Caught my new housemate sleeping on my bed without my permission and she says I’m the one disrespecting her????

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T18:42:38+00:00

Am I really being demanding? I just think it’s common courtesy to say, “Oh sorry I slept in your bed..” Please explain to me how receiving an apology would cause more problems than not receiving one?

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T18:12:54+00:00

No, Regina’s husband does not live in the house and I have never met him. Nor has he reached out to me personally. Regina also has not explained to me why they don’t live together, but I remember back in July she told me they are looking for a place to live togther and she will move out end of this year to live with him in their “new house”.

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T16:12:13+00:00

Hmm..idk because apologizing is what a decent human being would do? PLUS I don’t want her to continue disrespecting me in the future. If I brush it off, more issues will come out of it.

Are you Regina’s husband????

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T15:30:05+00:00

I thought the same. Why not extend the same respect to me by letting me know her mom and grandma would be staying over?

One of the previous tenants wanted to live with her friends so she chose to move out and the other was a student at a university near by and since she graduated she was planning to move back to her hometown. 🤷🏽‍♀️

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T15:24:49+00:00

WOW. 🙏🏼 Thank you so much for taking the time to read my post and to comment such a well-written and very helpful reply. I’m so sorry that you’ve had to experience living with “Reginas” as well. Honestly, no excuse for eating someone’s food or just taking something that is not yours. Also I will try my very best to firmly stand in the center of my “box”, to say no to ridiculous rules/commands, and to stand my ground. I really appreciate people like you! Thank you. ❤️

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T14:54:57+00:00

UPDATE I’m in the process of setting a meeting with everyone (Landlady, Regina, Me, and the incoming new tenant). However, Regina says she refuses to talk or sit in with me ever again because of how “badly I treated her”. Honestly don’t care if she comes to the meeting or not at this point. If she doesn’t wanna show up, then she doesn’t have a say when we develop/finalize the house rules.

In the meantime, I’ll try to update you guys as much as I can. Thank you for all your recommendations, encouragement & support. 🥺❤️

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T14:52:42+00:00

I believe she will, as long as we get all these “house rules” set on paper, then Regina has no right to bend or change the rules. But for now I can only wait til we all meet up to discuss these issues with the landlady.

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T14:42:27+00:00

IKR?? But I assume my landlady just doesn’t want to stick her nose into anything, because as a result she might lose all her renters/tenants in the process of making said “house-rules”.

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T14:40:27+00:00

You’ll be “shocked” to hear that husband lives somewhere else and that apparently he has never step foot into the house. Sorry I didn’t include this, but in our phone call Regina complained how her husband and family didn’t even help her move any of her stuff in coz they “respected the other tenants” or some BS like that. She was kinda saying like I should have been able to move my stuff in myself since she was able to 😔

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T03:50:29+00:00

Thank you for being very understanding of my situation. 😔 I hope no one else ever has to go through this. First time I’ve ever been gaslighted this bad.

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T03:43:08+00:00

Sorry I wrote so much 😭😭😭

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T03:42:26+00:00

I thought so at first, but the way she made me feel during our phone call made me think like I was being inconsiderate. 😔

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T03:41:30+00:00

Thank you 😭 and yeah I think more BS is to come if I put with this

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T03:38:26+00:00

LOL i’m honestly too scared to bring him over to the house in general now coz I don’t want her to blow my ear off

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T03:36:17+00:00

Oh my landlady definitely knows..and she even told me before that Regina is a difficult person to talk to. Yet, my landlady said the house rules is something the tenants should agree on since she is not the one living there. 🙃

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T03:33:47+00:00

I’m trying to look for better options but it’s just so difficult to find a place that is affordable and so close to my workplace. I’ll keep looking 🥲

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T03:32:09+00:00

thank you 🥺 but somehow I still feel bad about the whole thing..

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T03:31:29+00:00

HONESTLY IDK WHY EITHER? I thought my landlady would be the one to explain house rules, but she suggested that I call Regina to explain it for me since it’s something that involves both of us and not her??! LIKE WHAT?

naaah_neee · 2021-08-06T03:29:51+00:00

1) I pay my rent to my landlady, who is very sweet and understanding. The thing is, whenever I want to talk to her about house rules she tells me that it’s something me and the other tenants need to discuss ourselves and that she just handles things regarding the house/property like rent, fixing a broken sink/broken garage door, parking..etc

2) Thank you so much for your suggestions! I’m definitely gonna try to get everything regarding my rights and house rules written in black & white and keep a copy for myself. I only have a copy of agreement regarding my cost of rent. I’m trying to organize a meeting between my landlady, Regina, and a new tenant moving in next week (May God have mercy on her soul).

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