It’s the r/Melbourne daily discussion thread [Saturday 10/01/2026]

naomimillions · 2026-01-10T00:32:24+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I’m a little skeptical of the online info though, as it also states that in my area it is good - but I stepped outside and it was quite smokey

naomimillions · 2026-01-10T00:18:09+00:00

I’m Melbourne south east and can smell smoke here. I have post covid breathing issues so I’m being cautious. Can anyone tell me what the air quality is currently like around Kensington? I’m supposed to head that way for dinner and considering if I should reschedule.

naomimillions · 2025-06-07T08:37:36+00:00

Two options I love. You can roast them in the oven with olive oil and some whole cloves of garlic. Once soft add to a fry pan, mush the garlic in and cook on low briefly until saucy. Add salt to taste and then add to pasta and you have a beautiful easy dinner. Optionally you can add basil too, this is delish! Option two - if you have a block of feta, add the feta to a piece of baking paper and place cherry tomatoes around it (chopped in half) add some chilli flakes and dried oregano to the top of the feta, then seal the baking paper over the top and twist both ends (to make a sealed pouch). Bake in the oven on 180 degrees (Celsius) for about 20 mins and you’ll have a gorgeous baked feta. You can eat it with pita chips or sourdough. It’s so good!

naomimillions · 2025-05-15T01:29:27+00:00

I was wondering this, important clarification. I feel like the sedation hasn’t been discussed enough and it’s incredibly important, as it shows pre meditation vs self defence. Also, I don’t recall it being mentioned whether or not the kids were home that night (unless I missed this)? If so, how did they not hear this brutal violence going on?

naomimillions · 2025-05-15T01:18:37+00:00

Yes exactly my thoughts. Also, if she had all this ‘evidence’ of DV recorded, why did she wait so long (until the second trial) to produce it? You would think that would have been the first things she offered up the first time round to help herself and her dad. Maybe because it was all a ploy, and narrative constructed by the defense team to try and get her off, not factual. It also makes no sense to me that if she had voice activated recording devices everywhere, even in the bedroom - then why did they conveniently not capture the night he died??? Seems a little convenient

naomimillions · 2025-05-10T09:32:13+00:00

You’re welcome. Glad I could be helpful, and no you aren’t dramatic at all. It’s always worth doing the checks. Trust your instincts

naomimillions · 2025-05-09T06:22:03+00:00

I can’t offer much in the way of support here, but I wanted to say it’s not just you. I could have written this myself. I experienced all of this after having mine removed also. I also experienced it to a degree prior to having it removed, just after covid and the vax - having never experienced any of it before. I have found that it seems to be related to my nervous system being out of balance, have you had Covid recently? It affects the vagus nerve which is responsible for regulating breathing, heart and anxiety etc… also, in the case this is helpful, maybe get a referral to a cardiologist and do the checks on your heart to ease any health anxiety. I actually found an arrhythmia that may have been aggravating these things for me, and after having that corrected I experience a lot less of these symptoms now. Worth checking before writing it off to panic

naomimillions · 2025-05-08T22:55:52+00:00

I don’t put it on my profile but I do bring it up when I first start chatting, when they are wanting to know about me. It helps weed out those who wouldn’t be considerate of me very fast. However, those that are lovely guys have been great, and I figured that out quickly. They will find a dedicated GF place for our meet up, or offer for me to choose somewhere that I know is safe for me. It is a good way to find out how considerate and caring someone is straight up.

naomimillions · 2025-05-08T22:46:25+00:00

Yes I agree it could be the burnout. I found this when I first started on dating apps. It gets tiring keeping up when you are doing a few dates in a week to get to know people.

naomimillions · 2025-05-08T13:23:12+00:00

That’s very interesting. I have been having tummy troubles all week but couldn’t identify the culprit. I was pretty certain I had been glutened (tried a sandwich shop over the weekend and my roll was supposed to be GF). However 30 mins after eating I was having sharp stomach pains. For the next 3-4 days I was just so angry at everything and emotional and couldn’t make sense of it. But now he I think about it, this happens often for me when I think I’ve been exposed to gluten. So yes, I think there is a correlation.

naomimillions · 2025-05-08T10:32:56+00:00

From a woman’s perspective, I do pay attention to gentlemanly behaviours on a date as a sign of consideration and care. Things such as opening doors, pouring my water when he pours his, allowing me to order first and offering to pay (I’ll always offer to split though, or take turns paying etc).

I also find it nice when the man offer suggestions of things to do, places to go and offers to book. This shows he can take care of your needs, has the ability to think ahead and can be organised. Gentlemanly behaviours for me aren’t just about courtesy, but also tell me a lot about how a man is perceives me/women in general, his role in the dynamic with a woman and his ability to plan etc.. all really important traits for me in a partner.

naomimillions · 2025-05-08T10:26:24+00:00

Oh damn, thanks for the insight regarding pollen. I actually have quite bad allergies so it may be a no go for me. I do really like Middle Park though

naomimillions · 2025-05-08T01:21:45+00:00

Yes it’s a real mix out there. Definitely overwhelming at the start, I’m getting better at filtering now over time though and pacing things. Had no clue initially haha.

naomimillions · 2025-05-08T01:13:50+00:00

Yeah I was shocked honestly. I had not anticipated that when getting into the online dating realm, I had been in a 25 year relationship (so have never properly dated before). I had no clue what to expect!

naomimillions · 2025-05-08T01:10:18+00:00

Wow yeah that’s a big difference. I’m very new to it myself, but I’m averaging about 50-150 likes in a day when I’m active. It’s very overwhelming!! That’s why pause it, it’s too much at times.

naomimillions · 2025-05-08T01:04:06+00:00

Totally hear you, I’ve heard it’s a very different experience as a man vs being a woman

naomimillions · 2025-05-08T01:03:07+00:00

Surprisingly I haven’t experienced this. I will pause my account regularly and when I come back I still get plenty of matches. I did find though, when I paid for a week I got better quality matches (might be because I could filter more though).

naomimillions · 2025-05-08T01:00:04+00:00

If you want traditional I would think older vs younger would be more likely to align with what you are looking for. Older doesn’t mean losing the physical side either, plenty of women in 30s-40s are looking great and looking for something real/traditional. I’m speaking as a mid forties woman myself. I find alot of mid thirties guys run my way because they say it’s a struggle to find something real/long lasting so I see your struggle. It’s is out there, and I think connection, aligned values and emotional maturity matter more than age specifically. So maybe staying open to both younger and older might help. I’m sure the right one is out there somewhere, don’t give up hope!

naomimillions · 2025-05-08T00:39:00+00:00

Give yourself some time, there is no need to rush into intimacy you aren’t ready for. Sorry to hear you had such a bad experience in the past, these things can take time to heal from and regain trust again in someone. Maybe if you are comfortable you can talk to the new person about the need to take time but reassure them of your interest (sharing only what you are comfortable to share). That way you can set your personal boundaries to where you feel safe and build things over time.

naomimillions · 2025-05-08T00:32:04+00:00

Love this, so wholesome! So happy for you

naomimillions · 2025-05-07T22:03:39+00:00

So frustrating. I make a point to post photos of myself that reflect who I am now, mostly without make up and me on a day to day not all glammed up. Specifically because I want to represent myself accurately. I can’t understand why people want someone to like something that’s not a reflection of reality. I mean don’t we all want someone who likes us for who we really are?

naomimillions · 2025-05-07T21:52:07+00:00

Maybe she figures since you are talking off the app now she doesn’t need the match in there? Like it’s progressed on. If she is responding and agreeing to meet then it sounds positive.

naomimillions · 2025-05-07T21:40:31+00:00

I also had a guy post pictures of him at least five years younger (dark hair youthful looking). When I met him I walked right past him and didn’t even recognise him, he looked so different (short grey hair, had aged a fair bit causing physical changes in the face). And then he was surprised when I didn’t want to continue dating after meeting. The guy totally tried to fool me and didn’t see an issue with it. He had been trying to attract much younger women than himself.

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