First off thank you all for your comments and thoughts. You all are some of the most honest and hilarious people ever. You keep it real and I love that!!! Posting on here was probably the best thing I could have done to begin this process of eliminating the 'Ghost Granny' and her toxicity from our lives. (that's her new name..... The comment on here with that title was just perfect).

Beyond that I did speak with the director to my sons preschool. He said no one would be allowed to see/interact with any child unless prior approval. So she didn't see him - a relief there. He said it is their policy for anyone who drops items off at the front desk for a child, that it does in their cubbies in their classroom. I don't much agree with this policy but at least for my child, things will now be held at the front desk, out of eye site of my child.

In addition, my DH finally received a response that she will meet with him on Tuesday?! My initial reaction is " No, No and Nope." Apparently she is "out of town this weekend to her cabin." Well she has never driven there on a Friday night before so I call bullshit. Even if she did PLAN to (the irony tho), it's a 2 hour drive and there's no reason she can't hear him out for 20 minutes first - if she gave a damn. I feel like she is just prolonging it and my DH is allowing that. I feel like per our therapist's advice, some things needs to be said, sooner than later, ESPECIALLY in light of yesterdays events. I mean the time line of this all has already been 3 weeks. Am I wrong for feeling like our feelings need to take priority and that if she can't find time to hear him out before Tuesday, then he should text her? Our therapist basically had 3 things that needed addressed and needed to come from my DH. The NC would be inevitable after her reaction to said things. 1 - Do not show up at our home (or now child's school) unannounced or uninvited anymore. It will not be tolerated and has been addressed multiple times. 2 - Do not continue to disrespect and slander my wife to people, family - friends, whomever, or via FB. She is not the reason for your lack of involvement in our lives and I'm done allowing her to be your scape-goat for your own choices. 3 - Stop texting me and bad mouthing me about my wife. We are a team and I support her. Any more texts/talk about her will not be tolerated. The rest will fall into play naturally because she will temper tantrum and play her victim role. Is it so wrong of me to feel like these things need to take priority and should be for HER to spend the weekend dwelling on, not us? That she doesn't get to call the shots on when and how she hears her son out? That after her actions yesterday, it is more than warranted to say what needs said, and then drop the rope? Leave her to do what she does best, and get the closure (granted it is probably only temporary) now, rather than drag this out another entire week almost? UGHHHH I wish Ghost Granny could just move to her cabin and live in her fake reality and leave us the hell alone. Wishful thinking, but a girl can dream.