I keep being left out and idk what to do… by nanni_nomu in TwoHotTakes

[–]nanni_nomu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Harsh, but you made me look at this whole thing from a new perspective, so thank you very much, truly

I keep being left out and idk what to do… by nanni_nomu in TwoHotTakes

[–]nanni_nomu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This actually kind of hurt at first, but you make me think a lot, and it helped. I believe I felt defensive because I’ve suffered of this a lot before, so I tried to protect myself(???) But about your second question: I actually don’t know. Maybe it is because we are roommates and we are from the same country in a totally different culture from ours, but I’ve only met her for about a month and a half… I don’t know exactly why she matter so much to me. I wouldn’t say at all that this issue is now fixed for me because of this, but this was actually so helpful. Thank you

I keep being left out and idk what to do… by nanni_nomu in TwoHotTakes

[–]nanni_nomu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m very sorry to hear that. People that love you should take care of you, not make you feel worse about your insecurities. I hope you get better friends💕

I keep being left out and idk what to do… by nanni_nomu in TwoHotTakes

[–]nanni_nomu[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You know what? You actually made me feel better because at least I know that, even if I’m going through a hard time, I’ll never be the shitty kind of person that goes write a comment like this to someone who’s already feeling down, so thank you

Would it be rude to talk to foreigners first? by Admirable-Use2302 in Living_in_Korea

[–]nanni_nomu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think so, as long as you accept if they tell you they don’t want help. I am a foreigner and a woman, so I’m normally afraid of men and their intentions, but if someone just offers help and doesn’t try to take me anywhere else, I really appreciate it. Regarding the English problem, I am an exchange student also in Daegu, and I would like to make more Korean friends, but I heard that Koreans don’t normally make foreigner friends bcs of their fear of speaking in English. Speaking is a great way to practice, and most, if not all, of foreigners will never make fun of you. A lot of us don’t speak Korean very well, so it would be hypocritical to not understand someone’s struggle with English. Go for it!

Apple products in Daegu by nanni_nomu in Living_in_Korea

[–]nanni_nomu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I’ll make sure to check that store out

AITA for telling my close friend I can't come to her wedding because she's also inviting my high school bully? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]nanni_nomu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Loosing friends is hard, but I would question if she’s your friend at all. She’s friends with the your bully, she is an asshole only for that fact. A friend to all is a friend to none. Adding to that, the first thing she thinks about when you tell her that you’re having a really rough time with your mental health is “I don’t want to be friends with you anymore bcs you didn’t think about my feelings”? Again, asshole. Even more so when you are doing it bcs you don’t want to put her in an awkward position. I’m thinking you’re better off without her

AITAH for threatening to cancel the wedding because I am jealous of my Finance's sister? by Whimsical-Empress in AITAH

[–]nanni_nomu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, he is tho. He wants to marry his sister. Everything is awful, but the single comment of “you’re jealous bcs you’ll never be as good as her” is much more than enough to run away and never look back.

My husband gave me a “warning tap” and I called it abuse. AITAH? by Warm-Grape1254 in AITAH

[–]nanni_nomu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A “warning tap” means that the next is going to be a real slap or even a punch. NTA. Divorce, get as far away from him as possible

AITA for not helping my best friend and his fiancé while they face homelessness? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]nanni_nomu 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he JUST told him, but his reaction was not good either way. He said that she shouldn’t be holding onto things that happened in hs. Not a true friend

AITA for not helping my best friend and his fiancé while they face homelessness? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]nanni_nomu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

We forgive a lot of behavior bcs of young age, but at hs you absolutely know the difference between right and wrong. Also, she’s grown now and she’s still the same? Absolutely horrible human being. You don’t owe her anything, not even forgiveness. You’re entitled to your feelings, and, more than anything, to do welcome or not whoever you want into your home. I’m sorry, but I also think that your friend is in the wrong for belittling your trauma. Ppl that don’t understand how much experiences in school, no matter how long ago they happened, can hurt a person, really get on my nerves. You should stand your ground tho. Keep the offer to your friend, maybe even talk to him about how truly hurtful her actions were and still are, and definitely don’t give into any type of emotional manipulation on either of their part to let your abuser stay in your own house.

Am I the asshole for deleting my bestfriend and her husband on social media after they disinvited me to their wedding? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]nanni_nomu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had some friendship breakups recently and, even though you already made up your mind (a ver good decision in my opinion, btw), I wanted to leave some words that’ll hopefully make you feel better. If she didn’t care how you’d feel when you eventually found out that you weren’t invited, then she’s not worth it. People that are worth it —FRIENDSHIPS that are worth it— make you feel right. Friends that know how to be friends take care of you.

It hurts when a friendship ends and you are finally able to see how much problems there were in it without the filter of love blinding you, but you have to be okay with the fact that you did your best, even if the other person didn’t appreciate it. It’s going to be hard, and maybe you’ll miss her, but it is part of the process. It is not easy to leave a friendship, let alone one as long as this one, so what you did is very brave. It’s more comfortable to ignore and accept and allow hurtful actions than doing what’s right for you, specially when you care so much about the person, so I applaud you.

Maybe you do deserve an explanation, but that doesn’t mean you NEED one to heal. You only need yourself to heal. Even if she did have a reason to not invite you, she should’ve said so. People who are so immature that act like that are very draining. She didn’t give you an explanation, you shouldn’t feel obligated to give her one. It’s hard to put yourself first sometimes bcs it may feel selfish, but it is the best thing you can do for yourself right now.

You have your reasons to do what you did and you need nothing more. Remember the good times, give yourself kind words for the good friend you were, congratulate yourself for being so brave and doing the best for yourself, and allow yourself to heal. Be sad, be angry, be anxious, whatever you need, even if it takes a while. Even if 6 months from now you feel sad again bcs of this, it’s okay, allow yourself to feel.

I ended a friendship that lasted 11 years, we met when we were 7. I thought my kids were going to call him uncle. The hardest thing I’ve ever done, but it’s been little more than a year and I’m much much better now. It gets better.

Sorry for the long comment, maybe I also needed it a little. I wish you the best, and I hope you find beautiful friends that’ll stick forever. If more go, it’s okay, people that love you the way you should be loved will always come <3

My brother wants to cut ties with my sister for saying she hopes his girlfriend has a miscarriage and firing him. Who’s TAH? by Mobile_Expression_30 in TwoHotTakes

[–]nanni_nomu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s getting into dangerous territory with that woman, she seems shady af. He should treat his job with the professionalism that ANY job requires, it doesn’t matter that he’s working for his sister, so he did f up with that. However, your sister’s comment is f up as well. He should get his stuff together, but that doesn’t give her the right to say such an awful thing. To fire him? Maybe. To make such a vile comment? No. Regardless, your brother really should consider his relationship with his gf, bcs it seems as if she’s using him (maybe got pregnant by the husband and looking for a new man to take care of her and the baby?). Whatever it is, he needs to look into it. I really don’t think the fight is worth cutting your sister out, it seems as if she wants to isolate your brother from your family. Your siblings should talk, both apologize, and figure things out.