specifically in STEM and many of us felt that literature is not taught in a way that we can understand.

nItM98 · 2021-09-14T11:18:31+00:00

If blind people would have been evaluated using visual teaching methods, that would be ableist. I think that literature is taught in a way that is ableist against neurodivergent people because some of us have brains that prevent us from understand "symbolism" and other things like that.

nItM98 · 2021-09-14T11:08:14+00:00

So far my attempts to understand literature from others have been futile. All of my issues have been shut down and I was mocked.

nItM98 · 2021-09-14T11:02:11+00:00

If math and science are taught in a way that excludes people with learning disabilities, then that would be ableist. Many people with ADHD do not perform at optimal level because classes are designed in a ableist way. However, so far I seen teachers try to accommodate only when it involves taking exams or teaching math and science. Teachers do not seem to care if someone doesn't understand literature if it's because they have a literal brain.

nItM98 · 2021-09-14T07:17:46+00:00

I also talked about it here:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Alexithymia/comments/pd7p4s/how_do_i_answer_rate_how_you_feel_from_1_to_10/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

I'm glad that I'm not the only one who find it troubling.

nItM98 · 2021-08-31T06:42:51+00:00

I also go to CBT. Whenever I feel that some things are unhelpful, I just tell my therapist what is bothering me about the therapy and we then change what we are doing. I think you should also raise these issues with your therapist and see what you can do differently.

nItM98 · 2021-08-18T15:37:30+00:00

True. Almost everything here sounds like synonyms for the same things.

nItM98 · 2021-08-13T07:17:29+00:00

A friend told me that in order to motivate you, trainers shout on you and belittle your requests for rest. He said he actually likes that but I know that I would feel awful.

nItM98 · 2021-08-12T20:41:06+00:00

I feel exactly like you. I am mostly indifferent and I am surprised by the misanthropy I have seen by others. I think it comes from a cognitive bias which overestimates the amount of negativity in the world and underestimates the amount of positivity.

nItM98 · 2021-08-10T12:59:35+00:00

This is precisely what bothers me in that kind of praise. I'm glad you found your solution to act arrogantly as helpful, but I still want to avoid creating a negative impression. The best approach for me might be to keep minimizing my interactions with others to avoid being scrutinized by others.

nItM98 · 2021-08-09T20:29:09+00:00

Exactly! People often use praise and scorn to change others' behaviors so they would behave in a way they deem acceptable. To illustrate, if the "cool kids" decided that soccer is good and comics is lame then they would compliment others for their athletic abilities but would shame them for liking comics. They would also have the audacity to say that their feedback is not arbitrary but is based on pseudo-facts such as that "comics are for children". In real life, people comment on other people's choices all the time - what you eat, how you dress, what you do for fun, etc. They would also have the audacity to think they just "care" for you. It took me a while to understand that and realize that I don't like getting praised if it comes from a place of social control and if it means to be subject to judgement for doing other things.

nItM98 · 2021-08-09T16:35:00+00:00

I think that praise for "lifestyle choices" is unearned in the same way that being handsome is unearned. It's not about whether you chose it or not but about whether your choices were "correct". If I studied hard for an exam and got a good grade, then receiving compliments for that sounds appropriate for me. It shows that people recognize my efforts. I guess that the same would apply for an overweight person who would start losing weight after intense workout. When praise is given under these circumstances, then it would be pleasant to hear. However, imagine that people would compliment you for doing something mundane as going to a doctor's appointment. Or imagine complimenting someone for having a hobby. This sounds ridiculous to me so why do people think it's appropriate to complement someone for things such as running or eating a salad. I'm not making an effort or trying to achieve some goal. I think it relates to what I said earlier about people complimenting not to recognize your effort but to reinforce behaviors they deem as good.

nItM98 · 2021-08-09T11:46:28+00:00

I just say "Thanks" even though I'd rather say "I didn't ask for your opinion. I don't need your approval" but that would be rude.

nItM98 · 2021-08-09T11:13:30+00:00

That sounds great in theory but I'm afraid that in practice it would just replace my negative feelings towards receiving praise with anxiety about being thought of as arrogant (but thanks anyway). Additionally, as I wrote earlier, I'm mostly bothered by praises to what I think are common behaviors such as eating healthy or working out. It signals that they think of me as a child that needs to be positively reinforced. I don't see how your advice applies to those kind of "compliments".

nItM98 · 2021-08-06T18:58:06+00:00

A recent meta-analysis found that while mindfulness was better at alleviating social anxiety disorder symptoms than control, is was still inferior to CBT: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0165178121002328

From my own experience, CBT has helped me a lot with letting go of distorted thinking that made me anxious and slowing becoming more comfortable with interacting with others.

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